My husband is a control freak and i dont know how much more of it i can take. I just think he is too unfair. Im very lenient with him i hardly question him about where he is going or what he is doing. We live with his parents and he barley even lets me see my family. He says they know where i live they can come and see me but its not the same being with your family at there house wich used to be my home. He feels he can control every aspect of my life from working to what i wear, to when i can and cant be on the phone. It really gets on my nerves because when i try to tell him to stay home or question him he always tells me not your bussiness i wear the pants in this relationship. I love him so much that ive put up with it but now i feel like i just cant go on. We have a 1 yr old daughter and it breaks my heart the thought of leaving him but i just dont think i can no longer be happy. i told him how i felt and how i hate how he is and he simply says deal with it.
2007-09-07 08:22:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you saw your family when you wanted to see them, talked on the phone when you wanted to talk on the phone, and wore what you wanted to wear, what could he do? If he holds you prisoner or physically assaults you, call the police. Otherwise, I don't understand why you think you have to do one thing he tells you to do. Do what you want and when he complains just sweetly say, "Sorry you feel that way," and then go on doing whatever you want to do.
2007-09-07 08:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have family that can help you out, t6hen leave because its going toget worse as time goes by you'll have more children, and thats more resons for you to stay. Ive been married to a control freak for 24 yrs, I know! We three kids, I have no family to turn to, Iam 44 yrs old he's never let me work that means I cant support myself or my kids. So get out while you can dont be like me waiting for your kids to get grown so you can leave!
Good Luck!
2007-09-07 08:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by snafudotcom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't your boss he is your husband. Don't let him keep you away from your family, that is very wrong and crazy. I wouldn't leave but I would do what I wanted and let him deal with it. Why are you living with his parents? You should have your own place. You are not a piece of property and if that is what he wanted he shouldn't have married you. The longer you let him do this it will be harder to have control over yourself and the more he will have control over you and it will get worse. You won't be able to wipe your butt without his permission. If it gets to ruff leave.
2007-09-07 08:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by moonchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the only other option you have is to leave. you have told him how you felt and he doesn't seem to care. how can you live with someone who doesn't care about your feelings? and do you really want your daughter growing up thinking that a normal male/female relationship is controlling. move back in with your parents for a while and teach him his lesson.
2007-09-07 08:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my opinion is don't deal with it!! If you aren't happy then you can't provide a happy home for your child... and that is way more important than anything else!! You deserve a little space and independence!! Break away hun!! Good luck!
2007-09-07 08:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by IvyDale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband still lives with mommy and daddy? My, my....now there's a 'man' huh?
I think just your living arrangements speaks volumes. Divorce him and find someone over the age of 30 to marry.
2007-09-07 08:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a selfish @sshole. You need to pack your things, take your child, and go to your parents. Give the @sshole something to think about. A relationship is understanding between two people who trust and love eachother. He obviously dosen't get it... I wouldn't go running back anytime soon if I were you. you need to take sometime and find yourself, and think about what you want in your life.
2007-09-07 08:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , no and no he treats you like you are his property..it can not go like that..i hate men thinking when they get married, men to hide their insecurity like that..we are not in middle ages anymore,what kind of a men is that..you cant even visit your parents?i am telling you as of now you need to have control over your life ,do visit your parents,go for a walk, have some freedom..you are scared of him..what kind of relationship is that...
2007-09-07 08:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Marina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, leave him, leave him, leave him possesiveness is the first sighn of an abusive husband, one day not to far of he'd get mad and hurl a machette at ya. leave him i'm serious as ***.
p.s. why he still live with his parents. if he isn't a abuser he surely can be classified as a looser.
2007-09-07 08:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
read up on domestic violence
get the hell out of there
no sense in being miserable the rest of your life
listen to your gut feeling!
2007-09-07 08:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋