I let my friend borrow $1500.00 in December 2006. I told her to not worry about paying me a lot back.. just pay me when she can. She didn't pay me back at all.
In June 2007 I still didn't get anything from her so I offered the money as a gift... cause I figure I wasn't gonna get anything back. She said no its cool.. you'll get your money.
I found out later that around the same time she borrowed from me, she has been letting some guy borrow money from her that is of smaller amounts (like $25.00 here and $15.00 there). .. but never paid me anything from DEC-JUN.
We went to best buy and she mentioned something about wanting to buy a WII for her daughter.
In August 2007.. still. I tell her I feel I am being taken advantage of. She gets mad... she sends me $50.00 and says she'll start paying me but for me to never to talk to her again. I send $50.00 back saying the friendship isn't worth it.
2007-09-07 04:20:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Your dilema is the prime example of why you should never (and yes I say never in this rare case) loan money to a friend or extended family. Dont do business with familiy either. William Shakespeare said it best: "Neither a borrower nor a lender be: for loan oft loses both itself and friend; and borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry."
2007-09-07 04:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by CivPro1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have every right to be mad at her but sadly it sounds like she is using you as her personal piggy bank. Perhaps it is best that you take the money for payment and move on. You gave her the $1500 out of the goodness of your heart and she states that she doesn't have the money to pay you back but yet she wants to buy her kid a WII???? Chop it up as an expensive lesson in life and move on - you're putting more into this friendship than she is.
2007-09-07 11:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by siamsa_siamsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As unfortunate as it is, your friendship, unless your two are REALLY forgiving people is probably over. With that sum of money I don't care who it is get it in writing. We borrowed about that much from my father in law one and I wasn't offended at all that he wanted something in writing.
As for getting your money back, it doesn't sound like it is going to happen. If you wanted to try it the legal way you wouldn't get it back anyway because at one point you offered it as a gift. Forget about the money and if you want the friendship to last, don't let it get to you that your friend sucks at budgeting and doesn't know how to prioritize their spending.
2007-09-07 11:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by blanquettedeveau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that was a pretty costly gesture my friend. I would definately not waste your time trying to mend the relationship. The damage has been done. She will just continue to take advantage of you. Don't let people walk all over you and you won't have these problems in the future.
2007-09-07 11:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by meetbleek23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a right to be mad at your friend.
First rule of lending money. Never lend more than you are willing to give as a gift.
Second rule of lending money. Always get in writing, the amount you are lending, the method it will be paid back and an expected date that it will be paid back.
Third rule of lending money. Never lend any amount to a friend that you are not willing to give as a gift. Expect to lose a friend if you attempt to apply rule number two.
Good luck.
2007-09-07 11:29:55 · answer #5 · answered by ken erestu 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she is trying to get out of the situation of being your friend now that she got what she wanted out of you.
You let her "borrow" money and she told you more than once that should would pay you back.
When you confronted her about it, she told you she didn't want to be your friend anymore.
That's crap.
Ditch her, you dont' need leeches like that in your life.
2007-09-08 13:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no!! I TOTALLY understand how you feel. But I really think she has her priorities messed up. She can just pay you small amounts, like $20 a week AND buy things for her daugter. Good LUCK! It would be too bad if your friendship was lost. Too bad she cant read all this. :(
2007-09-07 11:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you look at it stealing is stealing. She should pay you back with interest. You have not lost a friend but rather a low life aquaintence. If she refuses to pay, take her to small claims court. Better yet, let me know as I know people who can get your money back Pronto.
2007-09-07 11:43:48 · answer #8 · answered by stevie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends don't use people like she has. Cut your losses and move on. If she does send you any money, keep it.
I've learned when loaning money, only loan what you can afford to lose. Chances are, you'll never see it again.
2007-09-07 11:34:13 · answer #9 · answered by loshea65 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the thing is that normally when you lend money you should not expect anything back.it is the gift of giving.of course your gonna be angry,but theirs better ways to look at it
2007-09-07 11:29:42 · answer #10 · answered by flylilangels 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋