I am 22 years old woman. I have been in love with his man for 4 years, but we never have sex and I am still a virgin.
Last year, we separated and kept in touch as friends. We actually hope to get back together one day. Recently, he decided to move on by giving me some hints. He does not even want to tell me the truth. When I asked him for the truth, he ignored me.
My heart is broken. I thought he is my true love. I have never dated any other guys.
I want to think that he is giving up because he does not wait for me anymore. I want to be a virgin bride. What should I do?. Thank you so much for your kindness.
2007-09-07 14:43:15 · 19 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My heart goes out to you. I was heartbroken two times in this life and managed to stay alive for this long. It hurts a lot now so find a quiet beautiful place and let it all out. It is often difficult... waiting for an email, a phone call, them showing up at your house. You want them to miss you and to run back to you. There is very little chance that this will happen. Each day, you expect less and less and eventually, you will move on. Time heals all wounds. I didn't think that was true but now that is what keeps me ticking.
Now, to get your mind out of this thought. Keep telling yourself that you're a beautiful soul. Find something you like to do, the more activities the better. If you like to jog, go ahead and jog three times a day. If you like to play a musical instrument, find one you like and start practicing, lots of online activies and help. Don't sit in one location and wait because that will prolong the pain. Now if you want good hearted jokes, stories of inspirations, send me a message and I'll send you my whole archive :-)
Take care of yourself. You're one glowing soul!
2007-09-07 15:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nebby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first love never goes away. I know this because it has been over 20 years since my first love and I broke up and I still have a place in my heart for him and think of him often, even tho I'm happily married. Sometimes it is best to remain friends, especially at the point you are at in the relationship. Don't try to lie to yourself or each other. It is not fair to either of you. If the relationship is failing, you will need to accept it and try to move on. There is a bright spot of hope however. I am a firm believer that if things are meant to be, no matter how much time has passed, they will come together again. That being said, don't pine your life away waiting. There are other men out there who will treat you just as respectful has he did. If he wants you to move on, the respect his wishes and do so. Keep your love for him in your heart, but don't let it rule your life or you will never move ahead and you will stay locked in the past forever (I know this). Healing takes time so I will not tell you to buck up and cheer up. There is no quick fix for a broken heart, altho I wish there was, especially for you right now. If you need to cry...then cry. Trying to be strong will only work for so long, but you will eventually break down, so make sure you feel your grief, experience and let it pass. Tell him you are ready to let go, and then tell your heart and your head the same. If it becomes too difficult to be friends, then you will have to let him go completely. And you never know. This may be something that wakes him up to say that he truly misses and needs you. There is an old saying that goes: If you love something set it free. If it comes back it is yours. If it doesn't, it never was. I've always believed that saying to be true. Sometimes space is all a relationship needs to start to rekindle. Good luck honey. I hope you can move on and place the love way back in a special place in your heart, but far enough back that it does not interfere with your future. God bless you as well.
2016-04-03 09:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a firm believer in the old wise saying..."if you love something set it free...if it returns to you it's yours...if it doesn't then it was never yours to begin with" Stay strong girlie...if he left you aren't you glad you didn't give it up? Your true love will appreciate how strong of a woman you are for waiting for him...I can't think of anything more beautiful then a girl saving her virginity for her husband...her TRUE love. How special is that gift! Oh sweetheart...I know it hurts and you probably think about it all the time but like they say time heals all wounds...the right guy will come along and respect your choice to save yourself. Any guy who can't isn't worth your tears! Hope you feel better...go eat some ice cream and watch a good movie!
2007-09-07 14:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by tookoolfool 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened to you. It will take some time if being a virgin brie is important to you the he should respect that and propose if he really loves you. Most guys will not agree with me but I respect ur choice and the right person for you will as well. Btw not sure if this helps but i'm 31 and single and have had my heart broke and ben able to move on as u will. feel free to contact
2007-09-07 14:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww...im sososososo sorry! Ive never had a bf before, so i dont know what its like to be in love. But you have to keep your chin up because even though he wants to move on, you can still be your friend. Try making him jealous or trick him into asking him why he wont say anything. If none of those strategies work, then you have no other choice but to move on. But dont worry, Im sure you 2 will remain good friends!
2007-09-07 14:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by cmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just needs some time. Wait for awhile and see what happens. If he doesn't come around, then its time for you to move on also. I've had my heart broken a few times, and believe me, you get over it. It seems impossible right now, but you will find someone. Good luck and try to cheer up!
2007-09-07 14:53:15 · answer #6 · answered by pebbles 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to tell you the truth and he isn't willing to wait until you're married (as you want to)....move on....
He's not being honest with you and doesn't respect what you want. That is a terrible way to maintain a relationship.
It might not seem like it now, but someone else will come along that does respect you and what you want and you will wind up being much happier.
2007-09-07 14:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Joe B. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your answer already in your question. You want a man who will be truthful, respect your decisions (to wait for marriage), and who is crazy about you. Your heart is broken now, but now you also know better what will make you happy. Don't settle for anything less than what you want!
2007-09-07 14:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you can give in & lose your virginity to him- but if he can't wait for marriage then he really isn't worth having now is he?
There are alot of men who would love you and be willing to wait for marriage to have you so I would just let him move on and you do the same!
2007-09-07 14:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never Ever ever ever compromise yourself and your beliefs for ANYONE!!! You are going to make someone a total trophy wife one day. This guy is probably not worth it. Most young girls will tell you that the one thing they regret is compromising themselves for a man. Be proud of yourself and don't give up now. Maybe try to find a man at a church
2007-09-07 14:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋