I have to ask for a hug or kiss and we have only had sex like 15 times within the past two years.If I ask him what's going wrong he'll say he watching TV or playing Xbox . The only time he wants to show affection is around our famiIies I have never been rejected by a man EVER !!!! I am seriously considering ending this joke of a marriage. I would rather be alone than to be unhappy.
2007-09-07 16:36:13 · 24 answers · asked by D J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"No one stays in love by chance, it is by WORK. And no one falls out of love by chance, it is by CHOICE."
It sounds like he has some issues he may be dealing with. It will be hard I'm sure to get him into counseling with you, but you have to try. Don't throw it in so easily. I know its frustrating but if you want it to work and you give it your best, it can. Sometimes people give up to quickly. Give it your best, talk openly and honest with him about the problem and the two of you come up with a solution to try and work it out. Goodluck.
2007-09-07 17:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm jealous, man. That sounded like some greaaat sex!!!!!!!!! Yes!!!!!!!!!! I was genuinely happy for you.. haha. Anyways, sounds like you got a bit too caught up in the process. The point is, she's still married. You should have waited until she dealt with her issues first before getting so emotionally attached. Personally, I would have went into that situation hoping for the best but expecting the worst. You had some good times, but I think it's time to move on, or at least back off until she gets a divorce and has some real time to dedicate to you (and only you). Give her space and see what happens from there. Stop pursuing her, she'll come back to you if that's what she wants. If it's not.. then forget it. All the best.
2016-04-03 10:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can fully understand where you're coming from. I've been married for over a year and things seem to be going down hill. All he do is play is PlayStation and watch ESPN....I feel like I have to be one of his games or play a sport to get some attention.....I say the same thing to myself....Then I start to wonder why he married me....We don't sleep in separate beds, but we do go to bed at different times...I stay up late on the computer chatting on line with my friends. If your problem just started..... just give it some time. Start by trying to communicate with him... Go by some games that might be a 2 player game....Or get interested in the same shows he likes to watch....This might get his attention....Never know what might happen if u try.............
2007-09-07 16:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is just s symptom of something much deeper. You need to find a way to open the door to the answers otherwise you're dead in the water.
Divorce is about as good an answer as having a leg removed when your tooth aches. Do you remember anything about the vows you took? Too many people throw it all away just because they don't feel like putting in the effort to save their marriage.
Grow the heck up and find the solution to this TOGETHER. There are no problems in this world, only solutions.
2007-09-07 16:47:58 · answer #4 · answered by wentfishing2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to tell you, but you are right. I don't think you guys have much of a marriage. The first three years are supposed to be very romantic and cuddling. I think he lost whatever he used to feel for you. I don't think I would choose an xbox game over having sex. There is something going on with him, and you need to find out what it is.
2007-09-07 16:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girll have you tried talking to him maybe theres something deeper going on here that hes embarrased to talk about and is just avoiding because its easier for him. Make sure you let him know that he can totally trust you and youre ready for anything he has to say and marriage is about give and take. the real challenge is when the honeymoon is over and you guys have issues like this one to work out and you CAN do it. seek a marriage counselor for help if its resolved before you make any kind of divorce/separation decisions.
2007-09-07 17:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Ebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you made a mistake when you married him. If you do NOT have children together, let him know you think he may have a sexual problem and that if he does not take care of it by __ date, then you are filing for divorce. Then make sure you do not make the same mistake again. Good luck!
2007-09-07 17:20:24 · answer #7 · answered by Thinkaboutit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe a guy has health problems. if his willy doesn't work due to low testosterone level he will not show u any affection and will not be interested in sex. not with u nor with pamela anderson. so it is not u, it is his health problem. maybe. maybe u should talk with him and ask honestly what's going on. but please don't be histerical if u know the truth. cos it might hurt. maybe he is afraind of u getting histerical, that's why he prefers to play x box to talking to u
2007-09-07 16:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by 111 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...you're not even in the same bed anymore?
I would lay it on the line for him if I were you. Tell him that the marriage needs to be a marriage, or it's over. Then go from there.
2007-09-07 16:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
End your married relationship if you can not patch up mutually. Why you need a husband to stay away with him and no sex activity is shared? sex is the number one obligation to each other, as husband to wife and wife to husband vice versa. We need it biologically normal.
2007-09-08 01:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋