There was a divorce. I'm disabled, I live in Kansas, my children are in Alaska, all through the years my ex has made life so difficult, They're grown up now, I'll be seeing them, I don't know what to do, what to say, I'm scared to death!
2007-09-07 15:50:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What to say? "Hi. I've missed you and I love you. No matter what happened in the past, I have never stopped loving you."
What to do? Whatever comes natural. There will be tears, hurt feelings, maybe some resentment. Be prepared.
Be sure to let them know no matter what their personal feelings are, you will always be there for them.
You can never get back lost time, but you can always begin anew.
Good luck.
2007-09-07 15:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by bux_martinfan 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and most important, let them know that you have never stopped loving them or thinking about them. You don't mention it, but why did they never come and see you? If your ex told lies about you or forbid them to see you, they will in time come to realize that what he did was wrong.
The bond between a mother and her children is very strong. Take comfort in knowing that they still love you. It may take some time for them to show it if your ex made them bitter, so don't overwhelm them with physical affection or emotions unless they are receptive. Be loving and kind and most of all honest in answering their questions.
2007-09-07 23:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wish I could be supportive here, but I haven't seen my mom in 13 years, and I can't think of anything she could say to me that we undo the pain of her having missed my first date, first prom, wedding, birth of first child - you get the idea. Having children myself, I can't fathom how any parent could let that many years pass without seeing their children. So you had some roadblocks to get around - they were your CHILDREN. What WERE you doing with your life all this time?
What right do you have to interrupt them now? Do they WANT to see you, or are you doing this for yourself?
2007-09-07 23:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Maybe if you have something from when they were little, something to show them that you have been thinking about them all these years... As a child whose hasn't seen a parent, that is what I would want. I hope this helps - good luck!
2007-09-07 22:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by zonkflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't force yourself on them. You're nervous, and they probably are too. You have to be relaxed and just get to know them. Let them come to you- and be real with them. None of that fluff and stuff act.
2007-09-07 22:57:19 · answer #5 · answered by Catie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them the truth about things. I'm sure they'll ask, so be honest. Good luck.
2007-09-07 22:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say what's in your heart when u finally see them again,I'm sure their gonna have questions,but just answer them honestly & I'm sure everything will b fine;good luck!
2007-09-07 22:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids , even grown up ones will want to know who they are , and if they dont now , then down the track maybe, be yourself , dont justify your relationship , just let them know you exist for now , if they need or want more , then they need to take that step.
2007-09-07 23:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by DSV 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say hello and give them a hug. Tell them that you love them and have missed them. Ask them about their lives.
2007-09-08 01:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by missmuffin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wayne, just relax and be yourself. Don't try to impress them by doing stuff you usually don't. If you be yourself you are more relaxed and so will they be. Best of luck.
2007-09-07 22:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by Selvaggio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋