I know at first it sounds selfish, but I hope I die during childbirth. I think it'd be best for the baby in the long run. My family's great and would be able to take care of her. I have 7 siblings, the youngest is only 9 so she'd be like another kid in the family.
I just have no desire to live anymore and I know a baby shouldnt be around someone who is miserable and bitter. I never wanted kids, but I got pregnant and couldn't bear to kill a baby. I can't give it up for adoption, my bf would never sign off on that, my family would be pissed, and I wouldn't be able to live with myself anyways. Everything is gone now. My life, my relationship with my bf. I'm already angry and bitter about men, I don't want my daughter picking up on that. And I don't want to be around to see him stop by every once and a while for a play date while I bear the real responsibilities. I just don't see any options out of this. No matter what happens I look like the bad guy, so why not just die?
2007-09-07 14:29:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm 22 and I'm due the end of Oct.
2007-09-07 14:40:53 · update #1
Why not just die? Because death would not solve your problems. Because there is always hope and you have to believe in that, for the sake of your child.
Pregnancy is very stressful especially when a baby is not planned and to make it worse your hormone levels can cause you to be very moody and emotional and depressed. That might have something to do with the feelings that are overwhelming you right now.
Look around and try to see the positives in your life. God has blessed you with a big family. And maybe it was a blessing that your relationship with your BF is coming to an end. Maybe you can't see it now, but it probably wasn't a healthy relationship....esp. if you were being physical when you obviously weren't prepared for the consequences.
It's hard to see so far ahead now but this baby inside of you is a blessing. You are going to be ok because you have a family that loves and God loves you.
Email me if you want to "talk." I'm pregnant, too. :-)
paxicotrader@yahoo.com
2007-09-07 14:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
I felt like that a few months ago. I'm 23 (22 at the time) and was pregnant with my daughter. I never wanted kids of my own, but, was willing to adopt. I got preggers and... I didn't want to be around anymore. And the only reason I didn't get an abortion, was.. .there were no facilities around my area. But... I thought, well, maybe this could work. For a while I suffered post partum depression. I still felt the same way. That my daughter would be better off without me, and better off with just her father. She would have something I didn't have. Then... I don't know... Something clicked and I wanted to be around for her. It is a lot of responsibility, but, I do love my baby and will do most anything for her. My advice is, have your doc refer you to a counselor. Maybe someone can help. I didn't see anyone, but I don't recommend that. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.
2007-09-07 22:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by jessica b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi,
I am sure you are going through a very rough time to say the least. It would not be fair to your child not having a mother. It seems to me that you love your baby and that your family would be there to support you. It would be more unfair if your baby didnt grow up with a her mommy. Maybe you should look into therapy. I think everyone in this world can benefit seeing a good therapist not just one that will prescribe you drugs to help ease the pain but one who will listen and will actually help you to deal with all the underlying problems you are facing. Dont give up hope! Things get better if you choose thats what you want. it takes time and hard work but you will get there. As for the dad, if he is there in the picture to at least be a dad and not just some biological sperm than let him be. It might be hard on you at first but it will be the best thing for the child if he can be a dad. You dont look like the bad guy, if you dont think you can raise the baby then whatever YOU choose will be the right choice for you. At this point you cant concern yourself with what other people think, you can only listen to their advice and coose whats best for you and the baby. I hope this helps you.
2007-09-07 21:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
You sound like me. I suffer antenatal depression. It is a lot more common than you think. They think about 10% of pregnant women suffer to some degree. So you are not alone.
We all hear about PND. But antenatal depression is far less known about. It is easily treated and you can be your old self again in no time.
Yes having a baby dose change your life. But for the better in a lot of ways. I have given some links that may help you. But you need to talk to your doctor and family. Support is your best medicine, having said that medications do help and are safe during pregnancy.
You are the best person for your child. You don't need another person to complete the picture of a family.
I wish you all the best in your time of need. I am sure I am not the only person who would be there for you.
I wish you a safe arrival and a happy life.
2007-09-08 08:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by stootsma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow sound like your carring a great load. Talk to your doctor about the way you feel it could be a imbalance in your system. I too got pregnant at 19 the dad baled on me. I almost gave him up for adoption, but when I gave birth and held him in my arms theres no other way to describe the love I felt for this perfect little boy. He is grown now he 30 years old he turned out to be the best thing I ever did, Children are a gift from god. You will go on, I promise. Love your little girl as your mom loves you. You will meet someone, who will love you and the Little girl. I know I did.
2007-09-07 21:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by JANET O 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please seek help. A phsychiatrist or any healthcare professional. There are anti-depressants you can try that might turn your entire outlook around. There is always hope and think about how this precious child would feel having to grow up without it's Mommy. Nothing and no one is more important to a Baby than it's Mother. Besides, once you see it's beautiful face, you're whole world changes into something so beautiful. Please don't give up without seeking help.
2007-09-07 22:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Priscilla H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be to hard on yourself. If you think your family will be there for the baby why dont you think they will be there for you. It's not a bad thing to ask for help. Talk to your doc you may be starting PPD. Just remember God gave you this child for a reason and once you have it you'll know why ie the first time you hear it cry... I wish you luck keep your head up!!
2007-09-07 22:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sonya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is alot to live for....you are expecting mother to a beautiful child that should mean alot to you....If you feel you are not capable of raising this child please consider adoption...but please don't kill yourself life is to precious regardless of any downfall one faces in their life.....you need to seek some professional help because majority of the people on yahoo are not professional therapist so therefore we cannot help you in such a way that you need to be helped...I wish you all the luck and remember have faith and everything will work out for the better.....
2007-09-08 00:01:42 · answer #8 · answered by SparkleNdAir 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first off..when u give birth to her or him you can tell the hospital you dont know who the father is, that way u are able to give the kid up for adoption without his consent. or just tell him u dont want the kid and leve the baby with ur bf or talk to your family about giving the baby to them.
2007-09-07 21:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by ArmyWife 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone.. you have your baby and the most important thing for her is you! your in your last few weeks and you have made it this far.. once she is here and you look at her little face.. thats your reason to live and purpose to be here. Remember you have ALREADY taken care of her alone for months now, give yourself some CREDIT!
2007-09-07 22:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋