I've been separated from my wife for almost a year. We've had a rocky marriage over the past 7 years, and we have an eight year old son together. After being separated, I've learned that I've been dealing with depression for a long time now, and realise that it has caused us to grow apart, and for her to be bitter with me. I went to church with her and my son last week, and it was the first time she smiled at me in a long time. Recently she's scoffed at me when I say I want to move back, and has called the police several times due to me becoming verbally explosive.... Finally I'm seeing what a jerk I was, and feeling terribly guilty. With the help of God, I've managed to even stop smoking cigarettes, which I've done for 20 years. If I keep my promises to myself and God not to yell anymore, and not to smoke and/or drink, anyone think she might want me back as a husband, and forgive me for my mistakes?
2007-09-07 08:15:05 · 7 answers · asked by FearDragons 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's a tough question that can only be answered in time...and IF you follow through with all the conditions. What you should focus on at the moment is healing mentally, physically and spiritually...and being a better person and a better father....then becoming friends with her for the sake of your son! You have to be willing to accept just that and knowing that it's best for your son!!! Hopefully she will be able to find it in her heart and God will help her too heal and there may be some hope...but you can't base your goals on healing whether she'll get back with you or not!! I'm proud that you've made all these accomplishments so far and wish you much luck!
2007-09-07 08:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) I'm glad to hear that. It's very wise of you to realise your own mistakes and do something about it. Not many people recognise their own mistakes. I think if she knows that you've changed, she will be happy too. Pray to God, you know God sees our hearts. He always has the best plan for each one of us. Believe in Him and keep doing what you think if right. God never want to seperate you and your family. I'm sure you'll get back together with your family soon. Don't worry.
2007-09-07 08:24:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pal, the chances are good. Women forgive better than we do. Your task is simple. All you need to do is make her believe that you know most of the problems between you two are your fault, that you want to do better, and are trying HARD to do better. Most women would walk through fire for their guy, if they believe those things I mentioned. Good luck, and don't give up. Even though women forgive better, they too need time, and continued effort, before they believe.
2007-09-07 08:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might help to see doctor about the depression, if you have bipolar depression, controlling that problem may lead to controlling you angry outbursts. If your going to continue being depressed, nothing is likely to change.
2007-09-07 08:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by B Jones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all truth you have to be true to yourself and let her decide if she want the real you or not.
Keeping your promises to change should be for your own self worth not for someone else.
2007-09-07 08:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to dinner and ask for another chance if she say know except it quietly don't yell and rave gives her something to think about if you don't raise a rusk-us
2007-09-07 08:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you said here you can change it only if you talk to her openly..and be honest with her like to yourself
2007-09-07 08:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Marina S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋