How do you cope with betrayal?

Question

How, my dear friends in the LGBT section, do you deal with learning that someone you loved and trusted (not as a lover) has betrayed you?

I'm kind of in vent mode now, I won't bore you with the details, but I'm feeling pretty destructive right now.

Well, let's just say this person was a very close friend that I thought I could always trust and depend on. We lived in the same house for over three years, too, but I have a feeling he'll be leaving pretty soon.

If it wasn't for his physical injuries, he'd be gone, now.

Answer 1

This will sound silly, but, I bake. And stir fry.

The act of measuring, cutting, kneading doughs, and working with rolling pins....and also using high-heat cooking and rapid movement over a cook top always helps me work out physical reactions to stresses, like betrayal.

These things also give me time to think through my feelings, and work out exactly, the hows, whens, and whys of the situation.

This allows me to be fair and yet, righteously angry with that person who betrayed me, while giving me results like pies, which I can then give to them, leaving them wondering if they're about to be poisoned......All the while, I am just fixing them something tasty that I vindictively hope will make them fat.....

Answer 2

It depends really on what the betrayal is? I mean your question is somewhat vague in content. I mean how did they betray you if they are not your lover? You should have bored us with details to provide you with an answer. And feeling destructive only hurts you, it doesn't hurt them. So don't let these feelings eat you up. They will end up making you sick. Take a deep breath and try to gain some clarity, for yourself.

Answer 3

Yeah I've been betrayed so bad before. I hated that person, but I told myself that person is not worth my time. The worse thing is when they think they didn't do anything wrong. It's best not to get revenge because I know karma will come back and get them.

If you feel angry, take yourself anger out by punching a pillow or something to make you feel better.

Answer 4

i dont really know what happened between you guys, but just i think you should just let him go. forgive him, but you need to move on. hes not worth your time. i had a friend betray me a while ago and i learned that you have to accept that not everyone is a decent person. you offered your friendship and he threw it away. im so sorry. it hurts losing a friend. i would know, but its situations like this that make us stronger and overall better people.

Answer 5

you can´t do much about, being resented will only poison you perception you have of other people. politicians get a lot of that , but they´re pretty good at handling betrayal from close people. learn from the experience. talking to your mother is the only thing i would advise. she´ll give a different perspective when it come to friends or at least she´ll listen to you

Answer 6

There should always be a first attempt to forgive and work things out, but if they fail to give you that option then there is no other choice but to turn your back on them. Don't worry, though. There's no need to take vengeance yourself as that usually happens in due course.

Answer 7

Yes I know how you feel. I have been betrayed by many people.

What you can do, is find something to do that you like to do. Keep yourself occupied so your mind can stay focus on what you're doing.

Hope you feel better.
*cheers.

Answer 8

Betrayal is not love,nor friendship,try to hold back the winds of destruction. Myself I would try to move on fast.

Answer 9

Scratch one from the Christmas card list.

Answer 10

If you're betrayed, get revenge. It is wrong, but it's a start