Haven't they ever heard of karma?
2007-09-07 08:34:50 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Women are very attracted to guys who are taken. The thrill of the chase. Women will throw themselves at a guy who has a gf or wife quicker than a guy who is single.
Many women subconsciously want guys that all the females want.
2007-09-07 17:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Man of Gold 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Often because the pain associated with the lack of intimacy, yes sex, but not necessarily that, the intimacy of being special to someone else.
After 26 years I've been through a lot myself, and much counseling, twice together, now by myself because her head has never been totally in tune or open enough to what couples need to do for each other on a regular basis to solidify and grow the "union" they entered into by getting married.
My clues came at the 10 year birthdays that were never made special (30, 40, 50) and I see all our friends and spouses doing it for each other. I hit the roof when she volunteered me to be the photographer for her best friend's husband's 50th. I did it, but also let her know that I didn't appreciate being the "hired" help at that event, vowing to never be put in that kind of situation again. I'm tending to bow out of anything related to her friends 50th's etc. She hurt me and it's hard to forgive the insult to the injury in that case.
Patience can be exhausted too. You'd think mine had been long ago, but still hold hope that some light might come on. She has no evidence of a libido and only has sex in order to privde for my needs. Quoting, "I've made myself available to you more this summer...". That isn't love or intimacy, it is "dutiful service". If she thinks that's what love is, she sorely wrong and maybe I should have left long ago.
But then there's the five kids...enough said, got to get them through college now.
Karma can be a funny thing, especially if that coming your way gets ignored. I've forever "paid it forward" and wished her good karma and all the rest.
"Greener Grass" theories can apply if your lawn is dead.
Good Luck, it is not easy.
2007-09-07 16:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by dadinvienna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not just married men who look to cheat. It is any spouse for whatever the reason may be. When you are in a situation like an affair it is very addictive. It is almost like a drug. Have you ever heard the thrill of the chase or of getting caught?
2007-09-07 15:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do married women look to cheat? It isn't always the man that is out and about with his thing hanging out. Men and women are exactly the same in that we are all sexual creatures. The ones who go out "looking" to cheat are the ones who don't love their significant others and are trying the hard way to get out of a relationship (whether they know that is what they are doing or not). Others, it just happens. They don't look for it, but it seems to find them. We can ALL be tempted and may give in to that temptation. I have been tempted many times and so far I have resisted all, but that doesn't mean that I won't the next time. It has nothing to do with my wife either. I love my house and I go home to it everyday, but that doesn't mean that every once in a while I want to go somewhere else and sleep in a motel (an analogy for love for those who don't understand that).
2007-09-07 15:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most married men don't (studies show). But many do. Part of it is entitlement, part of it is dissatisfaction, part of it is just OPPORTUNITY. Spending time all day at work around a hot girl on her best behavior in her "good clothes" suddenly makes your wife on the couch with a pint of ben n jerrys in sweatpants with a crappy attitude look not so appetizing. Hm...hubby will be home soon, better go get my leopard print heels on....
2007-09-07 16:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know that they all 'look' to cheat. Sometimes it is the circumstances and moment of weakness. Any one, man or woman, is capable of cheating. If they thought about the outcome of it all, they might think twice.
2007-09-07 16:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If daddy can't his special medicine at home he is going to get it somewhere else. I also think some men are just cheaters its their nature. But mostly because they aren't gettting anything at home. I have often wondered why a wife just decides one day that the husband should go without sex for the rest of his life.
2007-09-07 15:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by JF 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
not all of them do i dont think that right that you just assume all married men cheat. I knwo my parents have been married 26 years and ha hasnt cheated on my mom. AND i KNOW MY HUSBAND HASNT CHEATED ON ME AND I KNOW HE WOULDNT. not all married men do.
2007-09-07 15:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Nolan 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Vanity, revenge, loneliness, boredom, all
apply. Lust is one of the least of the reasons
for promiscuity. "
-- Mignon McLaughlin, The Second
Neurotic's Notebook, 1966
2007-09-07 15:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by bebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because YOU believe in Karma, doesn't mean other people do.
2007-09-07 15:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋