I have been married a week. We were both virgins when we got married. We have sex on average 1-2 times per day. We use lots of lube (just FYI, KY warming and tingling is useless for us, too thin. The generic lubricating jelly works much better!) and have at least 10-15 minutes of foreplay before sex. My concern is, after a week it's still agonizing for him to enter me. I noticed blood on the sheets this morning. The pain is local, in the "taint" area. It burns like alcohol in a cut when I pee. Is there something we can do to stop this pain? Should I be concerned? We tried me on top which didn't hurt as bad, but still hurts enough to make me say "Ow!" Serious answers only please.
2007-09-07 08:52:28 · 10 answers · asked by Plain J 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You need to give yourself a week or so to heal... Congrats n being a virgin and all when you got married ( I think it's fabulous that he was too ) but this is the problem with it, it does sort of wreck the honeymoon.... First and second and third an devn fourth and fith and sith time sex can be quite painful for a lot of women, so you are normal... Definately don't try to have sex 2 times a day at this stage.... Let yourself heal then try again, slowly, with lube, and for goodness sakes don't push it by trying to do things more than once in a day or even a few days... After you get comfy and all stretched out you can start frolicking like fools, but not now.... If you keep having too much sex too soon you are just going to keep aggrevating things
2007-09-07 09:42:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you were stretched alittle too far and it broke the skin. That is why you feel the "burning" sensation. Yes, that can be very painful. When you are having intercourse and it feels like it's burning or hurting you should avoid letting your husband keep trying to penetrate you. You have to be very well lubricated in order for penetration to happen easily. Also during intercourse, if at anytime it becomes painful, you must stop. If not, you chance tearing that delicate skin over and over again. Go slow, give it time, and you both will adjust "sexually" to one another. Also, take alittle break until you heal. Slow down and take time with one another. Good luck to you and Congrats!
2007-09-15 02:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by SeaMistress 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1] get a mirror to look down there - see if you can see any 'scraped' or 'raw' areas.
2] take a bathe in warm water with baking soda
3] apply a bit of vaseline to sore areas before you pee, or pour lukewarm water over yourself while you pee [ stings less ] Blot dry, so you don't rub off the vaseline.
4] skip sex for a few days until you heal - may take a week or so.
5] AFTER you heal, then practice longer foreplay - you should be lubricating and very anxious for intercourse , and he should wait for you to guide him. Most women require at least 30 minutes of foreplay.
2007-09-07 09:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a couple days off to heal. Sex is just something your body isn't used to & you have "rubbed" yourself "raw" from a form of activity that isn't normal for you. Lots of couples have experienced the same thing so just give yourself a few days. If you are still having problems in a few weeks see the doctor but I am pretty sure you'll be okay.
2007-09-07 09:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it takes a while to get used to it. if you are tense it will hurt more. You might have a little tear and urine is hitting it making it burn. Sometimes when you start having sex you get urinary tract infections (UTI). That can burn too. You might want to see doctor if it still burns after about 1 week. You might want to try a dildo to stretch yourself open more and get used to the feeling of having something inside you..
2007-09-15 06:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by mia m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are suppose to start your period tomorrow then your uterus is already filled with the blood you are about to expel, probably the deep sex just caused some to leak out early, nothing to be worried about. Unless sex is very painful and accompanied by bleeding i wouldnt worry about it. It is also very rare to puncture the walls of the vagina, you would need to be engaged in very rough sex with little or no lubrication.
2016-04-03 09:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
penetration hurt for me for like the first year or so.(my fiance is large) but its sounds like you rushed into it too many times. take a few days off and see if you dont feel better. you've got some friction burn issues. it happens to all of us when we get a bit overzealous. just take a break.
2007-09-12 11:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by yep....thats right. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow down a bit and allow some healing
2007-09-15 08:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your self a brake from th Va-Jay-Jay and blow some bubbles or knock on the back door.....
2007-09-14 12:02:36 · answer #9 · answered by j b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
possible urinary tract infection. this happened to me after i got married. see a dr, you may need an antibiotic.
2007-09-14 08:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋