2007-09-07 14:18:38 · 57 answers · asked by diamonds on my windshield 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doing that now, I am in a relationship with a guy I love very much and he loves me. We have been together for 7 years, and only had sex in the first one. He has a problem that has followed him for the last 20 years. Two marriages have went bad, and now there is me.
Sometimes I wonder if he will ever want me, its hurts not to be touched and sometimes I feel so lost. Yet if he had a illness and could no longer have sex, would I leave him, so I stay and if and when the times comes , I will be ready...I stay for the love.
2007-09-07 14:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi, You have to ask the question do you want a physical relationship again, also do you still love your partner enough to let it last for another 20 years, mine was not as long as that, my husband made excuses, then i realised that he was having an affair. We had been married 25 years he left 5 years ago but only because i forced his hand, he would have stayed lived a comfortable life but still had the excitement of an affair. So please be wary, i am not saying your partner is having an affair but make sure this is what YOU want. I have never had another man/partner since my husband left and i love my life now i do what i want and when i want to do it. Good Luck.(you can email me if you like)
2007-09-08 01:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ? OMG 20 years is a long time .
I am a very sensual person and i would not be happy in a relationship like this. Don't you miss making love ?
If you are happy being in a relationship like this then i am happy for you . Is there a physical reason why you can have sex ? You should both see a phycian.Good luck
2007-09-07 14:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, wow... that's amazing.
I mean, if you've found other ways of expressing love for each other besides sex, and you're still together, that's a blessing.
(Sex isn't the be-all and end-all... though it is, undoubtedly, a helluva lotta fun!) =D
Or... if it's a "loveless" (or perhaps just "sexless"?) relationship, but you're happy to be each other's Life Partner...
I think, ultimately, if you are happy and content with who and how you are, both by yourself, and with him -- whether privately, at home, or out in public; and how he is with you, then that must be important enough that sex is not a (major) factor.
I personally don't know of others with a similar relationship.
Congratulations on 20(+?) years (and counting!?)!
Best wishes...
2007-09-07 16:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 YEARS???? YIKES!!!!!!
Is there a physical reason for this, or is it emotional? People stay together for a wide variety of reasons. Sex is just one in a variety of ways to show someone they're loved.
While I doubt I would be able to last 20 DAYS without it, some people just don't see it that way and it isn't a priority in their life.
I think you need to think this one over a lot more and see where YOUR priorities are. If this is an issue, discuss it with your partner and try to come to some sort of compromise. Obviously it isn't THAT much of a priority to you, otherwise you wouldn't have waited 20 years. There has to be other qualities that have caused you to stay.
2007-09-07 14:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by wentfishing2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I''ve been in a relationship for about 11 years now and just this past year we haven't had any sex. He blames it on the kids always being around...but I dont know. I'm not going to be going 20 years without it, unless I had to for some reason. Why so long?
2007-09-07 14:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, no sex for me in 20 years. I have been married for 43 years and my husband never seemed to be very interested in sex and blamed it on me but come to find out he has been a sex addict all those years. Masturbating at work, in the car, and at home, when I was gone, while watching porn. He stared at women most of our married life, fantasizing about them. I thought there was something wrong with me for forty years. The toll the mental abuse had on me, while he would do anything to hide his secret, has been crippling. He is empty inside and has no feelings from all those years of addiction. He used me to hide his secret and appear normal. There is so much more.
2016-03-18 10:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Gary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If for very serious medical reasons one or both of you may not be able to go the whole 9 yards, I am very sorry to hear this.
If it is by choice then you do whatever is right for you.
I`ve chosen to live alone for almost 30 years. I didn`t expect a partner to understand my medical dilemma. I was just glad to be alive, didn`t ever mind, just accepted.
If you & your partner are of the same mind over this you will obviously be fine.
All the best.
2007-09-07 19:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no! Sex is an important part of the relationship, not being funny but hes probably definitely getting his loving somewhere else.
Seriously the both of you probably have cobwebs down below, and its time to dust them off and get back into the sack lol
2007-09-07 23:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by honest girl! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy? I honestly can't imagine not having sex for 20years but I think that relationships change with time and people have different levels of drive. My husband and I don't have sex as often as we usedto because we're both so tired but I feel our connection is definitely as strong as ever. I see it as just a temporary situation. We still are very attracted to each other- still very much in love and still laugh a lot. We both agree that this is just a busy time.
If it's a problem then you need to address it.
2007-09-07 14:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by cece0312usa 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋