My partner is a pipe welder. We are living on the road right now, but we're going back home in Dec. so that we can be close to family as I get farther along in my pregnancy. He told me he wants me to get a job out on the job site that he's working at 'till we go back home in Dec. My partner makes plenty of money to support the 2 of us right now but he says he would like to make a little extra money, I understand that, I understand him wanting to extra money, we do have a baby on the way, but I really don't want to get out & work on the construction site. My partner has talked to all of the bosses to try to get me on the site, they're supposed to be calling me next wk. I really don't want to work outside on a construction site, plus I like being at home & taking care of the house (I cook, clean, do laundry, pay bills, all the house work). How do I tell my partner I don't want that job? Plus I don't think that a pregnant woman should be out on a construction job site.
2007-09-07 08:48:11 · 27 answers · asked by Lulu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him that you are not opposed to working, and that you will start looking for a job, but you do NOT want a job at a construction site. If you are going to work, you might as well enjoy what you do...
2007-09-07 08:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel a job would be too strenuous or unpleasant for you, then I would not take it. If your husband is really concerned about making some extra income, he should be fine with you looking for a more fitting position, given your pregnancy and being a woman. I would be concerned about any pregnant woman working on a construction site. If I were you, and I really needed to find a position, I would be looking for something in a clean, safe environment - perhaps retail, or a professional office setting.
All that you can do is express your concerns with your husband openly. In the end it's your choice whether or not to work at all, and it's your choice as to the position you take. While compromise is very important, you shouldn't be pushed into something you really don't want to do.
2007-09-07 15:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by raindreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, soooo many issues here. First of all, since you are having his baby, the least the man can do is marry you - or maybe you don't want him. As far as the job, those kind of decisions are usually made jointly. However, if this guy is pushing you around like this when you're pregnant, don't expect it to get any better.
I've noticed that young men who have grown up in the age of feminism often have an expectation that their wives will work. I'm not saying women should not work, but it seems that the option to stay at home has been eroded, and I thought that feminism was all about choice.
I think you need to sit down with your "partner" and have a long talk.
2007-09-07 15:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your concern about the safety of your baby, a construction site may not be the safest of places for a pregnant person, however, I can understand your partner's position a baby is a huge financial burden and he want to make sure you both can handle it. It would not hurt to work while you are pregnant, what about babysitting at your current home to make some additional income that way you can do the other things that u he did not have you, he would have to pay someone to do them i.e. takeout, the maids, laundry service and bookkeeper.
2007-09-07 15:56:25 · answer #4 · answered by Cynthia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some kind of compromise.
Is there a secretarial job you can do for the construction company where you are sitting inside answering phones or filing papers?
You should not be out there pregnant on a construction site. Tell him that the baby/his kid may end up exposed to toxins or added stress that could affect the birth or development!
Ask yourself is this worth it? Find family or friends to run away to so you are protected from this overbearing partner of yours if it gets bad.
Don't let him make you do anything.
2007-09-07 15:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by fanny gardener 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do NOT want to be working on a construction site while you are pregnant, particularly as you get further along. If your partner wants you to help make more money and you feel up to it, why don't you contact a temp agency to see if you can find something in an office. You don't want anything where you are going to be on your feet for long periods of time or where they are not going to be flexible about your taking breaks (for example, to use the bathroom!)
2007-09-07 15:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another job that you don't mind doing. Just be honest and tell him you don't want to work outside at a construction site. You should get a job to put money away for when you are home with the baby.
2007-09-07 15:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A construction site doesn't sound like a very safe place for a pregnant woman I hate to say that because I am a female but what happens if you just trip on a peice of debree, your equalibrium is off you are not thinking as clearly as you normally would. It just doesn't sound like a good idea maybe there is a safer way you could make a little extra money. I would make him ponder on the safety issue.
2007-09-07 16:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by coley200722 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DEFINITELY SHOULDNT BE OUT ON A CONSTRUCTION SITE, IS HE CRAZY?!?!?!? HE SHOULDNT BE PUTTING YOU AND THE BABY AT RISK LIKE THAT!!!!
Secondly you're pregnant and really shouldnt be working too much to begin with, you need to be at home relaxing, too much activity can possibly lead to high blood pressure which is extremely bad for you and the baby.
You need to tell your partner that you want to do what is best for you as well as the baby, and being out on the construction site (not too mention all the dust and fumes) is not what is best. You guys make plenty of money on just his salary and he needs to think about the health and well being of you two not money. Extra money is secondary to the well being of you guys.
2007-09-07 15:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonette 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your health & the baby's health you need to remain indoors and at least at a desk position where you can sit for a long period and have plenty of food & water at your reach. But on the other hand I don't think you should be working for this matter, just explain to him how you understand him you think it is best to stay away from the "job field" until the baby comes. Cut back on certain paymens, or costs to save that "extra" money you would be making.
2007-09-07 16:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋