I'm taking my wife to Hawaii for our first anniversary/honeymoon (since we didnt take one after our wedding)...do I still get her some lavish anniversary gift? Some say yes, it's expected...some say no, Hawaii is enough...
Tell me why or why not...
2007-09-07 08:33:58 · 21 answers · asked by Dave O 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So your the point god now are ye?
2007-09-07 08:48:58 · answer #1 · answered by luckycobalt 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You make it sound like who ever gets chosen for best answer doesnt get the 10 points anyways wow what a treat lmao.
I would say the holiday is enough if , you plan on giving her romantic dinner's by the beach and massages , all the fun stuff the hotel plans normally and go for horse ride's along the beach I have heard they rock , take a camera for the memories .If she is shallow as some of the women I have seen in here then buy her something small a gold chain with a love heart on it in a velvet red box with a ribbon nothing to expensive but nothing she is going to have her neck turn green from.
If your just planning on going and sitting round doing nothing and she has to beat you with a stick to get you off your rear end to go have fun then yes buy her an extra present it's the least you could do.
Only you know what your wife would expect and only you know what your capable of affording , I mean come on the trip isnt cheap right?.
2007-09-07 16:43:01 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohhhhh i am so glad you asked!! go to the jewelry store and get a nice gold necklace, a pendant on a long chain, for example, or a gold or diamond tennis bracelet, not too expensive, but definitely something substantial, have it wrapped in that tiny jewelry box it comes in from the jewelers, get it on the plane without her knowing, ( keep itin the bag you take on the plane with you) and then, when you are on the plane, order champagne for the two of you from the flight attendant, or wine, or what ever drink you like. drink that THEN order another one. when the second drink has come ( the first drink having gotten her in a delighted, dreamy, happy state) you say, i want to propose a toast to the woman i proposed to and married, happy first anniversary, and, then, you say, oh, i got you something to wear in hawaii.....and then you give her the wrapped present,,,,,,,sigh!!! how romantic!!! you will be her prince!!!!!!
now, you asked for the reason. here it is. hawaii is for both of you, you both get to enjoy that. but the piece of jewelry is only for her, symbolizing her specialness to you, she is so special she gets her own gift, and, it establishes you as the provider, the benefactor, the giver, and i am a firm believer that timing of gifts is everything, so, if you do this on the plane, after a drink, it says to her that you planned this just for her, and put time into this, and she can enjoy this gift the whole time in hawaii, and you will be her hero, and maybe the whole planes hero. true
2007-09-07 15:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by jaded 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all, don't think we should ever simply 'expect' something from someone; especially a gift. But how wonderful of you to take her to Hawaii. Personally, I would much rather have Hawaii and a very simple gift from the heart as a poem or love letter or beautiful card to go along with the trip. It would be something to cherish always.
2007-09-07 16:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes. Hawaii is just a postponed honeymoon, not a gift. Technically youre married now, and the trip is coming out of "your" money together. You dont have to buy an expensive gift, just something thoughtful. Your first anniversary only happens once, and she will want something to remember it by ..........trust me.........its a girl thing!!!!!!
2007-09-07 15:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by hanky 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you take her to Hawaii and while there present her with a diamond bracelet or necklace, that would be great. Otherwise a very loving card given to her on the day of the anniversary telling how you are looking forward to the trip with her will do.
2007-09-07 15:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by hermoine54 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would say the trip and souvenirs are enough. I am sure she would rather have the extra cash to spend while there than some stupid piece of jewelry. She does like to shop right?
Do buy her a card, some flowers (her favorite or the same type from your wedding) and a bottle of champagne to toast to a fabulous year of marriage.
2007-09-07 16:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about if she is expecting one. Has she dropped hints for one? I personally wouldn't expect one if HE paid for Hawaii. I wouldnt' expect on that is lavish either. A simple braclet (not expensive) or perfume would be nice. You guys probably just spent a fortune on the wedding so why give more gifts.
2007-09-07 15:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you into art, music, crafts of some kind?
Make her something!
I am a composer. For our 32nd anniversary I wrote her a song about how much I appreciate her and our three kids. I put it on a CD using a lightscribe burner etched with a photo of us in Jamaica.
That blew her away!
2007-09-07 16:46:26 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because you are setting her expectations too high. Every year you will then have to out do what you do last year until finally you can't do it and then she will just harp on you for not getting her everything she wants. I say go to Hawaii and give her the gift of you.
2007-09-07 16:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should focus more on having a good time and making sure she is having a good time too. You have your entire life to gift each other. Call up the hotel and have them place flowers, candies, a bottle of champagne and decorate the room a bit with congratulation banners. I think that will take her by surprise. Its not the size or price of the gift that matter, but it is the thought, timing and the presentation that does it.
2007-09-07 16:00:19 · answer #11 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋