Curious question - I wandered across a forum of curious teenagers who were greatly impressed with some of their teachers and wanted to pursue a friendship outside of school.
Do you believe that this teacherism or mentorship young ones recieve in high school is a sacred, unchangeable bond, that must remain static and in tact in the same manner even after graduation?
OR
Do you believe that this mentorship can be more of a dynamic and changeable relationship that can metamorphose into a wonderful friendship?
OR
Is there some sort of middle ground that can be found?
What is your opinion?
Thanks for the input, have an awesome day. =)
2007-09-07 10:14:16 · 29 answers · asked by Belle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that building a friendship after graduation is fine. I don't see it as inappropriate at all. After all they are both adults.
2007-09-07 10:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Kellie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I know having relations with a student while in school is a big no no, which can lead the teacher into hot water, making the teacher lose their reputation and thier job, and possible imprisonment.
If the student had graduated, I have heard wonderful stories how they keep in touch, with what they are doing in their lives. Even inviting their favourite teacher to their weddings. I still think it should be more on a professional level, not on an intimate level. Sending Christmas cards or Birthday cards would be fine. Be a role model, the student know that you are proud of them, if they are persuing other factors of their lives, that better them. Don't act like it is an intimate relationship, this would only be a pure platonic friendship only...
2007-09-07 10:30:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The relationship between teachers and students {most often fizzle and die once the student has left high school}, but I think its prefectly acceptable for a "dynamic and changeable relationship that can metamorphose into a wonderful friendship". I only wish that I could say I had a teacher that has left a lasting impact on me.
2007-09-07 10:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by L337est 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is perfectly fine for them to be friends. Alot of the time going through highschool you can find great mentorship and/or someone to turn to in a time of need. These are the kind of qualities that we look for or should look for in friends so i say it is completely understandable to become friends with a teacher after graduated.
2007-09-07 10:21:15 · answer #4 · answered by OmniscientJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am actually friends with THREE of my old high school teachers. It's completely different after you've graduated and everything because it somewhat sets an unspoken threshold of maturity. I shop and hang out with them often, especially with one particular teacher. The kind of relationship I had with her during school was wonderful. She was the best mentor for me and I knew I could trust her. Since I've left high school, it's a whole different setting. There's no high school drama and homework deadlines to complain about, so it really started a whole new relationship with her. There was never anything inappropriate. I can still count on her and vice versa, just with different issues and situations. We're like best friends! It's really a great example of growing in the relationships you have with other people, whether they be with former teachers, your parents, siblings, friends, etc. It's all the same to me. ;)
2007-09-07 10:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by Stephy B. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a student is of legal age and is not longer attending the institution at which the teacher is employed there is no reason why they should not pursue a protege/mentor relationship if that is what both sides want. In fact, there is no legal or moral limitation on the type of relationship they can pursue, including a romantic one.
2007-09-07 10:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think students and teachers can definitely be friends after graduation. Me, for instance, have stayed in contact with some of my great mentors. Everything about our relationship is "CLEAN" and they've become some really close friends.
A girl in my highschool married an ex-teacher a couple of years after graduation. They have been married now for 8 years. So I guess sometimes they do progress beyond friendship.
2007-09-07 10:22:23 · answer #7 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once the student graduates, he/she is just another person and a teacher who wishes to do so should be able to be friends with them. I have several teacher friends.
If you're talking about "hooking up", it's not illegal once the ex-student is of age, but it can create gossip and bad feeling and maybe leave the teacher open to charges of fooling around with current students.
2007-09-07 10:19:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive its very possible for a teacher / student relationship to become a good friendship after graduation. It's happened to me, and to this day, my former music teacher is one of my best friends!
2007-09-07 10:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by McLovin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that students and teachers can become semi-friends, I play tennis w/ my teacher from 6th grade every day, but I don't talk to him any other time, it works out nicely if u need a recommendation
2007-09-07 10:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Fresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋