well i starrting college/uni soon and im scared of going out and using the buses.. cause i get scared that i will get lost.. but how can i overcome this fear of going out on my own?
2007-09-07 09:50:42 · 22 answers · asked by b 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Fear is a natural reaction to danger or the threat of injury. If suddenly confronted with a huge dangerous animal, most everyone will turn and run. Likewise, if you are given a choice of doing something you perceive as harmful, you will usually avoid the danger. The problem occurs when the danger is not real or the fears are not rational.
You can overcome irrational fears by confronting them in a safe--but yet scary--environment. Small successes over danger can build up your confidence and bravery. Sometimes you can also do this by following the example of others.
You can overcome fears by gaining confidence in your ability to do such a task. That is usually done by doing something difficult or dangerous and seeing that the consequences of failure are not so bad or that the chances of failure are not so great.
Certainly, when you complete what you perceive as a dangerous task, you feel great about your achievement and about yourself. You have the confidence to be able to do activity again. You can sky-dive again or speak to the assembly again. you still may have some anxiety, but you are sure you will be able to succeed again.
Your confidence from overcoming your fears can rub off in other--unrelated--areas. Being confident from jumping out of an airplane may rub off in being confident about cold-calling a potential customer.
2007-09-08 12:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Like the person mentioned above, a map would be the best solution. Just carry it around with you and if you do get lost, whip it out and use it! Simple as that. If worse comes to worst then you can go to a nearby store and ask them for directions or purchase a new map. Also if you take a buddy with you, the possibility of getting lost isn't as scary. You'll still have someone as your companion if you do get lost in the worst possible situation. Don't be afraid. Hope you have fun exploring! Good luck.
2007-09-07 09:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Josie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy some maps of the town, use Google Maps to plan your route (remember to keep the roads visible on te map) and if you can't bring up the information on bus routes on the net, get someone to either contact the Bus station firm or take you down there.
Just relax. We all have to take our first bus into areas we don't know, but its really the only way to overcome the fear. When getting on the bus, ask the driver if they're going to that area, and mention you don't know the area. The driver will look out for you and will be aware of where to stop for you.
If you live in the UK, search www.firstgroup.com it lists bus route details and any contact details.
2007-09-07 10:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by Chris W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up on the internet all the buses you can catch and a map and timetable. Write these into a note form you can understand or print them off then when you get lost or stuck just look at the print outs.
Also try going with (a) friend(s) and taking something to distract your thoughts on the bus - an ipod, a book or something similar often helped me.
2007-09-07 09:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have enough money you could get a Tom Tom, or get one of those phones that can tell you where you are, I think they use 'Street map' off the internet or something.
Alternatively, find a friend who can go with you to start with so that you get used to it.
I know it's scary, I hate the thought of getting lost, maybe just go out and go a little bit further each day so that you can always remember how to get back, you could cycle or go for a jog, then you could remember where you went.
2007-09-07 10:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. Get an A-Z and carry £20 on you. Get the local cabbie no. just in case you get flustered and they will pick you up exactly where you are. Guaranteed, you might use it the first time but second time you'll be using the bus as everyone else does. It helps having backup in your pocket, puts your mind at ease. Also, ask the bus driver to indicate to you where you must get off and sit near the front. They are really helpful.
2007-09-07 09:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet up with a friend that knows the area, but I wouldn't go alone. Try and venture out a little at a time until you get to know the place. I'm sure the campus has some kind of a map of the immediate area. Ask them.
2007-09-07 09:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The night before you're due to get the bus to uni or wherever, sit or lie down and shut your eyes. Imagine yourself going on the bus route you usually get to uni. Visualise yourself getting on, calm&collect, sitting down, grabbing a seat. Visualise your journey step by step.
The next day you wont feel as nervous as you have already visualised what you are about to do.
Good luck
2007-09-07 10:29:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be strong.....keep doing it ,day after day,it well get easier.
There's many more scary things in life.............the more you confront your fear the more you will learn how to cope with it.
The key is to figure out where the fear comes from and then to find out the best way to get around it......
This is something only you can understand...
good luck at uni
2007-09-07 09:56:39 · answer #9 · answered by rwjh1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face your fear head on. Wel almost. Get a friend to come with you. Someone who knows the are. Get thm to sit a few rows behind you and ignor you completely! Get of at the stop you think you should and get them to folow you. If it is wrong they can asily guide you back home. Do it a few times till your confident. Don't worry.
2007-09-07 09:55:59 · answer #10 · answered by cestradoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋