What is the best way to tell your best friend that she is fat ?

Question

my best friend is overweight , and i have noticed that she has no clue she is . she lies about her weight , and eats huge amounts of food . i am afraid that she is harming her body by eating all this junk . what is the best way to tell her that she is obese ?

Answer 1

i'm sure that she actually DOES know that she's fat. she just has trouble coping with it (hence the lies, and eating even more).

perhaps you could suggest eating somewhere healthy for lunch, or invite her to go to the gym with you? or urge her to join an activity like pilates or dance...?

or you can just say that you're concerned for her health. if she gets super defensive and angry, remind her that you're telling her this because you care about her.

Answer 2

If she is your best friend as difficult as it she does need to know the truth! You can maybe encourage her to join some excercise classes swimming etc, and then after a few classess really encourage her and say 'wow you are looking really good, i think you have lost some weight'...she must know herself or at least have trouble getting clothes to fit. Do her parents watch her food intake as well.. She needs to educate herself as well on what is good and what is bad in terms of comparison of food.......like she could have a bar of chocolate or bag of chrisps, and that doesn't sound like a lot and it doesn't really feel you up for long! Tell her she could have a massive jacket potatoe with baked beans etc for half the calories!!

Good luck and go easy, it is a very sensitive subject and not an easy one to tackle.

Answer 3

You care for your friend,but unless she admits she has a problem with her weight,telling her may just cause your friedship to breakup.I dont think there is a best way that you can tell her as you are just going to hurt her feelings if you do.Support her and be her friend,you could maybe when out and want something to eat suggest a place that sells healthier foods without mentioning her weight.

Answer 4

She obviously already knows.

See, you don't have to confront her, you just have to set a healthy example for her. If you're not an adult and go to school, then bring healthy foods for lunch and offer her a bite. If you aren't in school anymore, then hang out at a healthy diner or ask her to come shop with you at a health food store.

You can also invite her to take some walks or jogs with you, invite her to tennis and basketball courts to play, and stuff like that. If you get her into the habit of leading a healthy lifestyle by just taking control and setting an example, then she'll be in control of herself and you won't have to confront her.

Answer 5

To be honest with you its not your place to say anything. I know you love your friend, but it would be rude and extremely hurtful for you to tell her she is obese, no matter what way you do it. There is no best way! If you are willing to lose her friendship to "help her" then by all means crush your friend. But in my opinion, just accept her as she is or your not really her friend. If anything tell her you want to lose a few pounds but you cant do it alone ask if she will do it with you, or ask her if she want to start a health regimin with you, like eating lower fat and higher fiber, and walking 3 miles per day..

Answer 6

See if there is a local gym that will allow you to "try before you buy' and use their facilities for a month or two. Get your friend to go w/ you and tell her YOU want to get into shape and you want her to be your workout buddy - keep you accountable. The activity won't be bad for either of you healthwise and she may find that the workouts make her feel better...and maybe she'll try to do better on her own once she sees how concerned you are about the health of you both.

Answer 7

Well i think that it is really great that you care enough about your friend that you feel you need to tell her.ok so the best way is probably to come clean but be nice about it and say,"look i care about you a lot and so i just wanted to say i think you should cut out on some of your eating habits.....'or something like that.i had the same problem so i know how you feel and believe me the best way to tell her is that way.and if your friend is mad at you its because she know she is but doesnt want to admit it!so what you need to do is try to convince her you werent trying to be mean and try to go on a little diet with her!(well when she isnt looking)good luck!!!

Answer 8

It sounds like she's very confident.A lot of obese people I've met forget their weight problem.Regardless of her weight, eating junk is not healthy for her or anyone for that matter.You can tell her that eating this kind of food isn't the best of her health.She has to know that she's on the heavier side, but try to be gentle about it.

Answer 9

Tell her you're thinking about joining a gym but that you would like a friend to go with you for emotional support.

Suggest going to a healthy restaurant.

If all else fail... just break it to her sweetly.

Say something like, "you're a dear friend to me and a sweet, caring, wonderful person. I say this only because I'm concerned about you and I want you to be healthy..... but.... you weight more than Al Roker riding an elephant."........ or something like that.

Otherwise don't tell her. She probably doesn't give a **** anyway and why bother ruining your friendship.

Fat people know they're fat even if they don't want to admit it.... like me..... but I'm not fat.... honestly....

Answer 10

Don't just tell her she's fat, that won't help anything. Try to do activities together where exercise is involved or just go to the gym together. If you are eating together suggest healthier meals. Friends can have a big influence on each other, so be a good influence.