2007-09-07 23:13:03 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You, Your wife and Your Gal.. that is 3 .. odd.. It will not balance... add one more person.. make it 4.. it will definitely balance..
2007-09-09 19:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by RAJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not such a think as balance in your case. It's called cheating. If you really did love your wife you wouldn't "feel" anything like love for the other girl. I'm a married male and though I'm not stranger to admiring beauty and brains of other girls, but that's just it: an admiration. You have to learn how to control your so called love emotions because ultimately all of the parties involved will end up hurt. And surprisingly you'd be hurt the most.
2007-09-08 07:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by czymarko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making a big mistake, you cannot love 2 people, if you really loved your wife you would not have looked else where. You are talking about balance, you cannot balance this, your wife will want you and the girl you love will want you, one of them will have a broken heart, i know, i have been through it.. Your girlfriend won't trust you, if your wife finds out she will not trust you, it will be hard for you.. it seems your wife doesn't know, that is why you are ok with your relationship, sooner or later she will find out, and when she does you life will turn upside down. It is all fun now, but it will become painfull, what will you do when your girlfriend starts to want you more, she wants to spend more time with you, and you can't, what are you going to do, things are not always rosey. You will be torn between two women, who to keep happy, if you have to keep one happy the other one will be unhappy and so on.. If your wife knows you so well, she will realise your behaviour, she will suspect you. I can only advise you.. my belief is you cannot please two women, and you will be lying to both of them and they don't deserve it. You should go back to your wife, and forget the girl you love, or you should make a decision with whom you want to be with, this isn't fair what you are doing. How would you like it if your wife was doing the same to you, or your girlfriend would do this to you, i am sure you wouldn't stand for it.. Think, this could be big trouble..
2007-09-08 06:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you love both, it means you love yourself not them. You are not sincere for anyone. Just think if the same situation will be with your wife then in this case can you accept your wife's boy friend. Don't disturb your family and be good husband and don't think to make balance, just think to avoid her (that girl) by requesting her that i am married and responsible and sincere for my wife, just like her. Choose your life partner, who can marry her later or just marry someone, because it's a last point for love and there is no way or happy ending point of this relationship.
God give you sincerity in your marriage relationship
2007-09-08 06:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by MEENA M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't manage the balance. You will have to make a choice and someone will get hurt. I will be you that is hurting also. You have to let one of them go. It is not fair to either of them. I should say your wife comes first. Which one is all for you and which one do you see yourself growing old with. You can't have both. I wish that was possible but it is not.
Don't leave the other girl hanging, she deserves to be happy to.
2007-09-08 06:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you are trying to balance between your wife and gf...I wish you should loose your balance and fell on to the ground for cheating your innocent wife....if you cannot stay and live with your wife then WHY the hell you want to get married? do you know what is marriage?...and if your wife or somebody from society catch you red hand ....how do you face them? how do you face your kids? have you ever thought about this? do you want to harm your and your wife s parents cause of your affair? cause of your selfishness? do you think getting into an affair out of wed lock is meant only for you?...can you imagine your wife on your shoes..? and when you know that your wife having an affair with other man...how do you digest it?....
Grow up man....and try to live with dignity and as a respected human...being...
I am sorry being harsh with you...and if you want...... take it....other wise........its up to you its..your life..
2007-09-09 06:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by 2bros 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gimme a break! You enjoy playing with 2 people's lives.
If you love your wife, why would you ever even get involved with another woman?
Your slime. Balance? Sick! Your poor wife.
Just remember....you are hurting both of these women you claim to love.
Don't be surprised if you end up all alone.
When they find out...and they will, unless they are in denial.
2007-09-08 06:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by laughinglady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot manage the balance. If you are in love with someone other than your wife, then you are no longer in love with you wife. You should call it quits in one of the relationships....if not for yourself, do it to save them pain and emotional problems in the future.
2007-09-08 06:24:39 · answer #8 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have friends who are girls and be married but you shoud not be in love with any other girl when you are married because you will get yourself into deep trouble which will cost you a lot of money, time, mental strain, pain and lots of other unpleasent things, so drop this idea before it kills you.
2007-09-08 06:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
balance????? are you a circus performer?????????? do you like a good sleep?????? you make me laugh. what if your wife posed the same question ??? and by the way you dont love yoR WIFE OR THERE WOULDNT BE AN ISSUE. IM A MALE , AND YOU have no f_cking idea what yoU will unleash when you do this shite ,and you will do it , like the other guy said ; shoot yourself!!
2007-09-08 06:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by marcus m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋