2007-09-07 16:13:09 · 31 answers · asked by sheli s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
To all of the people who have felt the need to judge, I hope your teenager has TRIPLETS!!! Grow up!! I mean, lecturing her about abstinence isn't helping anyone. Hello!? She's already pregnant!! Bet it feels really great to anonymously treat a frightened girl like $hit in her time of need! Sounds like the KKK!
I'm proud of you for posting this and I'm certain that there are a lot of girls out there who don't know how to tell their mothers that they are pregnant. Like other people have said, you really need to bite the bullet. It won't be easy. Just know, this isn't the end of the world, and life will go on. While I know this is not comforting, it's the best I can do.
Best of luck!
2007-09-07 17:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by steinwayboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with some of the people above -- you should be scared.
Which is precisely why you need to speak to your mom as soon as you can.
She'll freak. That's what moms do. She may say things that make you feel like she hates you (she doesn't), like she's disappointed in you (which very well may be the case), or may make the situation all about herself and her own feelings (which it's not).
If she says those things, take a deep breath, and don't get in her face about it -- hey, you danced, now you gotta pay the band, right? I'm not trying to be an evil b*tch, but if your mom has a poor initial reaction to the news, suck it up; it's one of the consequences of your choice to be sexually active at 15 years old.
That being said, after she freaks out, she may take a deep breath of her own, and be very supportive of you. You may find the best friend you ever had in your mom at this point in your life. I honestly hope that is the scenario that happens for you.
What you need to do is be direct, honest, and ask for her help (you're gonna need it, whether you decide to keep the baby, abort the pregnancy, or choose adoption). Ask her if you can talk to her, and tell her that you're pregnant and frightened. Tell her who the father is. Tell her how far along you are and when you are due (I assume you've had this pregnancy confirmed by a physician -- if you haven't, do that first!). Wait for her reaction.
I really hope this works out for you. My own opinion is, though, that after this situation, you tread through the rest of your sexual life being very, very careful. It is gut-wrenching to "learn a lesson" this way, but please take from this experience all the wisdom you can, whether you keep the baby and love it like mad, or terminate the pregnancy/put the baby up for adoption and try to carry on with life as before.
Good luck, kiddo -- you're gonna need it.
2007-09-07 16:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by jeffs_wife_ali _&_adams_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your scared you have alot of heavy things to think about right now. But the only person in your life that will probably be on your side and be able to help you through all of them is your mother. I am sure she will be a little angry at first from the initial shock of it all. See one day you will see that the only thing parents want is for their child to have a better life than they had. She will know what the future holds for you and that is what is so tough. But together you can get through this. She will be able to give you advise others won't. Your friends will say they will help but she will stick by your side thick or thin. She loves you unconditionally I am sure. So what you have to do now is woman up because even though you are really still a child you if you decide to keep that baby are about to become a woman real quick and its time to woman up and tell your mother about this err in judgement that you made. Because one day it might be your child coming to you. Good luck to you and your family and the baby.
2007-09-07 16:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Darkchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I am so sorry that you have to go through this right now. But, I think you are awesome for making the choice to be honest and up front with your mother. That is VERY mature of you. Some girls would just be too scared and try to hide it for as long as possible. What is your relationship with your mom like? I would ask your mom to come into your room and sit on the bed. Tell her that you love her, and you want to have a good relationship with her. Tell her that because you want to have a good relationship with her, you have to tell her something and you are very scared to do it. You can either tell her in person, or write a letter and have her read it in front of you.
If you have a mentor in your life (teacher, youth pastor, another adult woman friend, etc.), you may even want to tell that person and then tell your mom together. Please let us know what happens! I will be praying for you.
2007-09-07 16:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn_Rains 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is tell her. She'll probably rant and rave and be upset, but she's your mom and she'll love you no matter what.
At this point, there's not much you can do because you're already pregnant. You need to see a doctor right away and discuss with a counselor all of your options so that you can make an informed decision.
2007-09-07 16:24:13 · answer #5 · answered by usmcbrat0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a very scary time - but know, that whatever actions she may show...she still loves you! My sister went through this same thing when she was a teenager. It's not easy but the joys of being a Mother and watching her child grow has been priceless!
There are other options - remember, there are women and men out there that can't have children (or that have a very hard time) and they may be blessed to raise your child.
I am assuming that you have taken a home pregnancy test or been to a Dr to confirm you are pregnant?
If you need a shoulder, email me. Best Wishes!
2007-09-07 16:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by bessiedarlin 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hello there, i have something to tell you about your pregnancy
tell your mother about that in an serious way never joke around tell them your pregnant!For me abortion is a no it's almost like killing your 1st own child, have the guts girl, for me your already a mature lady, i may not know you but i think it will be better for your parents guidance and talk to your partner's parents after talking to your parents.
SO GOOD LUCK with your own descision.And also your a strong person i know you could do it.
2007-09-07 16:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lan145 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T BE SCARED I'M ACTUALLY 15 AND I HAD A BABY AT 14. I TOLD MY MOM OVER THE PHONE. FIRST SHE SAID SHE HAD TO SIT DOWN AND CALL ME BACK. SHE CALLED BACK AND SHE ACTED HAPPY. I'M NOT SAYING YOUR MOM WOULD ACT THE SAME BUT YOU SHOULD GIVE IT A TRY. SOMETIMES IT WORKS TO SAY SOMETHING WORST THAN TO BRING IT UP SO IT WONT SOUND AS BAD. SOMETIMES PARENTS TELL YOU WHAT THEY WOULD DO IF YOU GOT PREGNANT BUT THEY SAY THOSE THINGS TO SCARE YOU. CALM DOWN AND THINK WHAT WOULD BE THE BEST APPROACH. EVENTUALLY SHE WILL FIND OUT. I DON'T KNOW YOUR SITUATION BUT I PLANNED MY PREGNANCY AND MY MOM HAD HER FIRST BABY AT 16. SO JUST TELL YOUR MOM YOU LOVE HER AND YOU DON'T MEAN TO DO THINGS TO MAKE HER MAD BUT THINGS HAPPEN FOR A REASON AND YOU GUYS WILL GET THROUGH IT. DO IT SOON BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE DOES BECAUSE THAT MAKES IT SEEM BETTER AND LET YOUR MOM KNOW THAT YOU WILL BE RESPONSIBLE AND YOU ARE GOING TO BE THE PARENT YOUR SUPOSE TO BE AGE I'SNT NOTHING BUT A NUMBER. MATUREITY MATTRES. ITS GOOD TO HAVE A BOND WITH YOUR MOM BECAUSE MY MOM DIED WHILE I WAS 5 MONTHS PREGNANT SO JUST APPRECIATE IT AND TELL HER THAT EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES AND A MOTHER IS SUPPOSE TO NEVER GIVE UP ON HER CHILD NO MATTER WHAT AND DONT WORRY ABOUT WHAT EVERYONE WILL THINK. ITS YOUR LIFE. STAY POSITIVE AND DONT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL IM STILL IN SCHOOL SO JUST TRY TO KEEP UP AND TRUST ME EVERYONE WILL TRY TO DISCOURGE YOU DONT LET THEM ITS NOT AS BAD AS THEY MAKE IT SEEM KEEP STAYING MOTIVATED TO DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO. DONT LET NO ONE GET IN THE WAY BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY EVERY THING YOU DO IS BASED ON YOUR DECISIONS. I KONW WE DONT KNOW EACH OTHER BUT IF YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO I CAN TALK TO YOU. I HOPE FOR THE BEST FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
2007-09-07 16:42:40 · answer #8 · answered by sexy_rican_106 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tough one at any age, 15 is rather young though. Just sit her down and explain the situation.. Usually a mother can tell if something is up, so she is going to figure it out sooner of later. Tell her you are scared and you want her help. A good parent will stick by you no matter what. Just dont keep it from her for too long, because that will just make it harder to tell her.
2007-09-07 16:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Miss MotoX 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her... Bring a friend or something with you, either way she's going to find out 9 months from now, why not tell her now, ofcourse she might be mad, I mean, she's gonna find out her baby girls having a baby of her own, but she will support you in the end, just tell her, then leave her be for awhile if she needs it, let her cool down.
My mom reacted surprisingly okay when I told her.
Good Luck.
2007-09-07 16:17:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋