i'm pregnant and me and my husband havent had sex for about 3 months now and he tells me hes tired all the time. when i was pregnant with my 3rd and 4th child he acted the same way. and last year i found out he cheated on me while i was pregnant with them. do you think hes cheating again and how can i find out? please help!
2007-09-07 14:06:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is it's because you let him. You should have outed his@ss last time round.
2007-09-07 14:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably has a hard time seeing you as a sex partner when you are pregnant. You've become a mother-in-waiting and he might feel weird to have sex with you knowing there is a child growing inside you. Some men have difficulty separating the woman from the mother that way.
I hope he's not cheating, but if he showed the same behaviour before, then there is the chance he is doing the same thing again.
2007-09-07 14:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is hiding in his shell again..He is upset because you are having his baby again..But his cheating should have either found his bags on the porch or divorce papers in hand, yet he has found himself not wanting the responsibility of a family and only you to blame. He needs counseling and a good male role model. Try a local Church for Marriage enrichment courses and if he fails to attend, give him a choice but you want him to move in the direction of taking his role as a father, husband and your friend..Which now he is none of those and little does he know that the life inside you hears words and feels emotions and can sense rejection or love..And if you are unhappy, so is the baby and this is something he needs to know..
2007-09-07 14:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first thing you need to ask yourself is why do you want to know if he is cheating, and what will you do with information. Are you going to leave him when you have kids and are pregnant with your 5th(?) child? Because if you are not going to leave then why bother to find out- it just causes you stress and the baby and helps nothing.
You have to realize that by having another child with him and knowing he cheated before he expects that it is okay to have sex with another when you are pregnant.
Figure out what you want in your relationship and talk with him about that- focusing on the sex issue is an easy distraction but really not the issue here.
2007-09-07 14:42:28 · answer #4 · answered by Modern Manners 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So happy to hear that you are pregnant, it is a bless. There are lots of women cannot have pregnancy.
According to my experience(I have 3 children) and doctor's advice, it is not recommended to have sex(intercourse) in the early 3 months. So I mean it is good for your baby.
Do you happen to see he is cheating? or just hear? But no matter how, you have to find out for SURE. Have a deep romantic talk(bed talk) with him. COMMUNICATION is the most important, but think positive. If he doesn't love you anymore, he wouldn't have more children from you. For the sake of your health in mind, just take it easy, fix up your communication, find out the real problem.
You can still fulfill his biological needs in other ways. Think creatively. God bless you and your family
2007-09-07 14:22:40 · answer #5 · answered by anwar.tirta 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah hes cheating. COntact a private investigator asap, in your area, and have one track him down to see what hes doing. Also check your money records, credit cards and see if there are any strange purchases/ You have grounds for divorce if you find anything. Then contact a lawyer, they will be able to tell you how much child support he has to pay to you. WHy stay with a cheater? You are always going to think hes up to something and you will never be able to look at yourself the same. Are you ugly? Are you getting fat? what does she have that you dont? You should never have to think of yourself that way, you are much to good for that. ALso think of your children They will resent you later in life for staying with a cheater
2007-09-07 14:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hire a PI.
Seriously, do you HATE yourself? Why would you keep taking him back, time after time again.
You children don't deserve seeing a father destroy their mother by constantly cheating.
This guy needs to have his man parts cut off, put in a blender and fed to him for breakfast. People only treat you badly if you LET them, and you seem like you really don't mind being treated like a door mat.
If you don't leave him now, you deserve every second of misery you've brought upon yourself.
2007-09-07 14:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For God's sake! Why did you bring another one of his children into this world? Look, it is real simple. once a cheater, always a cheater. So stop having the unrealistic expectations that he is going to change for you.
Then please, for the good of society. Get your tubes tied. We will not need anymore strippers or criminals in 18 to 20 years!
2007-09-07 14:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
history could be repeating itself. Is he acting the same as he did in the past when he cheated on you?
2007-09-07 14:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is, but only you would know for sure. Sorry! Take care of yourself and your children. He's an ungrateful person.
2007-09-07 14:12:32 · answer #10 · answered by renamed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋