Inter-racism or ???

Question

My wife and I are African American. Although I have gray eyes and we're tanned skin we've placed ourselves in this ethnic group. Most of my friends are hispanic, mixed and a few white; however I really have no black friends. My wife was the same. I get embarassed when I see a black guys in sagging pants, talking ignorant. My wife and I come from families of educators. With the exception of some black friends I had in the Army - I just haven't found any black guys that I can trust - they seem the first to hit on my wife - bring drama. I was called a "sell out" for being the first black person to be accepted in the Academics program in my school district. I am all for progress within the black community - but some of the men are just outright disrespectful esp. when my wife and I go out. I notice most white guys look but not like perverts - I like classical, soft/hard rock, everything - I get along with black men from other countries just not here - Am I right for this?

Answer 1

Honestly, I can tell you right now why black men/ women here in America act this way.
They're stuck in cycle of poverty and lawlessness.
This IS not an excuse for acting the way they do but they are raised the same way their parents were raised and so on and so forth.
You obviously know the history of African Americans. You know well about the civil rights era.
Blacks were treated badly, ect.
I am not trying to defend blacks but they are stuck in a world where racism still exists.
They're taught to act the way they do.
It all stems from Slavery, that may seem impossible but it does.
Some blacks break free from the cycle, Most don't.

Answer 2

Sigh, You really need to look at your question. You say you're African American, but in your next sentence you felt the need to point out that you're gray eyed and tanned skin, and you "Placed" yourself in this ethnic group. Which makes me wonder if you feel having gray eyes and tanned skin makes you one of the superior African Americans, better than those Dark Skinned, brown eyed ones? My opinion you do have some issues you really need to work out where your race is concerned. You are NOT The Exceptional Black Male. There are a lot of Black educated Families, Not All black males are looking at you wife as perverts, not all black male listen to rape music only, etc. Maybe the fact that you have not had very many relationship with African Americans has left you only with the images the Media portrays of Black Males.
The Black community has a lot of problems to overcome, it's sad....My Opinion you're part of the problem!

Answer 3

I am a black female and there are so many things that our people do that is an embarrassment to us as a whole.

There are those of us that really strive to dispel society's perception of not all black folks being ghetto and uneducated and then here comes "Pookie n dem". However, this is not unique to the black community. People of every race have stereotypes and personality traits that they cannot separate themselves far enough from.

In all seriousness if you and your wife are comfortable being who you are and with the friends you have then what is the problem. You do not have to approve of or be proud of everyone in the race you've placed yourselves. (There is a difference between ethnicity and race.) I can assure you that there are a lot of black people/couples that feel just the way you and your wife do. If you are not a closet racist or a troll, stop sounding like you feel guilty for not having black friends and just do you.

Answer 4

Yes you are right for this. I feel the same time the majority of the time. I gave up trying to fit in a culture who doesnt accept me for going against the norm and being an actual civilized US citizen.

Answer 5

You be who you are! You don't need to define yourself as "black".. but as an educated, intelligent, mature man. As a person in general it makes me sad to see uneducated people- black, white, yellow, orange or purple. Look beyond skin color and be happy with the life you and your wife have made for yourself! && You are NOT a sellout! As I said, you are intelligent! Embrace it!

Answer 6

I think above all, you are a human being. As long as you define yourself as that, you're just fine. Don't think that you have to define yourself by a race. It's a made-up notion.
There's nothing wrong with not wanting/liking to be around people who are ignorant (and speak in a way that makes them out to be uneducated) or have no class/self-respect (and dress in a way that protrays this). There's NOTHING wrong with that whatsoever. Sounds to me like you want to associate with people who are like you - educated, productive, classy, etc.
I don't think this is a case of self-hatred or inter-racism; rather, it sounds like you are separating yourself via class.

Answer 7

Well if you and your wife are that educated then you know that a lack of it brings ignorance and there is alot of it in our society. Be yourself and stop allowing what others "think" you should be like.

Answer 8

I am white. I feel embarassing to have friends who dont take care of themseves, dress like a white trash. And i dont care if people whould call it rasism or whatever. If they call me rasist i say, OK, there is nothing bad to be rasist then.

Answer 9

particular it occurs everywhere with each and every race. If a white individual likes rap, and garments a undeniable way, human beings say they're attempting to "act black", if somebody dates outdoors of their race, human beings will say they're "sell outs" i think of it extremely is rather stupid habit. I basically overlook approximately it.

Answer 10

I dont like the sagging pants rap music shiznit! either
I listen to Bjork