I live in a small town and I have been into fundraising for different causes. this last summer I alone did two car washes and a raffle with 30 kids that are 6-12 years old. we were raising money for these kids who are all low income to go to camp for a week. our goal was to raise $1750 we did raise $1550 so I told each Family they had to pay $15. Compared to $85 per child. Well two families thought it was still to much so they accused me of stealing money. wich I did not do. Now I had a friend that was in a bad wreck and I am trying to raise funds for her family to help with bills and these same people are going around saying not to help because I will steal the money. This really bothers me because I have never taken anything that was not mine. And I want to help this family. How should I handle this? Should I confront them? Or just back off and quite helping people?
2007-09-07 12:04:04 · 7 answers · asked by brianswife 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Those aren't your only two choices here: confront them or stop helping people (and I don't recommend you do either one of those things). I grew up in a small town so I am somewhat familiar with small town psychology. As you well know, news (good or bad, true or false) spreads rapidly; that truth's already been used against you, but you can also use it to your advantage..Get a trusted clergymember or respected person within the community to join with you and oversee the fundraising effort. Their ringing endorsement of your conduct in this new effort (and the community's confidence in the credibility of this "trustee" you've chosen) will go a long way to diluting the damage done by rumors....all without your having to "say" a word. From this point forward you should always have an unbiased official overseeing your fundraising efforts to avoid even the appearance of impropriety, and it's a good thing to learn now while the stakes are relatively low. Your heart is in the right place and that's commendable. Protect yourself at all times while looking out for the welfare of others. Good luck to you.
2007-09-07 13:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not quit helping people. There are not enough of you out there now as it is and we can't afford to lose one. Just ignore the other people and what they say. Some people think that the world owes them something that is why the $15 was too much for them. They think that they should have just gotten the trip for free. It is sad what they are teaching their kids with that kind of behavior. These people are not worth arguing with as you will never change their minds about the situation. There is a saying that goes like this.
Never get into an argument with an idiot. Onlookers may not know who is who.
These people are idiots and you may convince others that you are too if you go there with a confrontation. So I suggest that you just ignore them and continue the good fight with helping others. Thank God that there are people like you out there. Keep up the good work.
I hope that your friend is okay.
2007-09-07 19:13:10 · answer #2 · answered by firemouse23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you should confront these people. Why should you sit back while they spread these lies around about you. Sure your friends are not going to believe them, but there are alot of people out there that would rather believe the bad they hear regardless if it is true or not.
Isn't what they are doing called slander against you as a person. Let them know you will not tolerate their behavior and if you have to you will take legal action against them.
2007-09-07 19:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by blondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their is gonna always be someone to talk about what they dont know and you should keep doing what youre good at ! helping people i give you a high five for helping the girls out and helping people out thats wonderful and they should be ashamed of their selves for doing what their doing its not right and i would just let the rumors go and try and to explain the situation if youre confronted with it but other wise i would keep on helping people that appreciates it have a blessed day and i hope things get better for you we need more people like you
2007-09-07 19:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by foxy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have a way of maken others look bad.You are trying to help people and he ones you have helped are stabbing you in the back.I would keep doing what you are doing and act like its not bothern you at all unless you are guilty,which it appears your not.If everyone quit doing things because people didnt know when to shut up no one would do anything.Its nice that you are helping people .
2007-09-07 19:15:04 · answer #5 · answered by lady bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on doing what you are doing. If anybody says anything to your face, you defend yourself. If you turn around and confront the people and tell them that they are liars, then you are just as bad as they are and it will look like you are trying to defend a lie.
2007-09-07 19:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by ☆Zestee☆ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't stop helping because of their guilt....is there a local paper you could run a small ad/statement for your causes...or a small store where you could post your ideas....receipts....small story's about the kids when they were at camp.......I admire you........
2007-09-07 19:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by willowz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋