my aunt and i were talking about my relationship with my boyfriend..and she says out on no where..all men cheat..and that its just men married or not married they stilll cheat..she told me that as long as im being taken care off than it shouldnt matter and i shouldnt care about what hes doing as long as hes taking care of the household and not bringing his other personal life into our house as well as our realationship..i was so upset..because im thinking as her being a older (31) she would know better than to say anything like this.
2007-09-07 09:23:46 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, hunny, not all men cheat and it is not for you to put up with when they do.
If your man is cheating there will be signs and it's up to you to decide whether or not to drop him on his hiney or put up with it.
Personally, if I ever found out my husband cheated on me there would be serious hell to pay for it.
That was just a terrible steriotype and misunderstanding of how real, healthy, relationships should work.
Not all men cheat, and neither do all women.
2007-09-07 09:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by Tina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes some men do cheat but they do not all. The biggest factor is trust, whether or not you can trust that man. And jsut because she is older doesnt mean she knows better, no disrespect I 'm sure your aunt is a nice woman and is only saying what she thinks is best for you, but maybe she has been in some bad realionships and is bitter?
Saying that all men cheat is just like saying all women cheat. It's really unfair to the men. There are a lot of great guys out there.
2007-09-07 09:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your aunt's got some issues. First of all not all men cheat. Secondly if they are cheating you don't allow it to continue just because they are taking care of you! That sounds crazy just typing it!
Come on, you know better than that don't you? Don't listen to a word she says. Obviously she's been done wrong by one to many guys and has lost all self respect for her self. No woman should ever have to put up with a man cheating on her and no woman should even want to. Her ideas of marriage and relationships are way off!
There are good men out there that will love and respect you! You might have one, I don't know. But I wouldn't judge it according to your aunts thoughts you should make own judgments about men.
2007-09-07 09:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn, she sounds like some old rich chick from the Titanic days who will take crap all her life so the man can pay the bills. Not all men cheat. Women do it too. Everyone does things for a reason and while its no excuse for the behavior (cheating) it does happen a lot. I dont think its ok for the other partner to turn their head and allow it. thats just wrong. You aren't married yet, so dont let her opinions upset you. If you are having problems in the cheating dept while you are dating, i would suggest not getting married to that person unless he can truly change. People can change, but they have to want to change. you cant make them. Everything happens for a reason. Good Luck with your man
2007-09-07 10:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Christie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age does not impart wisdom.
My wife was raised in a home where her parents dictated her life. Coincidentally, after she turned 30, she started understanding all of the guidance (or misguidance) that her own parents were giving her.
Only date a man if you're going to marry him. Marry because he has a good family. Only marry your race. If you divorce, you're a loser and a shame. The list goes on and on.
It's heartbreaking to hear what she was given and she is saddened that she feels her parents weren't the best guides (as I am sure you now feel towards your aunt).
Enjoy that fact that your aunt is trying to help but she should stay away from the relationship topic. Get her talking about her cookie recipes!
2007-09-07 09:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone cheats! That's a terribly narrow-minded view of the world. Being realistic, some people do cheat, but not EVERYBODY. Your aunt has probably just been hurt by a man or seen someone get hurt by a man, and now she just thinks everyone's bad. She's refusing to see any good in people (or men in this case). Ignore her. Although it's important to listen to the advice of your elders, this is your life. You need to have your own view of the world.
2007-09-07 09:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by rlsejhm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clearly something happened to your aunt to make her believe this. It is NOT true- not all men cheat. Some men do, but not all. If a man is happy and in love, he isn't going to cheat (unless he has a sex addiction or something out of the norm.) Many surveys have shown that men who did cheat did so because they felt somehow unsatisfied in their marriage. If you show your man every day how much you love him, and he does the same for you, cheating shouldn't be a problem.
As for her advice about turning the other cheek if he does cheat, I couldn't disagree more. When a man cheats, he is disrespecting you- to allow yourself to take that emotional abuse as long as he continues to provide for you is to abase yourself. If he cheats, leave him.
2007-09-07 09:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not true. Generally speaking infidelity is a 50/50 thing. Women tend to be just as much of the problem as the man.
Men cheat for sex, women cheat for "relationship".
She is a jilted woman and while being "older" it does not necessarily make one mature.
I like what one poster mentioned. Men cheat on "ugly" women. Ugly can mean things other then appearance. Your aunt sounds like she may be of the ugly variety..
2007-09-07 10:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dria89, My dear males and females are very much alike in some ways. Some do cheat while others do not ! The real problem is, is that we are all human beings. Humans are born with a sinful nature. If we accept Jesus into our hearts to be our lord and savior we do have a chance ! Your Aunt has obviously been hurt but she needs spanked for her negative words ! I am so sorry but sweety I am 47 and men are not all cheaters !
2007-09-07 09:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has obviously been burned by someone. All men DO NOT cheat. We are all capable of cheating, men and women alike. Not all of us cheat though. If that was the case then the world would just be one big orgy by now. Have confidence in yourself and your love until you have a reason not to be. It doesn't matter what anyone elses opinion is on love, men, relationships, marriage, sex, etc. except for your own. Your perception is your reality, just remember that.
2007-09-07 09:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by No one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has had a very bad experience/s with men and is very jaded.. The idea behind marriage is to be in a committed relationship with another person that you can trust and lean on when you need to.
You have to decide for yourself what you want your marriage to be like. There seems to be a growing population of "open marriages" these days, but that doesn't mean that is what the sacrament of marriage is about at all.. Don't let her scare you into thinking that all men are that way, because they aren't. And don't put up with men that are that way either.
2007-09-07 09:30:56 · answer #11 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋