my husband walked out don't love me anymore, Altho my daughter is not his, and house is in his name, i still put lots of money into doing it up, he want me to buy him out, if only it was that easy.
He earns 500 a week i am a student nurse, i know i can stay in the house but what will happen if i can't buy him out, would they accept me pay half of mortgage, till ready to move.
As he can afford another home i can't, i don't see why i should striggle buy him out when he earns all this money. I know it should be half an half but i can't afford it yet, why should i be pushed, he walked couldn handle marriage why should i suffer.
Any advice please
2007-09-07 09:00:24 · 15 answers · asked by princes23 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stand on your own two feet girl. he doesn't owe you a free ride, have more pride the relationship is over. sell the bloody house, why cling on to a past relationship, call it quits,, even if it means taking a loss, your better than that, you can rise above it
2007-09-07 09:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a sad situation there and I hope things get better for you.
When going for a mortgage you have to earn a certain amount of money before you could qualify to buy a home - certain price etc. Right now I would be surprised if you qualify since you mentioned your a student. I learned this when my hubby and I went for a mortgage! Not easy.
Get a good attorney and YES go for half. Maybe it can be worked out..
You bought this house with him and a family in mind. Do you REALLY want this house and memories? Until you have your career going why not get an apartment, make a fresh start - a new life. There will be another house just like you will meet another MAN - not a guy who up and runs.
You, your daughter and your future is what really matters here.
Take care
2007-09-07 16:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask for him to buy you out of course. Or sell the house and use your share to put a deposit down on a house for yourself. There are now 'affordable houses' schemes up and down the country for key personnel like nurses so I would look into joint ownership schemes too (they might help you buy the house you are in for example). You could go and see an estate agent (a good one) and get them to run through your options. For the meantime, ask your ex to be patient and carry on helping with the mortgage until you can find a suitable alternative. Everyone who has been in your shoes can sympathise. It all seems so unfair. However, once you have it all sorted, anything you have in the future will be yours entirely and it will be a satisfying end to this unpleasant part of your life. You and your daughter can have security knowing that no-one can take anything from you again. Good luck.
2007-09-07 18:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call an attorney, and see what you options are. No one will let you pay "half the mortgage"; if you need a place to live, you better start looking now. Even though the house is in his name, you may still be entitled to something (being that you were married while making mortgage payments; these payments came from BOTH of you, in the eyes of the law). But this is something best discussed with an attorney.
2007-09-07 16:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a lawyer , a good one and take his *** to the cleaner's , I dont like women who do this mind you because I didnt do it I left my ex everything lmao , but some time's when a person just decides they cant handle the adult world anymore so they walk and people suffer then they should do whats right.
Dont let him push you round or make decisions for you because as long as he knows your not using a lawyer he knows he has 1 up on you so seriously get a lawyer and find out your legal right's and if you dont like what the 1st , 2nd or 3rd lawyer tell's you keep hunting until you find 1 who is on your side not his.
Even if you have to use legal aid you can still be picky and say no this 1 has no idea.
2007-09-07 16:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go and speak to citizens advice bureau.. you have a small child, if you take him to court you would get 70% of the house, the courts will not allow a young child to be homeless.. So go and get some advise, no point sitting at home worrying, just get your facts straight, if you know you can win, he might back off. Believe me they always be on your side due to the fact you have a small child, and that is the only home your child knows. Good luck
2007-09-07 16:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by Ruksana P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you live in a community property state the house was bought after you married everything is split 50/50. If not then get a good lawyer to fight for you because your going to need one.
2007-09-07 16:09:29 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay a similar situation has happened to us basically when you apply for a divorce which i hope you have when the divorce has reached to settle the financial assets of yourself and your ex then they will give you a form e in there you write everything from pennys to millions
okay after that they speak to you formally and ask you whether or not you want the mortgage to be transferred to you if yes they will do that and they or your mortgage provider will arrange flexible payments over a period of tiem for you, if not tehn they will ask you to sell the house and give your ex his share and you have the rest
2007-09-07 18:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Perfectionist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I understand your frustration, I can’t understand what you are trying to say…
But I will try.
If your husband walked out on you then there is no repairing your marriage he does not love you.
If your husband is divorcing you, then he must do the things to be done to divorce you.
In the mean time you are still married to him, so your current agreement/arrangement is still valid, even if he does not want to come home.
In the mean time think about what your going to do after your divorce.
Do not pay him anything – everything belongs to both of you and should be sold together and split in half.
Good Luck
2007-09-07 16:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by The truth 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you need a brief but in the mean time go to the bank or building society and explain the situation. If you don't you'll be getting a nasty letter any day soon.
2007-09-07 16:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋