my boyfriend and i had been together for almost 2 years and almost 6 months of our realtionship was long distance and he cheated on me..i thought i would give them the benefit of the doubt so i forgave him..jus recently he has left for college..and we barely talk when i went to visit him at school i was going on his computer..and i seen that he had been talking to alot of girls saying that he wanted to have sex..went into detail..so that night i broke up with him..i didnt give him the real reason why..its just that ive been with him for so long and i thought that he loved me why would he do this or even intend to..and it hurts even more than the first tyme...i keep thinking about him..i love him hes my first everything but its like some things you love..are just better off not in your life..i just feel that im not appreciated and that i deserve better..his sister tells me im wrong and i should take him bak..that would be one of the biggest mistakes ive ever made in my life.
2007-09-07 09:52:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Begin by understanding that he is a pig (I am a guy). And whatever image you had of him as the man you love should now be destroyed. If it is not, that means you are being too needy of a man who deserves no respect.
Move on. You will find another. I promise. Get an education and a great job, build up your confidence and shine.
2007-09-07 09:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he recently left for college, then you guys are both really young. High school sweethearts, perhaps? Get over it and him. Young love very, VERY seldom works. That's the reason people shouldn't marry so young. You haven't experienced anything in life. There's a million people you'll come across in your lifetime. You don't even know what you don't want yet, cause you haven't come across anyone or anything. Sorry, but he's just acting like a typical young male in a new college environment.
And his sister is crazy to tell you to allow his cheating and lieing and take him back. She must be as needy and desperate for a man as you.
2007-09-07 17:01:21 · answer #2 · answered by ron-D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what's good for you. You worry about YOU and don't worry so much about what everyone else tells you that you need to do, and I'm sorry, but his sister is going to lean towards the loyalty to her brother. I think if he's lying to you and trying to have sex with other people now, to marry him would be like purposely jumping head first into the Grand Canyon. Why would you WANT to hurt yourself? Better off blue for a couple of nights (now before there's marriage and possibly children involved), than blue for the rest of your life!
2007-09-07 17:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known many people who were sucked in by a man like this. Promises, charm, great fun and great sex. 10 or 15 years down the line, they realized that they had wasted a large portion of their lives feeling bad about themselves because they loved a man who didn't respect them, who treated them like they didn't matter. If this is what you want for yourself, keep going. if you want more and know that you are worth a lot, turn the other way and find happiness beyond words somewhere else.
2007-09-07 17:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a lot of times this happens he was your first everything and sometimes its hard to give it up and the thought of starting all over is so over whelming...but time will help you and you can find a guy that is out there for that will treat you right....he has taken you for granted and knows you will be there even if he is having sex with other girls. so get rid of him and move on...it will take time and yes it will be hard not to just run back to him but he is a cheating jerk..it will be is loss so move on and be happy just give it some time...
2007-09-07 17:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young, and at that age you should not be that serious about some boy that lives far away or is now going to college in another town. You are not married and neither is he. Just understand that he is in a different environment now and that he wants to explore it.
You should do the same.
2007-09-07 17:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by tutis000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean for this to sound insensitive, but if you felt that strongly to break up with him, then try to move on. It's college. You'll meet so many new people and he obviously has already. Sometimes the "first" isn't always the best. Very few people end up with their firsts in the end. Just chalk it up as experience and keep looking.
2007-09-07 16:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's right sister! Taking him back would be the biggest mistake you will have made in your life at this point. He doesn't love you....he has no respect for you...if he even had an ounce of either he wouldn't be treating you this way...Lose his stupid cheating *ss for good!
2007-09-07 16:59:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend. My only one. some time we have learn by make mistake in life. You have to learn and move on. Brightest future if you be strong and know what you want in life. You are so young and trust your destiny. Love and happiness will come your way when your realize how important you are. Yes, any women need is respect and appreciation its not time to waste, relationship base on faith and trust, If you partner haven't appreciate you mu advices move on.You will find a male would please and appreciate you better. Please take care my dear friend take one step at a time.
2007-09-07 19:03:14 · answer #9 · answered by siwa27_stay_4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I am a guy and I agree he is a pig. It will hurt for a while but you will be OK. Someone who will appreciate you is out there somewhere. It is time to move on.
2007-09-07 17:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by HUH? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋