(i was older than him).He returned back but 3 days later i found out it was because of sex mainly so i finished the whole story.Now,after almost 2 months, i still think of him sometimes, i'm better but i want to get him out of my brain for good.There are 2 other guys they are interested in me but i don't feel like this for nobody.I don't even go to my favourite club as i'm afraid he'll be there and ,even worse, with another girl.The worst of all is that i have to give exams next month,very important about my professional future and i can't focus.Before this story i was self confident and full of life.Now everything went back and i press myself to move on.When this wound will heal?
2007-09-07 08:54:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think at this point, you have invested enough time suffering over your ex. You need to pick yourself up and get yourself together. It is time to get angry, after all, you stated that your ex was only interested in you for his own gratification. It is time to learn how to choose what issues are important for YOU to lead a happy, healthy, productive life. Do not waste any more time, energy, or heartache on someone who is self centered,disrespectful, and does not care about you. Think about your career,your strong character, and your optimistic personality before this looser entered your life. Time will eventually take care of your heartbreak, but you must push yourself to achieve your goals that you obviously worked very hard for. If you are not ready to date again, then don't. There is no timetable to re-enter the dating scene. You will know when you are ready. Pour your efforts into your career, family members, and friends, who are worthy of your attention. With determination, and some positive thinking, you will get back on track. Take care of yourself first!
2007-09-07 09:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I have a similar problem. My ex boyfriend and I were dating for over 2 years, and I actually felt like I NEEDED to be with him, I even told myself it would get better, he would change, etc,etc..But the truth is people don't change so I told myself to forget him, and I never really could..we fought alot and I was WAY better off without him, and I knew that. So i tried dating other people, and everything, but I could never feel that way about anyone like I did for him..and I hid inside, and stop hanging out with my friends because I was so afraid to see him with another girl..but the fact was..i needed to GROW UP. I mean there shouldn't be anything easier than thinking to yourself logicly and saying.."wow, I feel better without him, no fighting, some other guys like me...why can't I just move on??" But I just kept trying to contact him, and I knew nothing had changed...so what I did, was found hobbies to keep me busy, and just thought to myself I was doing the right thing. I eventually found someone else and worked on that relationship, and its so much easier to get over someone if you just hang around someone else or even date someone else..so all I can say is good luck, and try to fins things to keep you busy, such as school, hobbies, find some new friends, or just enjoy time by yourself..who knows you could actually do it
hope that helped
2007-09-07 16:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by Zephyra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly in love with this guy, It will take some time, maybe 6 months to a year. That is up to you. what you must do now is to throw your self back into your work, to keep the mind occupied. If you have a close friend preferably a woman, console with her, if she is a real friend she will listen. You need to get everything off your chest to help in clearing your mind. Good luck.
2007-09-07 16:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by cfb193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get over someone if you are committed to doing that. Months before I met my husband, I was dumped and not very nicely (didn't have the guts to tell me to my face). I basically said "good riddance" to myself and committed myself to moving on. It does take time and sometimes you'll backslide (i.e. miss him, think you didn't do the right thing, etc.), but you just need to not let your mind run away with itself.
I'd suggest keeping busy at all times. Try new hobbies, spend lots of time with friends, etc.
2007-09-07 16:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Sturm und Drang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you start to pine for him, remind yourself that you are giving control to him. But putting yourself into your work will build your self-esteem and your life.
2007-09-07 16:00:11 · answer #5 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just think of how bad it would b 2 let him use you and then toss u aside...
u r not his pet or toy so if he just wants sex don't do it unless YOU can do it and then casually say, well, that wasn't that good so i won't b cing u nemore and punk his lame tush!
peace(sometimes)
tough love!
2007-09-07 16:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just takes time.
2007-09-07 15:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Alania 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? And is english your second language?
"give" exams?....these are the people who are teaching our children? I hope I'm lost or stoned or something.
2007-09-07 16:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think im lost too.....
Just be friends with the other 2 guys it will work itself from there.
2007-09-07 15:59:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You lost me.
2007-09-07 15:57:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋