Yes, Because you need to get to know the Person you marry first.
2007-09-07 13:23:38
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answered by tfoley5000 7
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No I don't think it's a good idea though I have seen it work when I did it was usually an exception and most don't result in marriage . Without the commitment it's even easier to call it quits instead of working through problems that can and will undoubtedly arise occasionally . Best to date and spend weekends or the occasional night together but not settle for less than marriage in my opinion . The marriage commitment means you will stick by your mate through good times and bad , that isn't as apt to happen when just living together . Like I said though on occasion I've seen it work but for the majority it hasn't gone well.
2007-09-07 13:39:57
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answered by Anonymous
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Common wisdom says, that you ought to be able to test drive a car before you buy it, right?
The trouble is, all relationships need to be built on trust, not doubt. Going into a relationship with the attitude that breaking up is acceptable when things get rough, is quite a "self-fulfilling prophecy".
Unfortunately, Sally, cohabitating before marriage is a major "predictor" of future divorce, making divorce more than 50% more likely, statistically. If you have a child while cohabitating and the odds are very good that the man will leave. If such a relationship does turn into marriage, divorce is still much more likely. More than 1/2 of cohabitating relationships end in less than 5 years (though after that the chance of marrying your partner is good..)
Couples tend to have less healthy relationships, in all respects, when cohabitating. Domestic abuse and child abuse is twice as likely than in marriage.
Simply having sex with your partner before marriage doubles or triples the probability of a future marriage to end. Couples who abstain before marriage typically report having significantly happier, healthier, and more fulfilling sex lives, than those who cohabitate.
Basically, all those things religious conservatives will tell you not to do, there are good reasons for it.
My personal opinion is that the only reasons to move in together before marriage, are selfish ones. It's all about thinking "how can *I* get what *I* want in a relationship.". not "how can *we* get what *we* both want..."
Hope that makes sense,
~W.O.M.B.A.T.
2007-09-07 16:27:06
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answered by WOMBAT, Manliness Expert 7
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Now a days you just about have to. People are so picky as to what they want in a relationship that they need to test the waters first. It's not the right thing to do according to the bible. But that's not stopping anyone. I say if you really love this person and he loves you... both of you should wait till the wedding to move in with each other. Of course everyone else will say different. But then i,m only going by what the bible Say's..either way good luck to you:)
2007-09-07 13:25:53
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answered by ? 6
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It's a tough one. Yea because you get to really know the person. I'd say at least 2 years of living together before marriage but then its hard to do that and be virgins on your wedding day.....
I have faith but I also have a reality check and thats something more people need because it can't all be faith...look at how many "honest" or faith filled..marriages fail.
2007-09-07 13:26:19
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answered by Kari S 3
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I think it is, you really get to know a person once you've been living with them. All those little faults and quirks suddenly arise when you are living with someone, you need to know if you can live with those the rest of your life, it's easier to just move out if you don't see it working instead of getting a divorce.
2007-09-07 13:25:16
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answered by hungryeyes001 4
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Kind of. Maybe just weekends though. You can wait until after the honeymoon to de-romanticize the realtionship. But yes,you should have an idea what it would be like to live together.
2007-09-07 13:24:25
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answered by Galahad 7
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It depends on the couple.If two people are comfortable around each other,enjoy the same things and totally ready for marriage,then why not?It can be a good preview.
But personally,I can't do it because I'm very independent and I wouldn't wanna be tied to someone before getting hitched.
2007-09-07 13:27:31
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answered by Anonymous
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Absolutely!! I think you should have a good idea of what you're getting yourself into before taking the big step---if it weren't for living with my ex, I would be a perdy young divorcee right now! You learn a lot about a person and their habits by living with them, and if you can't stand them before you're married, what makes you think you'll be able to stand 'em AFTER you're married??
2007-09-07 13:35:08
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answered by Anonymous
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Living together before you get married is an absolute must.
I recommend living together for not less than 8 hours, that way you know what you're gonna be looking at first thing every morning!
2007-09-07 13:32:15
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answered by ? 5
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It depends on the situation of the relationship. I don't think its a bad idea my self because I will tell you marriage is hard a hard job-alot of compromissing involved.
2007-09-07 13:25:29
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answered by KAREBEAR 6
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