I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now. Things seem to be going ok with a few bumps in the road along the way. However, lately, she has been saying I LOVE YOU but not with enthusiasm, including sometimes when she says it on the phone so low I can’t hear her and have to ask what she said. Recently, and only because it was something I said in conversation that brought this up, she said she is going to start working later on Wednesdays starting in 2 weeks and trying to work a few hours extra each day during the week for extra money. Again, she didn’t volunteer this info. Now I wouldn’t think anything of this being that we have talked about getting a place in 5months when her lease is up and we could use the extra cash to support ourselves. However, she has a history of cheating, including her ex hubby. And I still suspect she talks to her other ex she cheated on him with, but she denies it. Even though she has text him in front of me.
2007-09-07 09:34:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And her text to me first thing in the morning have stopped and she text me later on. Her text have become short like “gd morning, oxox” where as I send a nicer text each morning saying that I love her or have a nice day. She never text anything back. We are both in our 30’s and I have been down the road before and know when people start to lose interest. I’m afraid to talk to her about this because we have had fights in the past about her EX who she cheated on her ex hubby with and don’t want to cause a riff. I’ve noticed her decline slightly in being excited to see me. Do you think that she is either making up and excuse to see her EX after work being that he only lives 2 miles from her job or is she getting ready to save money so she can get her own place in case she changes her mind about me. I’m just a little curious about this. and we also see each otehr everyday and all weekend long...thanks.!
2007-09-07 09:35:11 · update #1
I guess it's just your perspective on things. Maybe she's really tired from all the working and assumes you know she loves you. You have to talk about it and if this ends up in a fight then you both are lacking the right communication skills for problem solving. If you suspect something then let her know too and see how she reacts to that. usually her body language will give it away, you just have to learn how to read it. Liars will leave out details on questions, will change the subjects, hide their faces, or be jittery and blinks more than usual. If you don't trust her then your going to have more issues down the road. All in all talk and get this issue solved.
2007-09-07 09:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
It sounds to me like you have that gut feeling when you know somethings not quite right. Its a little too early to say but i have seen these signs before and the end result is never good. If she has a history of cheating then your in for a bumpy ride. Cheaters never change. There in it for the excitement and the thrill of the flirt. Just bide your time and keep your eyes and ears open.
There are woman out that will treat you better.
Leave the cheaters to cheat on each other so that they can leave the rest of us alone to be happy!
It will all come out in the wash as they say.
Best wishes
2007-09-07 16:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by idai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. If you're not convinced, move on. Not want to cause trouble isn't a good excuse. Suspiscions don't just go away and it will keep you wondering for a long time which will destroy any chance of your relationship being a good one. It's only been 4 months and already there are big issues, that's not a good sign. Maybe she is really saving money. But the fact that she doesn't seem as interested would lead me to believe that maybe she wants to go her own way. Good luck.
2007-09-07 16:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you need to talk to her tell her how you feel we are getting only one side of the story do you guys fight a lot? There might be problems in the relationship that you are not aware of why don't you get her to open up tell her your concerns and suspicions. You might be clouded by the fact that she cheated on her Hubby before she met you but to move forward she might need to stop communicating with this guy , the opne she had an affair with. If all this fails then yes i would be concerned just keep the lines of communication open here before you jump to conclusions.cheers
2007-09-07 16:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by Versacetica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask her? Why are talking about moving in with each other 5 months down the road if you both were in love shack up right now! You are in a weak relationship the sooner you resolve your issues the sooner you can get along with your life.
2007-09-07 16:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by rockyb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asked this earlier. Again, stop smothering her. You're going to make her hate you. You're too demanding of her time and affection; it's only been 4 months. What do you think, that this is a marriage? She owes you nothing. And if she's sending her ex a text in front of you, then she's not hiding it. If she's not hiding it, she doesn't care if you know or not, and she doesn't care about losing you.
2007-09-07 16:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people get together with people who admittedly cheated on a spouse or a previous partner?????
DO you really think that if she could cheat on her husband, the one she swore her vows to, she would take a dating relationship more serious and wouldn't cheat???
She is pulling away because she is not interested in you anymore. She is simply over you.
Take care of yourself and end it first. Get out now. And definitely do not get a place together!!!
2007-09-07 16:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by tutis000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like she is cheating, but it definitely seems like the passion died down a bit. She obviously lost some interest. Four months is too soon to tell how it's going to turn out. Good luck.
2007-09-07 16:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's suspect whether it is really something or just all in your head...she's still suspect. And since you continue to question this over and over, why not save yourself the aggrivation and call it quits. You obviously have a problem with her past, and obviously can't get over it. Either let it go or let her go.
2007-09-07 16:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't trust her. She said she didn't talk to her ex but texted him. What's the difference? She's still in communication with him.
She's your girlfriend, not your wife. You need to think seriously about moving in with a woman who has proven herself to be untrustworthy. Good luck.
2007-09-07 16:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋