I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now. Things seem to be going ok with a few bumps in the road along the way. However, lately, she has been saying I LOVE YOU but not with enthusiasm, including sometimes when she says it on the phone so low I can’t hear her and have to ask what she said. Recently, and only because it was something I said in conversation that brought this up, she said she is going to start working later on Wednesdays starting in 2 weeks and trying to work a few hours extra each day during the week for extra money. Again, she didn’t volunteer this info. Now I wouldn’t think anything of this being that we have talked about getting a place in 5months when her lease is up and we could use the extra cash to support ourselves. However, she has a history of cheating, including her ex hubby. And I still suspect she talks to her other ex she cheated on him with, but she denies it. Even though she has text him in front of me.
2007-09-07 07:59:18 · 4 answers · asked by hero 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And her text to me first thing in the morning have stopped and she text me later on. Her text have become short like “gd morning, oxox” where as I send a nicer text each morning saying that I love her or have a nice day. She never text anything back. We are both in our 30’s and I have been down the road before and know when people start to lose interest. I’m afraid to talk to her about this because we have had fights in the past about her EX who she cheated on her ex hubby with and don’t want to cause a riff. I’ve noticed her decline slightly in being excited to see me. Do you think that she is either making up and excuse to see her EX after work being that he only lives 2 miles from her job or is she getting ready to save money so she can get her own place in case she changes her mind about me. I’m just a little curious about this. and we also see each otehr everyday and all weekend long...thanks.!
2007-09-07 07:59:27 · update #1
She's suspect whether it is really something or just all in your head...she's still suspect. And since you continue to question this over and over, why not save yourself the aggrivation and call it quits. You obviously have a problem with her past, and obviously can't get over it. Either let it go or let her go.
2007-09-07 08:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say whether she is going to bail but she certainly seems to have lost interest. You mention that you send all your time together. Maybe she needs a little space. Find something to do with your friends or by yourself and see if she misses you. It's hard to trust someone who has a history of cheating, so I would say follow your gut on this one. If she is going to cheat, you'll know soon enough. Good luck to you.
2007-09-07 16:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by sweetone46530 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's getting bored and since she has a cheating history it's hard not to wonder what she'll do if she is really bored with the relationship. You are gonna have to grow a pair and lay it all out on the table and really talk about it with her. If she's not "the one" then its better to know now then a yr from now.
2007-09-07 15:14:07 · answer #3 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is losing interest to me. I have always said, if you meet someone that is cheating on their husband/BF, what makes you think they won't cheat on you? Drop her, or at least distance yourself, if it was meant to be, she'll come around.
2007-09-07 15:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by kidzrme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋