my bff elain told me last week that she was mentally retarded when i didnt believe her she showed me her docters results and now when ever i even look at her i cant help but feel a bit wierded out. how do i overcome this?
2007-09-07 16:57:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You said it yourself, you didn't even believe her. I would be shocked too, but that shouldn't change your friendship. If it does, then I think you have more "issues" than her. There are many different types of mental retardation; some way more severe than others. It could be that she is just a little slow in some areas. She is your friend and it sounds like she has been for a while, so that should not affect your friendship, and you shouldn't treat her any differently. The only thing I would think about, is sometimes people say "I can't believe blah blah blah did that. She is so retarded." I have a severly handicapped sister and that offends me, so it might hurt her feelings.
2007-09-07 17:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by CoolChick91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"my best friends mental!" Now, really, what on earth does that mean? She's your best friend? Do you know her? Do you enjoy her company? Is she a good friend to you? Did you value this friendship before she showed you a "doctors results"? (BTW: What kind of doctor gives 'result' that say someone is mentally retarded? Do you even know what you are talking about?) Did you think she was lacking in the ability to be your friend or share interests with you?
If she was a person you could be friends with before she showed you a medical report, then how on earth is it different now? What if she had showed you a report that said she had cancer? or hepatitis? What kind of a friend are you anyway that your friend's medical report makes you feel "wierded out". I don't see what you have to overcome except maybe being superficial in your values and your friendships.
Are you in school? Does she go to school with you? Does she pass her classes? I think it's highly unlikely that your friend seemed to you to be normal if she is in fact mentally retarded.
So my advice to you is: be real. Be real to yourself. Be real to your friends.
Being is more important than seeming.
2007-09-08 00:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really what does it matter? Your friend hasnt changed. So neither should you. She is still the same as she was to you before and it would be really judgemental of you to stop liking her just because you found this out.
Honestly, if you really feel that this changes anything in anyway maybe you dont deserve to have her as a friend. Hopefully she wouldnt do the same to you
2007-09-08 00:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by hussyinterrupted 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be kinda awkward at first, but she is still the same person. Just treat her like you would treat everybody else, and be there for her if she is having trouble learning. If you couldn't tell she must not be that mentally retarded either. No worries! :)
2007-09-08 00:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouold not feel any different toward her. You said she was your best friend so why do you want to feel different toward her now. Does she act different now or what. She is the same person and still needs your friendship. Just because the doctor put it in writiing does not mean you have to feel different toward her. She is still the same person you became friends with in the beginning.
2007-09-08 00:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't she still the same person as she was before she told you. Just keep reminding yourself of that.
2007-09-08 00:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by Death Girl Am 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been friends? youve never noticed before, so how does her being honest change anything? dont be wierded out. she needs you. you just have to spend more time with her.
2007-09-08 00:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by WishIHadLighterSkin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's your best friend and she's still the same as before so you shouldn't even care what she is
2007-09-08 00:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Yuki Ookami 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
treat her like when you diddnt know
2007-09-08 00:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
than your not her bff at all
2007-09-08 00:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋