I'm not trying to be antagonistic in any way, I'm really just curious.?

Question

Why is it that so many feminists seem to equate promiscuity with independance? I mean, what does one really have to do with the other? Can't you be an independant woman vertically? I say that feminists equate the two because they've always been at the forefront of the so-called revolution.

Is there a difference between casual and promiscuous? I mean, I guess technically there is but if you take a casual approach, you're probably going to be casual often.

I'm super sorry that I'm not being clear. Obviously, 1 or 2 partners is not what I mean. I mean the girls that I was in college with who, literally, slept with every guy they met and said it wasn't a problem because they were liberated and, as strong feminist women, had a right to do that with no shame. I don't disagree, you should be able to do what you want, I just didn't see the connection between the two. Men can earn the same labels as women so I'm not saying that their behavior is "acceptable" either.

Answer 1

I don't consider myself promiscuous. I'm very picky, but easy. I have the ability to have sex and to have great orgasms, I have the desire to do this, and i have the right to do this, so I exersize that right. I enjoy sex and I don't use it as a weapon. But I don't have to be hunted or chased etc. If I want to have sex with a guy and he reciprocates then I will have sex with him. I make it clear to the guy weather or not I want strings (strings = relationship, no strings = just sex) I don't consider this promiscuous I consider it exercising my right as woman to choose who her sexual partners are.

Answer 2

Men and women shouldn't be labeled by their sexual appetites but I must say that this farcical argument that men aren't held in lower esteem for having multiple partners is stupid. Men hear all the time how all they want is sex and we are "pigs and dogs" because of it. Women have the right to decide their own sexuality and that is good. But to say men aren't labled the same way is just false more times than not a woman who sleeps around is labled in the singular [ she did this or that] Men are labled as a group [ all men want is sex all men are sexist pigs all men are sexist dogs] and here is a fact for you femmes women have always been as promiscuous as men [ it takes two to do it so 1 male and 1 female equates to equal numbers of sex acts] and before you femmes bring up rape it has been proven repeatedly that the stats for rape have always been overblown 1 in 4 women or 1in 6 would mean that there are tens of millions of rapists out there and we all know there isn't those stats are just more feminasty lies.
Edit I have also noticed in my lifetime that womentend to call other women sluts and whores more often than any man does so Why blame men for this? It makes no sense men getting the blame for something women do more often is common place however.

Answer 3

Actually, on this forum I hear quite a few stereotypes about feminists that contradict yours:
-Feminists must be ugly and therefore celibate (otherwise, why would they choose to be a feminist?)
-Feminists are lesbians (and therefore, must hate men, but it's not clear if they think lesbians are pro-sex or not)
-Feminists are anti-pornography and therefore anti-sex (I guess the feminist parents missed the anti-sex part)

Like others have said, the 50's were sexually repressive in the US, the 60's were a rebellion of all sorts of kinds, the 70's were mellow, and the 80's brought the feminist backlash. Most of the feminist stereotypes out there contradict each other, there's no way to make sense of them.

Answer 4

It may be because a strong independent woman won't be constrained by society's expectations of morality, which feminists attribute to religious and cultural rules which were mostly put into place by men. Promiscuity may be related to independence, because a woman who makes her own choices while not worrying too much about others' opinions, may choose to have sex regardless of societal expectations.

Answer 5

Every time I hear a woman has been with more than one man,I hear added too the term "Promiscuity"...
I guess for men is a higher number to warrant such,isn't it?
Who calls/sets how many partners a woman can have w/o being called that?

Does "Promiscuity" label her as Feminist,or disqualifies her to be "so and so"Feminist?

Answer 6

I think what they meant had nothing to do with the actual number of sexual partners,

but rather with the idea that women shouldn't be negatively stereotyped by society for having "too many" partners while men aren't.

Answer 7

In my mind there is no correlation between femisim and sexual lifestyle what your trying to say is why are woman deemed Who#@! when they sleep around but men can do as they please thats how I see your question. So feminism is relative to extreme sexuality, someone misinformed you, I understand the degree of innocence in the question but investigate the true meaning of femisnism fully than form a hypothesis or your own tehory and opinion, you may be surprised

Answer 8

I wouldn't line up feminists with promiscuity....

But if you want a direct link between independence and casual sex (as opposed to promiscuity), I would say that it shows that women don't need to have a boyfriend or husband in order to be satisfied sexually. And that, I would say, is a form of independence.

As for promiscuity, that is something that I don't think any of us can judge in another...

Answer 9

Most feminists nowadays are not like that, but in the 60s and 70s, during the beginning of modern feminism, the Sexual Revolution occurred. In the 50s, sex was a taboo subject. The sexual revolution made it so it was not scandalous to have sex before marriage, rape was much more discussed and prevention measures were taken, and sex ed became a part of the educational system.

Answer 10

No, the idea is that women can enjoy sex (it was once believed that women could not, or should not, and if they did they were considered whores), and that women can choose to have sex when and with whom they choose, without being seen as "loose women." Feminism does not advocate promiscuity, just the idea that women should own their own sexuality, and be able to express it as they wish.