For those men who want an "obedient" wife...?

Question

What does that mean?

Children are obedient (or at least we'd like them to be), but why would a grown woman need to be obedient?
Also, please state whether or not your ideals are informed by religious convictions.

Portwine-I never got the impression that you wanted an obedient wife, just someone who understands what an equal partnership is.

Answer 1

Being obedient doesn't mean you are a slave! Obedient means a wife who should understand her duties well and what are her duties? its to look after home well, to look after children, teach them the difference between what is good and what is bad, religious teachings are also very important. She should love her husband by being his friend. Husband should be going out and look after the external affairs of a family while wife should look whats going on internally. It doesn't mean she will is boycotting from her social life. Family friends, relatives she should be able to deal with them nicely. arrange picnics, dinners, parties etc.

Think of an obedient wife with a Broad mind and come out of this myth that both men and women have equal rights. yes They do have rights but man is a step ahead of woman because of his physical strength and no one can deny this fact. Divorce rate is Increasing day by day because of this thinking... **slaves**... obeident doesn't mean *Slave*.

Answer 2

I rather have an agreeable wife than a challenging wife. After a hard day at work, do you rather come home to an obedient wife or a challenging wife? I chalenge myself at work to get ahead, I need recuperation time so I can face the challenge the next morning. Who need a challenging wife? win an argument at home do no good for my career or my earning, it is a waste of time. That is why God give men testosterone to be aggressive at work to bring the bread home. But God doesn't give women that so she can be soft and passive to comfort the men when he come home. Most women are this way, only a handful of hardcore feminists are aggressive by nature.

Answer 3

It means exactly what it sounds like it means. Wives should obey their husbands. It doesn't mean that the husband always gets his way. In fact, I'd say the wife should get her way more often than the husband gets his. But it means that the husband is the one who decides whether he gets his way or his wife gets her way.

RoVale's answer above is wrong, but it shows exactly why one person in a marriage should be obedient to another. Someone needs the final say. There are some decisions that need to be made one way or another, even if the partners can't agree.

Equal partnerships don't work. They don't work in business, they don't work in the military, and they don't work in marriages. There are times when reasonable people have honest disagreements, and someone needs the final say. Sometimes at work I've been on projects where they attempt to have a bunch of people at the same level work together on something, and it doesn't work. The military has it right. There needs to be a chain of command, so someone has the final say. If there are a bunch of equals, you can try to make decisions by voting, but you need to have a way of deciding what will happen if there's a tie, which often happens in a marriage.

It should be noted that a wife's obedience is one of two requirements of a good marriage, and it doesn't make sense without the other one. The other one is that men should love their wives as Christ loves the Church. If a man mistreats his wife, then obviously it wouldn't make sense for her to be obedient to him. But if he treats her well, then it shouldn't be a problem for her to be obedient to him.

I get the impression that feminism rose largely as a response to the fact that a lot of men were abusing their power over their wives. And if men abuse their power over their wives, then I don't blame women for wanting that power for themselves. But I think it's still reasonable for men to have the power in the relationship in those rare cases of men who will use it fairly.

Also, if a man abuses the power he has over his wife, then it seems to me that the other men in her life (her father, her brothers, her sons, her male friends, even her in-laws) should step in and set her husband straight. I don't know what the hell is wrong with these men who allow the women in their lives to be mistreated by their husbands.

And I'm not Christian. Religion might have influenced my thinking, but it didn't absolutely determine it. If you want, you can substitute "a lot" for "as Christ loves the Church" in the line "men should love their wives as Christ loves the Church."

Answer 4

Some women might think that I want an obedient wife by what I say, but I wouldn't want her to be any more obedient to me than I am to her. I'm obedient to my guy friends even, when appropriate. What I will say is that overcompensating is a problem for some women. Their motto is that it's better to always err on the side of being over-assertive, even nasty, because otherwise you might be taken advantage of.

Answer 5

I believe the answer is more complex than one may originally think. Some woman choose to do so out of "religious" ideals. However, some women do it to please their Men say perhaps in a D/s relationship. Before people start screaming that submissive women are weak etc. try to understand the dynamics. It takes a very strong woman to offer the gift of submission to her Man and a very strong Man to be Dominate as opposed to domineering and abusive. Of course for each couple the dynamics are different.
I think maybe it's something one can't understand unless they truely desire and investigate this type of relationship.
I will say there are women who obey out of fear and that is something completely different.
I don't believe it can be explained to anyone who has made up their mind on this style of relationship. I answer honestly, even at the risk of being verbally lashed.

Answer 6

When it concerned religious convictions the Bible talks about the wife submitting to the husband, but people quickly forget it also says that a husband must love his wife like Christ loved the church. Christ loved the church quite a bit!

Also, to submit does not have the negative connotation that many people think it might. Basically, when there is a lot of things going on, negative especially, the husband protects his wife, gets in front and makes decisions that will help their marriage.

Answer 7

I wouldnt want an obedient wife, but a wife who starts ranting about male supremacism when i ask her to do me a favour is just as bad.

Answer 8

The state of marriage is unique in the range of personal relationships. Personal decisions affect two people in profound ways not found in relationships between friends etc. There are times that compromise will not work. There are times decisions must be made and two parties, regardless of how much they love each other, cannot agree. Someone must break the impasse. Someone must have the last word. This really should be thought out prior to a catastrophe.

Answer 9

As Truman stated most clearly, The buck stops HERE. I'm a decision maker and problem solver. I relish the role of Hero, and I value my Heroine. As far as being obedient, when I make a decision, I expect support. I don't make decisions rashly. I view my woman as my best counselor and partner. The best situation is to get her views, I share mine, and we come to common solution. When we don't come to common solution, I have to decide what is best for US. Not ME... but US. That is a responsibility that requires alot of trust on my womans part, and hence, I do not take it lightly. She understands that there has to be a decision maker.
How many quarterbacks on your foot ball team out on the field at any given time? Are there two captains of a ship? How many captains can run a ship without a willing crew who trusts in the Captains ability's and skills and experience?

My views derive from my faith, but also common sense and 2,000 + years of written history.

Answer 10

I don't understand why one person has to get the final say in a marriage. Major decisions should be mutual. If the partners can't agree, then they should not decide. One person should not have to give in to the other and then live with that decision even when it's a poor one and that person knows it.

Answer 11

A lot of the women that I knew wanted (in fact insisted) that I be the leader|

However it was not to cater to my wishes, but to lead in solving some common problem or to help her with something she needed done or something like that|


If a man leads a woman, he definitely has to treat her with respect and as an equal (and he also has to be open to her input, and stand corrected by her when appropriate)|






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