You know that you don't really have much of a valid arguement, or that it's old news and old disagreement that you see no solving, and yet you just can't keep your yap shut....I guess it's self destructive. How do you handle or cope with this scenario, to keep the peace knowing that's the better road to take (mainly talking about with your spouse)
2007-09-07 14:08:54 · 7 answers · asked by reddevilbloodymary 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I take it as a sign that I am feeling frustrated, and I find something else to do in order to channel that negative energy out of me, instead of taking it out on my husband.
For example, I will clean the house, go for a walk, ride my bike, anything to get rid of the frustration without hurting someone else's feelings.
Good luck!
2007-09-07 14:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by MaraschinoMary 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
actually yes! Now that u bring it up, sounds sooooo stupid, but I think for me, its a way to get some sort of reaction outta him, it usually doesn't last long, and I sure try to make sure I am not saying anything hurtful, just being a witch.
OMG!!! That sounds so dumb....and yea, it is MARRIAGE DESTRUCTIVE because he doesn't know which way to run or what to say, when it's suppossed to be history, or an argument done and over with.
Note:
My marriage is not "normal"..he does not come home everyday, so we don't get to fight out things on a daily basis (or when needed) and we don't get to talk about things. So something, lets say happens with the kids and I am completely annoyed with them, he may not hear about it for a week, til he gets home then its usually the whole "mom is just angry at us Dad" scene.
2007-09-07 14:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweet Pea i have found myself doing that before and what my husband did that taught me the biggest lesson. he let me argue and fuss and rant and rave and he didn't say a word. i was so upset that he didn't respond to my bickering I left the room. A couple of hours later he looked at me and said, I don't know why you are so angry and what you are angry at but I love you anyway. He was slow to speak and quick to listen. This made me look at myself and think, my God why am I this way. I didn't like it so I decide to change my whole out look on fussing.
2007-09-07 15:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Counseling will help you deal with these unresolved issues. What you're doing isn't healthy for your relationship, so you're obviously not handling it on your own very well. Don't be afraid to seek help when you need it.
2007-09-07 14:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well red i think it has to do with closure you want to settle what you still have deep in your mind, about what ever is bothering you.
so until you settle the score or get closure its not going to go away.
2007-09-07 14:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get into therapy, stop using drugs and alcohol, or both.
Get to the root of your emotional problems.
2007-09-07 14:15:26 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. That's a chick thing to do.
2007-09-07 14:12:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋