what do i do i am married and i love women?

Question

what do i do i am married and i love women please help

Answer 1

ask your husband if he would like a treesome with onther female. If he says yes ( he gets what he wants) and so do you? Its all good

Answer 2

Ew...I'm not sure how long you've been married, but I'm hoping you LOVE your wife VERY MUCH! If so...you really need to think long and hard about the ramifications of "loving" other women! There are a great many problems with this!

I'm not judging you, nor would I at all by any means...I have no right, room or business to do that! So please don't think I'm doing that as I write this. Nor am I being biased because I am a woman writing you. That is not the case at all. I'm just giving you some hard facts that I hope you will think about before you make any decisions that will affect your marriage.

Alrighty...this is difficult, so bear with me here...I'm really a caring person or I wouldn't be on here writing to anyone...I don't do this for kicks, I do this because I care about people and how things affect their lives, so here goes...

You obviously felt something (I hope you did ;) ) when you married your wife or you wouldn't have married her in the first place. If you have a good relationship with your wife, this is an even bigger plus. Do you go places? Communicate well? Is she an attractive woman to you (obviously something attracted the two of you together at one time)? Are there children involved?

Now on to other women...it is OK to be attracted and have "fantasies" about other women...perhaps this is what you call "love"...looking (as long as this is not causing fights with you and your wife or causing other women to try to come on to you by asking you out), wishing in your mind, etc., can be normal and healthy, and if your wife is into it (porn) it can also be a healthy sexual part of your relationship.

However, CHEATING IS NEVER OK! I'm not yelling at you...I'm not chastising you...I'm not belittling you...I'm letting you know, in an intelligent, adult, responsible, respectable manner that this is not the answer, solution, or anything of what you would ever want or need for your marriage!

Cheating, by "loving" other women can cause severe pain, divorce, distrust, diseases, unwanted pregnancies, children to be raised by divorced and unhappy parents, domestic violence, financial problems, and sometimes even prison sentences and deaths!

Now, some of those instances are extremes, but believe me, they happen due to the pain and shock of cheating due to spouses finding "love" outside of marriage. I'm not saying that you're going to go out and cheat on your wife, however, "loving" women too much may lead to these instances and I would not want to see you end up "loving" someone and ending up a statistic such as one of those because of a careless encounter. Many spouses have ended up thinking they can handle what they get themselves into and end up in a very BAD situation such as what I've listed because betrayal and jealousy can be a very powerful emotion when you really love your husband! I would not want to see this happen to you, your wife, a woman you end up "loving", or anyone else...it's happened way too many times as it is!

What I suggest you do, if you are unable to discuss this reasonably with your wife (ya never know, I've discussed many things with my b/f that I never thought possible and it's strengthened our relationship...but if you can't), is talk with a clergyman, psychologist, doctor, or other person of trust that can help you...there are groups that help people with sex addictions (although I don't know if you have an addiction to sex...you haven't provided enough info, but I'm thinking you might by saying you "love" women).

You do however need some kind of help.

And, if it is this marriage that you are unhappy with, you need to either get counseling to work it out and stay, or divorce.

But, even if you do not stay in this marriage, it still sounds like you need some type of counseling for future relationships so that you can have a lasting relationship and not continue self-destructing behavior.

I know this was long, but I hope you can take some of this advise and put it to good use prior to something negative happening in your life.

Good luck to you in your life and future and I hope you resolve this issue positively!

Take care!!!!
Jody :)

Answer 3

Well, are you a Man Or woman? You did not say. Either way, you did say you were married, so you need to keep your mind on your Mate! Anything else you have in mind, would be adultry. An abomination to God.

Answer 4

Get a divorce.... after she takes you to the cleaners then you may not love women so much anymore.

Answer 5

Are you a woman or man? If you are a woman, you better figure out a way to tell your hubby. Do not lead him on any longer, it only makes it worse. If you are a man, that's good, just keep your penis in your pants and it'll be o.k.

Answer 6

You better hope and pray that your wife doesn't love men the way you love women.

Answer 7

Are you a man or a woman?
If you're a man, then I guess you're lucky-- there's a woman living in your house!
If you're a woman, get divorced and pursue a relationship with someone you're really attracted to.

Answer 8

Your a woman ......you have 6 kids, your married and you love women? WOW!!....that is really bad!........grow up and be present in your life.......take charge and deal with it!!

Answer 9

you shouldn't had gotten married, or simply get a divorce so can go ahead and f* c k around guilty free and you won't give her a decease. =0)

Answer 10

You're asking us? Wrong, you are a man and that is what men do, you can't change it, it's just the way it is, and your wife has to accept that, because she must understand that you are a man.