I just found out my boyfriend of 1 year has been surfing the internet looking for a "bi-curious" encounter with another male. Also found he was interested in transsexuals. I found this out by looking on his computer. He has contacted maybe 1 or 2 individuals for a possible meeting (although, I don't believe he has actually participated - yet). on the surface, this guy is a man's man. 6'5", well built (ex body builder) works in heavy equip./machinery business.... is he gay or just curious?
2007-09-07 04:51:52 · 20 answers · asked by thritysixer 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
He is curious for sure - and that curiosity might lead further - actually it flat out WILL lead further. He is eventually going to test the waters.
You need to decide how the affects you and have an open honest talk with him. If you can talk to him your relationship is doomed anyway.
This is not going to be fun, this is not going to be easy - but it is the only intelligent mature thing to do at this point. Talk to him this weekend!
2007-09-07 05:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cannot determine someones sexuality by their physique!
thats a big no no. i know plenty of guys that would scare anyone because their body is so big and it turned out that they were all gay too.
he might be just curious, or he might have a hidden secret, this happens quite often.
however i wouldnt mention this or anything to your man just yet, i would look out for more signs now, that dont include the computer.
general signs from day to day, just watch and see if u notice anything from this.
if u dont see any signs and it still bothers u then ask him.
thats the only way ur goin to know
2007-09-07 11:56:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont mean to sound all negative but first things first what he is doing is wrong. he is talking to other people behind ur back which is not fair on u at all.
As for the gay or bi curous issue, I think he may be. A straight person wouldnt want to meet up with another bi curious or tansexual is he wasnt gay or thinking about it.
I hope it works out for you. but i have to let ya know even guys who are a man's man can be gay. My boyfriend is one of them. No one can ever tell with him.. Good Luck!
2007-09-07 12:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by J-Craze 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if he is gay or bi but unless you want to be sharing your man drop him. What kind of a boyfriend looks for other sexual partners? A cheating boyfriend. Drop him before he gives you a sexually transmitted disease.
Good Luck
2007-09-07 12:02:34 · answer #4 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that he is bi-curious. He probably is intrigued by sex in general... and may be drawn to different partners. The future of your relationship with him doesn't look to bright... unless you can handle the sneaking around.
2007-09-07 11:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Whatev' Yo' 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm kinda funny u should mention same situation here just a month ago i found simula stuff on hes pc and turns out he had a curious streak in him in hes younger years lol so maybe hes hiding sum past from u as he is ashamed of it.
2007-09-07 11:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's straight with an unusual appetite for the other side.
Save yourself a world of hurt, and move on.
If he becomes active, his appetite won't diminish.
2007-09-07 11:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by Bobby Jim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay
2007-09-07 11:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
If he's bi-curious, he's bi-curious.
if he's interested in transsexual women, that doesn't make him gay; gay men aren't interested in women, transsexual or otherwise.
2007-09-07 12:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i say he's just curious, but I'd be on the look out if i were you just in case this "curious" stage goes any farther
2007-09-07 11:55:54 · answer #10 · answered by Trace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋