This man and I in love for 4 years. We separated because I moved to different states. We kept in touch as friends; however, we do hope to get back together one day.
Recently, he wrote two poems about move on for our future. I asked him for the truth, but he did not want to tell me. (I asked him 4 times, but he ignored me)
I fed up and want us to move on (if he no longer love me). I removed him from my friendlist. Yesterday, I looked at his myspace pages, he is still posting all the poems he wrote for me. His status is also still "in a relationship".
I miss him so much, therefore, I added him as a friend again. He did not accept my friend request.
Why can he tell me the truth? Does he still love me?
Thank you so much for your kindness.
2007-09-07 16:50:50 · 13 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe the pain is too much for him to talk about hence the use poetry to express himself. Does he love you? I can't be sure but generally people don't write loving poetry for people they don't love. Why did you have to move away? After 4 years I think it would be tough if my lover moved away! Long distance relationships are quite tough to sustain and I am not sure if you really want to be just "friends". If you both still love each other you need to be open about it and decide what your options are. Other than that you need to move on, for the sake of both of you.
2007-09-07 16:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Biz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you if he still loves you.
But it sounds as if he is upset and misses you a LOT. And he is having a hard time letting go.
It doesn't sound like he WANTS to be freinds, its sounds like he is settling for friends.
Its not what he wants, but if its all he can get at the moment, he is taking it.
I dont mean this to be a beef ageinst you, but if an ex I was still hung up on deleted me off their freindslist, I would be upset about it and not accept them back.
Reply that it was a accident, and that you didn't mean to and that your sorry if it hurt his feelings.
I am hangning out at my guy freinds house right now, and for a guys bit of advice.
They all say, it sounds like he is really missing you and just doesn't know what to do with himself.
I hope I helped, at least a little
2007-09-08 00:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he does he's just hurt. he was hoping you would somehow be together. staying in touch w/ him only made the problem for him tougher. he might not have told you this just kept it to himself. have you told him how you realy feel? i'm sure if you both care about each other you can find a way to work this out (like one of you move closer to the other). a guy does not write a poem about his feelings unless he cares, and in this case cares so much that he is hurt.
2007-09-08 00:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this situation before. Here is what I can honestly say (now that it's behind me). I think he is afraid to hurt your feelings. He won't answer you because he doesn't want you to think bad about him. I had that same problem where I didn't want to be the one to say no. It was easier for me to let them figure it out on their own. Does he still love you? If he loved you before, I am sure he still does. It just might not be enough now.
2007-09-08 00:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by eric772001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His refusal to honor your question tells me he's already moved on - without you. He may have had full intentions of getting with you some day but perhaps he meant 'only if he doesn't find someone better.' You never know what's in someone's heart or mind and if they refuse to tell you, the answer is in their silence.
2007-09-08 00:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this situation is just move on. You're not doing yourself any favors by hanging on to him. You may love him, and he may love you, but it's rarely ever enough. It sounds to me that his way of working through it and moving on is writing poetry. I'm sorry this had to happen to you, but it's time to start letting go.
2007-09-07 23:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Becca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One way to know for sure is totally ignor him for a few weeks and if he try after 3 or 4 months to get you then he may be for real. Just to the silent treatment. find out one way or another.
2007-09-07 23:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only he can say of he loves you or not, but it is obvious, he does not have enough to drop all that he has, and leave it all behind to be where you are. You can still have love for each other, but not be "in" love with each other. And, as he had rejected your attempts to reconnect, it is very clear that he does not wish to have contact with you any longer. Cut your losses short, and allow your heart to mend. Move on in your life, do not stay stuck in what was, you can't make him feel the way he used to, and you can't make him want to communicate with you. I am sorry for your loss, but you have to move on with your life, without him.
2007-09-08 00:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You need to just tell him straight. I don't know if there is anyway you can contact him but just try once more. Tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels. Tell him that if you don't find out (insert time deadline here) that you have to move on. You don't want to wait around...what if he isn't the one? But you need to know that you at least tried. So go for the goal and try one more time!!!
2007-09-07 23:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by allaboutcars19 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that he does still love u he's just in denial
he knows that he loves u and it hurts him that he can't be with u
so he's trying to move on .. but can't
talk to him more tell him how u feel and dont stop tryin to squeeze the truth outta him
2007-09-07 23:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by Grimm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋