Why do feminists try to convince men housework is something it is not.?

Question

Seriously most men live or lived alone for a period of time. Why do some women still think they can successfully make a man believe that the strain of housework exceeds that of an average job ?

Answer 1

As a former SAHD, I have to wonder the same thing. I note some here have argued that you're claiming it's the hardest job ever... which isn't what you said. You asked why do they try to convince guys that it is harder than it really is.

As I said, I am a former SAHD, and I dind't have issues keeping the place clean. I did the laundry, cooking, cleaning (at one time, we had no carpets and no bucket & mop so I was on my hands & knees scrubbing the tiles - of the entire ground floor - to our house, every other day.) My wife's main complaint being that by the time she'd get home, the kids had made it a mess again... and my folding of the laundry was 'wrong'. That translates to this:
She actually complimented me on my laundry folding, stating that I did a far better job than she, however, I would zip zips, and press studs and close buttons on clothing, which she found annoying when it came to putting those clothes on as she'd have to unbutton, unzip or unstud them.
The cleaning did NOT take long, but then, I don't watch television as I find it too full of misandry (think verizon adverts and the like where all men are stupid layabouts, with ever-enduring, smart, witty wifes).

To this day, I cannot fathom why this complaint is still made that looking after a home is difficult. It was perhaps the easiest job I'd ever had... and that included looking after a newborn baby and an 11yr old stepson, and doing all the running around town, etc.

Answer 2

When a man lived alone, he only have to clean up after one person. He usually eats take-out or tv dinner which cuts down on dish-washing and keeping the kitchen clean. He also goes out more often which means the house is barely used and therefore less messy. He also has less furniture to dust.

It is different when there are two people living together. Besides having more to clean, you stay in a lot more and you must maintain a higher standard of cleanliess because of the friends and family especially the in-laws you have to entertain at your house.

Start a family of your own and add messy kids to the picture and now you are constantly having to clean to maintain a certain standard of hygiene so your kids who stuff anything in their mouth don't die of germs. The kids also brings their friends home and before long, your bathroom will look like a public bathroom.

On top of all that, unlike an average job, you don't even get paid for all your hardwork. You have no paycheck, no bonuses, no 401K, no job title, no promotion. Plus there is no relief: the cleaning never ends, not even on Sunday, what you don't clean today adds on to what you have to clean tomorrow. AND worse of all, people only notices when the house is not clean, not when it is clean. There is no respect for the person who does the housework as evidenced by your questions. Cleaning is a thankless job.

By the way, I am still wondering why I haven't gone for that CEO job. Afterall, I have a college level education I really should put to use. I chose to stay at home and clean because I am under the delusion that my kids are better off if I get to know them and my husband is better off with a supportive wife who put his career first instead of her own.

Answer 3

Because they are still harking back to the good old ways when women's lot was worse off than today. The housework argument was convincing back in the old days when there no washing machines, no dishwashers, no microwaves, no vacuum cleaners, etc. It was harder then but so were men's jobs. The feminists argued it then and they have just been arguing the same thing over and over through the generations, and not looking at modern day housework. Even shopping has become a doddle with internet ordering and delivery of all your groceries, etc.

Answer 4

It's not the "strain of housework" that can be harder than the "average job", it's raising kids that can be harder than the average job. Raising children entails many, many responsibilities. (Too many to list here.) It's little wonder most stay-at-home moms live by lists and calendars, dates, appointments, deadlines. You don't think they feel any pressure? And, the job is not a 9 to 5 job- it's 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You never have time to do anything except take care of everyone else's needs. Forget your own. Combine that WITH housework (and the fact that no matter how much you do of it, it is NEVER really "done"), along with social isolation (from your peers), and having no one acknowledge your efforts (no paycheck, no "thanks"- but plenty of complaining to deal with), it's no wonder to me that some women feel that being a "stay at home mom" is hard.

Answer 5

Extremely timely and appropriate question. Housework is NOT as difficult or timestaking as women tend to claim it is, and men do a lot more of it than many women give them credit for. Women tend to base their opinion about this on just a few men, even though there's a wide range to how men are about housework. There's also the scorekeeping problem, where some women do housework, but zero (or almost zero) home improvment projects. It's difficult to compare the occasional skilled, hard labor to regular housework. I would agree that today, this is a woman issue as much as it is a feminist issue.

Answer 6

It's not particularly difficult or demanding. However, the repetitive nature of it, coupled with the fact that often times family members "forget" to be personally responsible for their own belongings, builds resentment over time.
Also, the fact that it is not especially challenging on a cognitive level leads some homemakers to ruminate on their displeasure with their situation, leading to despair and depression.

Careers offer challenges and advancement, in addition to financial rewards for exemplary achievement. What does a homemaker get for maintaining the cleanest toilet in the county?

Humans crave recognition and reward. It is built into the workforce, because employers know that motivated employees produce more. There is no system of motivation/reward for homemakers. And THAT is the primary source of strain of the job.

Answer 7

FATM - maximum feminists do not hate adult adult males. in case you prefer to pigeonhole them, positive. yet all you're doing is including to a humdrum, previous stereotype. Even Dworkin not at all easily wrote the line approximately all adult adult males being rapists, even with the undeniable fact that human beings have progressively quoted her on it. Wiki it. it extremely is from a e book, which they paraphrased with a view to physique her as a 'manhater.' And anti-feminists are frequently threatened by ability of the belief of the international changing, commonly so as that it does not favour them - if theyre a woman or guy who suits the previous stereotypes. they'll attempt and persuade you you hate adult adult males through fact the only way they are able to work out you disagreeing with the way issues are is that in case you have some concern against adult adult males, as a lot of them have against women human beings. Plus, they could desire to villainise and ridicule feminists to attempt and persuade human beings and themselves that feminists are terrible. an incredible, 'actual' woman could not in all probability choose equality.

Answer 8

Because many women are doing housework AND trying to take care of children at the same time! Men who live ALONE don't have to worry about feeding, watching, changing and helping a child while trying to prepare food, vacuum, sweep, mop, do dishes, separate laundry, wash laundry, dry or hang laundry, fold laundry, pick up the rooms and his nasty underwear, clean the bathroom, take out trash.... And then she has to listen to some guy's crap when he comes home ready to eat, fart, complain and want 5 minutes of sex before bed.

Answer 9

You antis confuse me!!

Don't you people always say that being a homemaker is the most difficult and important job in the world?

Don't you people always say that a woman's place is in the home and it's her job to do housework, not the man's?

And now you're saying that nope, there's not some housewifery gene, and that women and men are equally capable of running a household?

I can't speak for all feminists, but that's what I've been thinking all along.

Answer 10

Gee I wish thats all I had to do! However, I have to do that and work for a living!

Ask a new widower (who has gotten used to a certain standard of cleanliness) [not a bachelor] about how hard it is to keep the house clean once the wife has passed on.