everytime im "friends" with a guy they always seem to want more and its usually to get in my pants.. .i hate it.. i guess you would say im really pretty but i dont understand why i cant be "just" friends with a guy with out them gettin any idea that i want to sleep with them or go out with them. And im not one to make it seem like i like them.. like i try to not and i usually dont like them and if i do i would tell them.. but i hate it.. any advise.. can anyone relate??
2007-09-07 06:17:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It's absolutely possible to be friends with a gentleman. You're just frustrated right now because, possibly, you're a little tired of some of the back stabbing your girlfriends are giving you, and you want a change of "venue". You want to hang out with a totally new group. How much more different could hanging with some guys be? Not much!
The thing is; if you're attractive, most men, especially young men your age, are going to be attracted to you "that" way FIRST. As the others have said, make it clear that you're not interested in that kind of relationship when it's tactfully possible.
While I, literally, have dozens of girl "friends", some of them made me into their "play" brother [Friend] a little farther into our relationship than I think they should have. If you're pretty, you already KNOW that that's your first "attraction" mechanism. A library with neon borders in the window will get people in to check out the books, while a less inviting appearance doesn't attract new clientele.
I'm amazed at how gorgeous women seem oblivious, or in denial of the appearance that they strive to keep thinking that, short of taking classes with them, that a man may initially be attracted to their mind.
It can be very disheartening to find out that someone just wants to be plutonic because the guy's method is to be a gentleman and they really want to take it slow and be friends with you before they became romantically involved with you.
Practice a tactful "out" to the romance scenario if you're not interested. It saves everyone precious time and feelings.
2007-09-07 10:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by GodsStar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my friends have always been guys, and yes it is possible. You can usually tell the difference. Unfortunately I have came accross the same problem occassionally and it bugs me too. Not much you can do but say, "hey, I don't like you that way" and if they want to really be your friend they'll accept that, if not you probably won't see so much of them anymore.
2007-09-07 13:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by nahimana34 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm i have friends that are girls that im not interested in
like "that"
you just might have a way with the gentlemen
and I suppose the only way to change that is to deliberatly
be an ugly person
then they wouldnt even wanna be friends with you
so tough luck... hehe
2007-09-07 13:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by cozmikmif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There not much friends if they want to get in your pants. I think it possible to be best freinds with a guy but i think maybe they are using to get you in your pants. be strong and dont let them.
2007-09-07 13:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by chi_cubs_lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes for i have many guy friends
2007-09-07 13:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. I have many
2007-09-07 13:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
liar liar pants on fire
2007-09-07 13:21:05 · answer #7 · answered by doggonehandsome 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋