the guy: is in a distant place; still stays with his wife and kids he says; businessman; was caught talking and hiring whores before; promised to stop; girl caught him again, and then again; he changed for a little bit; has erectile problem at times; he claims he doesn't touch any of them just 'viewing'; girl knows he loves her and want to be with her and is building a future with her; but recently girl caught him emailing again; he says that's nothing, it's online and doesn't mean anything. this guy had hired other females in bed to be with the girl, to fulfill fantasies; behind the back of the girl he still contacts other girls despite giving him all he wished for.
the girl: devastated but willing to work it out; loves the guy so much and believes there's no one else for her but this guy and could never get along being with other men; very loyal, intelligent, sweet and loving to the guy. willing to do anything for the guy, but sometimes feels hope just slips away.
2007-09-07 22:06:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the issue of pregnancy is there. should girl allow that to happen? guy is sincere in staying with the girl for life. but who knows?
2007-09-07 22:07:08 · update #1
No man who keeps cheating is ready to commit. He is not offering this when he's all too willing to go looking elsewhere, over and over again. Quite apart from the issue of fidelity is the issue of safety. If he's constantly unfaithful the possibility of a sexually transmitted disease is real.
And if he has a wife and kids, what does the girl really expect from him? He is a cheat and she is the other woman. The girl should look at all the signs of his being unable/unwilling to be faithful and kick this RAT to the curb, if not for her own self-respect, then for her own health.
2007-09-07 22:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Staying with her and all his other girls too. That's not a relationship that's a benefit package for him and a whole bunch of hurt and pummeling to her self-esteem. Don't dare to bring a child into this relationship unless you want to damage them too. If she's already pregnant the she needs to get out for the sake of herself and her child. He's giving her all the signs that this is not an exclusive relationship for him. Even if he's not cheating (yeah right) he is still with other women who are exciting him instead of with his wife. Get help because ya'll needed help a long time ago!!!!
2007-09-07 22:24:44 · answer #2 · answered by big bopper 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What kind of future is he "building" with her if can't even build a proper erection for her? Get real! This girl is NOT as intelligent as she claims/ He has complete disregard for her feelings, for her efforts, and for her health !! He has NO respect for this girl whatsoever. I would strongly suggest her to get her brains straight and get the AIDS blood-test IMMEDIATELY. This is not a joking manner. AIDS, genital herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia are only few of the very likely "presents" she is going to receive from him, sooner or later.
Having a child with that idiot? Are you totally out of your mind? You are playing with fire. If he contracts you the AIDS, you might have no symptoms of it for up to 10 years! This means you can live with AIDS for a very long time without even knowing it. You absolutely have to get the blood-tests done for every STD you can possibly think of. And make him pay for these blood-tests! You absolutely have to protect yourself because you will end up getting a very serious disease, sooner or later, if you stay with him. What should come first, he or your own health??? Think about it. Because he does NOT care about your welll-being whatsoever.
2007-09-08 00:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by OC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy is a lost cause he will not change. She shouldn't set her hopes in a good future with a guy like that. He says and promises he'll change and as you say it never lasts. He tends to go back on his word and do as previously.
2007-09-07 22:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by Red Rose 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know right now I cant decide if not enough information is good or to much is good.
Here's the thing , the girl need's to kick his rear to the curb and the guy need's to go get checked for STD's.
Time for her to quit encouraging his fantasy world he has major issues.
2007-09-07 22:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow you idiot.. once a cheater always a cheater... he is cheatin on his wife with you... he is hiring whores... and chattin up chix on the net... do u want a slap now or later you no this isnt right or you wouldnt b on here asking.... dont hav a child with him as he isnt a decent guy.... he is useing you and will never leave him wife.... you need to move on there is a great guy out there just waiting around the corner for you.... you just need to open your eyes a lil
2007-09-07 22:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by angelz@princess265 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋