My Fiancee just deployed three weeks ago and recently before he left he was using one of my cell phones......yesterday I recieved a voicemail and it was a female.....it came out to be his ex-girlfriend.........she said "hey I just wanted to say hi and see how u are doing in Iraq...i'm not sure if this is your phone but whoever this is Disregard this message...well i'll talk to u later".......so I called her all day she didn't pick up until later that evening she called back saying did someone call me?....I said yes this is my phone and don't call my man anymore...she said who? I don't know who your talking about....I told her that she was lying because I already knew that it was his ex...so then all of a sudden she was saying oh yeah I saw him three weeks ago and he came to see me...(his car is broke down and I have his keys so that was a lie) .....and then she said that she was intimate with him and that she's not trying to start anything...what should i believe?
2007-09-07 16:06:51 · 16 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why did you call HER?...focus on "your fiance". He needs your calls/letters/prayers. She only gave you the conversation you called her to get - whether true or not.
2007-09-07 16:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya R 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I don't see anything in her first message to warrant a call to her. Your man is in Iraq and going to have a difficult enough time without his lady over here calling him a cheat!!!!
So you call her, and jump on her to leave your man alone -- then wonder why she makes up some story about being intimate with him. She probably still has feelings for him (especially if they are still friends) and knows he is with you -- and she doesn't think you are good enough.
Believe what you want to believe, but be sure to talk to him (and don't accuse him of anything) before you even start thinking anything bad of him.
2007-09-07 16:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by mj69catz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would she say that but to cause you problems. She only said that to hurt you, which she had no rite to do. That was very unkind of her. No wonder she's an "ex". I wouldn't honestly believe her. I wld. however mention it to my b/f & give him the chance to "defend" himself or better yet, put your mind at ease. She did that ONLY for the purpose to hurt you. I know I myself couldn't keep it in, wld. have to bring it up at some point in time just to assure myself of the truth. You'll know if it is or not. Please don't let it eat away at you, get it out in the open & get things straightened out ASAP & it w/be over & done with. DO NOT call her again. Do NOT give her the satisfaction that it even bothered you. If you do, you're allowing her to control you which is exactly the purpose of the "information" she gave you. This is totally between you & him, she has nothing to do w/it. IF he says it's not true, believe him. You just don't casually "offer" this information unless you have a reason to hurt someone. That's what she's trying to do. Don't allow her to do it to you. Wait to hear from him, believe him. But, leave her alone or you're just enforcing it w/her that she got to you. Be better than her. You CAN do it...
2007-09-07 16:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unquestionably, the respond is interior of your self. Use your "instinct." i could say that this is conceivable. based on the message that she left on the cellular telephone, she's understand him. If she knows that he's been deployed, then he's had modern-day touch with him. you shouldn't have called her back to validate her relationship with him. Confront your boyfriend--no longer the different lady. in accordance along with her feedback, she is baiting you. Has he cheated on you earlier? It this the 1st time that a woman has called your cellular telephone or is this a habitual undertaking? in case you're helpful on your relationship and understand little question that he's truthful, then forgot the different lady. in the adventure that your instinct tells you in any different case, or if this habit is recurrent kick him to the size back. yet another suggestion: Ask an older guy or one in each of your male acquaintances. they're going to offer you their perspective from a guy's point of view.
2016-10-04 04:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have love detectives under private investigators. Ask them to do a quick search one way or the other. They can find out a lot with out leaving the office. If you do that and they say there is no evidence, then you know you have a winner for a husband to be.
2007-09-07 16:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would he be calling his ex in the first place, how else would she have that number. I would be talking to him. I wouldn't mess with talking to her. She may very well be trying to start things, but I would still wanna know why he was talking to her int he first place.
2007-09-07 16:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to him with what happened and see how he reacts and what he says. You're not married yet, so now is the time to find out the truth. Don't wait until after the "I do" to find out if he has been unfaithful. Then it's too late.
2007-09-07 18:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your man went to see her or talked to her before he left, other wise how would she know that he is in Iraq? You should talk to him and keep an eye on him when he is back. Good luck.
2007-09-07 16:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he had no other way of seeing her? You women are crazy and sneaky so she might just be starting ****. Then again people do cheat and I think a lot of times it is with an ex. What does your gut tell you?
2007-09-07 16:14:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was messing with you. Lucky her you fell right into her trap. Next time, don't give her the satisfaction of a call back.
2007-09-07 16:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋