What would you do if you had been lied to by the one person you trusted and loved ............I still love her but she lied to me...and refuses to tell the truth even after she has been caught in a lie.......I'm so confused and hurt......should I forgive her or just forget her?????????
2007-09-07 22:51:01 · 14 answers · asked by Just try to touch my hat 2 in Social Science ➔ Anthropology
Only you can make that decision. You need to be 100 % sure first. Things arent always what they first seem.
2007-09-11 04:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone who has been lied to by the love of my life, I can tell you it isn't easy to forgive and forget. But you always have to weigh your life with and without them. One lie isn't that life altering. Are you 100% sure she is lying. If you are, why is she finding it so difficult to admit it. Is she afraid that you will be angry, and agressive with her?
If it is one lie, let her know that you will nottolerate any lies in your relationship. Then forgive her and forget it. Never bring it up again. If you love her and want to be with her, you will do this with a willing heart and move on. Don't get stuck on this one thing and ruin the relationship.
2007-09-07 23:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by ladyhawk8141 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in ur shoes last year exactly. I know how painful it be. I made the choice to forgive and move on. He still wont confess to the truth but I just decided to be the bigger person and let it go. ( or the stupid person?) Deffy has made it harder to trust again but thats the consenqence for the other person who choose to to be truthful makes the relationship alot more complicated! If happens again ( and if its a dishonest person u are bound to catch them again) u know there is some kind of pattern going on here thats not worth going thru again. EVERYONE LIES EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES unless you are like Jesus himself but what is important here.. is that they dont keep repeating them again and again. If u keep putting up with it over and over then u(we) are being foolish. And u have to be 100 percent sure u can truly let it go. Best wishes.
2007-09-11 10:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through a similar thing but of course the lie to me as far as we know is different to yours. So the lie with me was devistating and after she got caught out she denied there being anything wrong with what she had done.
Well all I can say is my life has been hell having to deal with these situations over and over again.
We have kids so I guess I gave her chance after chance because of the kids but if the werent any kids I would probably have put up with it once but not twice.
Anyway if she is not going to have remorse and take responsibility for her actions then it will only happen again and again because she sees no wrong doing.
2007-09-07 23:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sick feeling in your gut when you think about the lie.. or the guy.. or whatever she lied about will probably not go away any time soon.. As a matter of fact that uneasy feeling and doubt will probably be there for quite a while depending on the severity of the lie.
You have to ask yourself if your willing to deal with that and fight past it. Or if it's better to just move on.
Remember Ahab.. there are more fish in the sea.. No need to get killed over just one.
2007-09-07 23:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by trevino283 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what she lied about. If it was something trivial, forget it. If it was something major, like she cheated, was caught in the act, and won't admit it, dump her. You can do better. And don't listen to that @$$hole who said all women are liars. There are plenty of good women out there.
2007-09-08 05:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by magix151 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Submissive personalities tend to lie to more dominating ones as an attempt to escape the overwhelming circumstances...
2007-09-08 05:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm glad it was not looks like you got the wip out
up to you you want to deal and know she is a lier you accept it or you do not deal and you move on to better -you got to ask your self if she is a lier and you know it are you strong enough to deal or would you tire is she worth the accepting
your all ready hurt it will take time to get over and the trust is broken
2007-09-07 23:35:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lie is not life threatening,they fade with time.
Don`t dwell on it,the girl had a resone to do it.
Maybe you should trust her better and stop delving.
Forget it and get on with your relationship.
2007-09-07 23:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be understanding and try to talk it over with her. Maybe she has some problems if she resorts to lies.
2007-09-07 23:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by Analyst 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋