Is Abortion Ever Justified?

Question

My daughter, who is 18 years old, has recently found out that she is pregnant. Apparently her and her boyfriend have been having unprotected sex and the birth control pills that she was taking failed to prevent the pregnancy. As a Christian, and a Man who raised his daughter to be a good Christian, imagine the horror that I felt after I learned that my daughter was having unprotected sex and has now conceived a bastard child. My daughter has said that she wants to have an abortion, but my wife and I are against this practice and have already sold her car, so that she will not be able to drive to the abortion clinic. Furthermore, we have place a restraining order on her boyfriend from approaching our house (we have already called the police on him once), and we have also told her that if she does have an abortion, we will no longer pay for her college and not associate with her anymore, which means kicking her out of our lives and our house. Are we justified in our actions?

Answer 1

Abortion is never justified.
The case youdescribe would simply be killing the baby out of inconvenience.
I think you are justified in doing what you can do legally and morally to prevent the killing of your grandchild
my prayers are with you,your daughter, grandchild and family.
God bless.

Answer 2

No you are not justified, she is 18 she has a legal right to have an abortion, she could possibly sue you for your actions if you force her to have a child, then pay her way through college with the settlement/judgment.

Additionally, not quite sure but getting a restraining order against her boyfriend just for getting her pregnant, doesnt seem like appropriate use of a restraining order. Also just because he got her pregnant doesnt mean you should prevent him from seeing her, oh and by the way if she does give birth, you will be seeing alot more of him because he will have a right to partial custody, regardless of the restraining order, also as parents in the custody proceeding, the way you have acted will be used by him at trial. Ironic isn't it.

Also having a baby and going to college don't work well. So she will probably not be able to go regardless of if you pay or not. Also why do you feel the need to force your daughter to follow your religious beliefs.

Also don't be so shocked about her having unprotected sex she is 18 and if she wanted to she could go to court to have her parents legally disowned.

Lastly is an abortion worth killing all contact with your born and raised child, I think not.

So your plan is to keep your daughter hostage at home so she cant use her free will to have a medical procedure done, I think she might be the one who needs to get a restraining order. I hope she reads this, gets an attorney, also with help from a local home for abused women to give her a place to stay, and then sues you.

God won't forgive you for what you are doing to your daughter, and neither will she for good reason.

Answer 3

So ! in your church there is no such thing as forgiveness right ? Because that's what it sounds like . second if you were really good Christians you should have never let her go on her own to see her boyfriend ! they're teens they all have to explore and you know that ! you were a teen once or did you and your wife hatch out as adults ? Third and most important , you already hate this child , your calling him a bastard child , no matter what . this child is still one of gods creations , if your going to believe that those pregnancy pills really didn't work as your daughter out it , then you are more dense then you think , it sounds like she wants out of your happy home ! And the only time I as a christian believe a girl (SHOULD) get an abortion is when a daughter if forced raped , because this was not Gods will .

Answer 4

Just in case this question is for real, I'll submit an answer.
Your daughter is an ADULT, Pal, and she can damn well do with her body as she pleases (and I hope that if she really doesn't want to continue this pregnancy, then she refuses to submit to your blackmail.)
You're a real piece of work, Man. You've gotten a restraining order against her boyfriend because he had sex with your daughter...who is over the age of consent? It takes two to tango, in case you weren't aware. And you SOLD her car, so she can't drive to the clinic? Do you really think that's going to stop her?
You need to come down out of the clouds and get real. Life ain't a fairy tale. You're within your rights to take away your daughter's tuition money, but be aware that this will forever affect your relationship with her. How many 18-year-olds are capable of being good mothers?
And in answer to your question: abortion is justified in every single case in which the woman does not wish to be pregnant.

Answer 5

No, you are not justified. And I don't understand how you could have sold "her" car unless it was in your name. Taxis, buses, friend's cars and legs can all get her where she wants to go. Knee-jerk reaction to a stressful situation.

While you are free to express your opinions to her - that is as far as it goes. You don't get to choose for her once she reaches the age of majority - and if that is 18 where you are, there is nothing you can do. She is an adult in the eyes of the law.

You have EVERY right to deny her funding to college or to kick her out of your home if she does not abide by your wishes (your roof, your wallet, your rules).

I am pro-choice - and while I can understand the horror you must feel knowing your daughter wants to abort your grandchild, you should discuss options with her calmly and in a manner in which she may find herself becoming receptive to your desires - threats and ultimatums aren't usually the way to go about that. You are pushing her away and if that is your goal I'd say you've done your job well.

Answer 6

So you would rather risk the life of your daughter (you do realize that the death rate is increasing during childbirth, don't you?) and put your daughter in a $20,000 hole financially (having a baby ain't cheap), than respect her adult decision to fix her adult mistake?

Wow.

Well, Sam, how many children have you carried in your body and then gave up for adoption?

How many mothers who have chosen adoption have you held while they cried and cried, even 20 or 30 or 40 years later?

How many jobs have you lost?

So, basically this is what you are saying to your daughter...

Because you had sex, a perfectly natural occurrence, your life will now be ruined. Either have the kid, risk death and be broke for the next 10 years, or I'll yank your schooling and kick you onto the streets to be broke for the next 10 years.

I just don't understand people like you. And I hope your daughter finds the strength to go and seek help from loving, caring people who won't use guilt and threats and such to make the decision that is right for her and her future.

And I believe you get what you give, so I hope you enjoy your loneliness in old age too; I can only hope that someday you will need your daughter and she spits in your face.

Because that is what you are doing to her.

Answer 7

Your poor daughter. It was bad enough when she found out she was pregnant, in spite of being on the Pill.

She had to tell you about it, knowing you'd be unhappy. That must have been difficult for her as well.

Now she has you threatening her and judging her, and she must be completely, totally miserable.

On top of it, you have no respect for the difficult choice she has made. She knows that's a baby in there, she knows it is a little LIFE, and it's not an easy decision, deciding to have an abortion. But you coming down so hard on her is NOT going to bode well for your relationship with her.

And then, just for one additional insult, you're not allowing her to see the ONE PERSON who probably really does care for her and respects her thoughts and opinions.

Way to go, Dad. You better stop & think about what you're doing and how SHE sees the situation, before you lose her completely and never see her again.

I've seen families torn apart over less.

One more thing: REAL nice move, selling her car. I guess you've never made a mistake in your life, never had something go wrong? Mr. Perfect Christian? Tell me, have you ever taken copies of personal items at work? Liberated a pen from your office? Called in sick when you weren't really? Hmmmm??? Of course not, because you're perfect, so you are on the pedestal from which you can judge everyone else, right?

Answer 8

Honestly you are running your daugher's life and you have no right to. She's 18-- an adult-- and she has the right to her own decisions.

One-- it is her body. She was using protection and that failed. I have the same situation, and if my BC ever fails I will get an abortion. She took all precautions and they failed.

Two-- you have no right to place a restraining order on the boy, as it is your daughter's choice who she sees and when. He's not hurting anyone, how did a judge even let you get the restraining order in the first place? What backwards place do you live in?

Three-- I don't care what she does if you don't like it, she is your child! No matter what-- you chose to have her in the first place and it is your job as a parent to support her and help her out. If you think your situation is bad-- think about her situation! You take away her car-- she can't get a job or support herself, or even go to school. You chase away her boyfriend-- did you ever think that chasing away the guy your daughter loves is a very foul thing to do? How could you even think of that!

Why would you be that cruel to your own flesh and blood? How can you justify doing any of what you have done? If I were your daughter I would move out anyway-- anyone that is that cruel to their own flesh and blood is not worthy of being a parent. Who let you have kids anyway?

Stop acting like this has anything to do with you at all, because it doesn't. You will ruin her life. She obviously wants to go to college and better herself, and if she's like me she's terrified of being pregnant. How could you put her through nine months of hell and FORCE someone to be a parent?

You are not a Christian. You are not moral. You have no right to do what you have done-- your Christ must be ashamed.

Answer 9

I support the right of any woman to determine what will be done with her reproductive system. But that's not the issue here.

Let's assume that you are right: your daughter has committed the sins of engaging in sex outside of marriage and taking a life. You would abandon her (a teenager) for these transgressions? Cut ties forever with her? Basically put her on the street?

Your bottom line seems to be that you would never forgive the sin, and along with your refusal to forgive, you would forever withdraw your love for the sinner. Somehow, I don't think Jesus would endorse your approach. Maybe a little more prayer is warranted.

Answer 10

Her body, her decision. She is mature enough to realize she can not handle a child right now. She wants to go to college and has a full future ahead of her. If you want to kick her out of your life thats your business but its also your loss. Furthermore, you can't call yourself a good christian if you have no regard for your daughter. You sold her car, you are denying her from seeing her boyfriend, kicking her out and taking away college. That def does not sound like a good christian

Answer 11

She is 18....she does NOT need your permission to get an abortion. If you were a REAL Christian, you'd help her and support her not give her ultimatums. What if she had been raped? You want to force her to have her rapist's baby? Yes, abortion is justified in some cases. In this case, it is LEGAL for her to get one if she wants to. So, if she decides on an abortion, you're just going to throw her out in the streets??? Yeah, that's real Christian like. Read your Bible and not just parts of it. Real Christians may not like abortion, but do not condemn and disown people who have chosen to get one.