I'm a jolly person, funny. LoL.haha! (only if we're talking 1 on 1, 2 or 4 people but not in public). I'm not expressive.I'm shy in public and doesn't have a good self-esteem. Once I get embarrassed I messed out all throughout.I'm a positive thinker, smart and wise.With a fair complexion and looks, 5 flat in height weighing 120 pounds .I'm artistic and creative. Loves to play tennis. I'm an asian and recently moved to US. I'm 17 and in college right now. I have a few friends in school maybe 2 or 3. And in classroom I feel that they don't like me. I'm nice and always have as smile on my face. But still no one likes me. Even in my country, I only have a few friends in school, really few. My cousins, they mingle with me but not that really close. My sister, if she finds someone that is better than me she will more likely to have that company. My dad, we're not that close. My mom is the only person in the world who believe and loves me. And GOD is my only BEST FRIEND!Praise my Rabbi!
2007-09-07 06:09:25 · 6 answers · asked by ms.curious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sounds a little like me in my early 20's. Turns out alot of it was in my head. Really. I used to go to class and if someone looked at me funny, even though I SMILED AT THEM that's it....they hate me. They want me dead! Im worthless! AAAAGGGHHHH!!! Well I don't think like that anymore and I don't know if it is age (Im 15 yrs older than you...not THAT much...but enough) or if I just don't care what others think anymore (Both...I know it's both) I just know sometimes you gotta say F.u.c.k. em!!!!
It'spossible people could be jealous of you...you KNOW you wanted to hear that answer so I served it up to ya first.....
You say you are jolly....i dont want to sound mean, but sometimes that may come accross as annoying...trust me...I have a friend who is so happy that it is nauseating...and I am a goofball myself which I KNOW can annoy some people (I don't care though. If you don't like me, oh well. Take me as is!!) There again this could be a jealousy thing, because miserable people HATE people who arent as miserable as them. Screw em. You don't need them.
You could possibly come accross as a snob. Im a bit shy at first, too (not to the point of anxiety, just self concious) and people have told me...once I have opened up (and it dosen't take long!! Once you know me, I can't shut up or stop laughing at...at....WHATEVER!!!!).....they have told me that they thought I was going to be stuck up... I am definitely NOT stuck up. I can get very opinionated and bold...but Im no snob.
OR it could be a self fulfilling prophecy. YOu feel awkward and fell as if nobody is going to like you..then it happens.
OR it could be in your head.
Ill tell you one thing though. YOu say you have very few friends....It is so much better to have 2 or 3 REAL friends than a crapload of "friends" who are phony and don't really care about you. Young adults your age feel like thay need to be like the kids on TV/...WHY? In my day it was Beverly Hills 90210 and Melrose Place....I loved those shows, but did I really want to be like them? HELL no. Separate reality from surreality/fantasy,hon. And don't say your Mom is the only person in the world that loves you! I am SURE there are alot of people who do. Maybe you should talk to a councelor or your Rabbi b/c you sound very insecure. I still get like this fromtime to time and as easier it is said than done, you gotta have perspective and just say to hell with it! Trust me it gets better..
2007-09-07 06:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by kERI H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, teenagers are cruel. Especially American teenagers. there's nothing you can do to force people to like you - however you can:
quit trying so hard to be liked
concentrate on your studies - make really good grades.
volunteer for things like the school newspaper or year book committee
Join toastmasters. That's an adult organization - but shy teens can benefit from learning how to speak in public.
Make friends in odd places. Be a member of the "Interesting" crowd - not just limit yourself to the "In" crowd. That means yes, the geeks and nerds and oddballs who may just turn out the be the next president of Microsoft etc. in the future.
Be genuinely nice - even when others are not.
Get involved with outside activities like your temple's youth group, volunteer at a hospital or nursing home.
If you play an instrument, join the local concert band or orchestra.
Get an after school job
2007-09-07 06:59:33 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having lots of friends is over rated. Be who you are, and find one or two people and invest time in them only after you invest time in yourself. people are drawn to others that are striving for happiness. Be your own best friend first and you'll see what happens!
Join clubs, hobbies etc.
Have Fun! Life is short.
2007-09-07 06:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Teelrun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you have to accept yourself before others do. You should be more confident and take chances. Say hi to people show them who you truly are I'm sure you'll make friends soon.....(hopefully)
2007-09-07 06:17:01 · answer #4 · answered by yazmin21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....screw them guys! I'm suprised actually, most American males have this big infatuation for Asian women...give it time.
2007-09-07 06:21:09 · answer #5 · answered by ccstangfan2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg im exactly like u... AND MY NAME IS CJ.. but i have boobs and am 5/2 100 lbs... and not 17...
2007-09-07 06:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Gorgeous! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋