my partner has to children.
His ex wants him to pay c s a he has said he will do it all the right way. but she wants cash in hand. He has said to her he is not going to give her cash in hand and he wants to do it the proper way other wise c s a will be on his back. but she didnt like this and has stopped him from seeing the girls wat can he do. she has said they dont want to see him. but they r only 5 and 8 and love coming over. so we feel this is her cos he wont give her cash??
2007-09-07 02:43:10 · 11 answers · asked by sarah 22 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Child support and access should be two seperate issues. He should pay only through the CSA and get legal advice to get access rights. She is low using the children in this way.
2007-09-07 02:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Women/Mothers (and i am both) have no right to tell the other parent he can not see the kids...I see this so often in my work and it really gets my back up
What can he do?
Pay her cash and get a receipt everytime he does. So if or when CSA assess him he can provide proof that he is and has maintained.
I understand he would rather do everything the right way and if the CSA were good enough for the job i would say go for it....but they are not...and they will take ages...too long for him not to see his kids.
and they will more than likely make huge errors in their assessment (about 89% are wrong)
So he either pays her cash and gets receipts....then he sees his kids and has proof of payment
or
Get himself a good family lawyer (legal aid may be available for some of the fees)
2007-09-07 13:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by stormydays 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your are right and the ex is bully and knieving. If he does decide to pay cash, he should refuse to give her the money unless she writes a receipt, which she is not likely to do as she is probably trying to scam welfare and collect child support and welfare benefits, which is fraud.
He needs to hire an attorney and take her to Court for contempt of visitation...she may find herself in jail for awhile and have a change of attitude.
2007-09-07 10:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all he can do is take her to court. Whatever he does make sure he doesnt pay cash in hand or he wont have any record if the CSA do come!!!
2007-09-08 03:01:12 · answer #4 · answered by vdv_desantnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT GIVE HER CASH. It is considered a gift and does not count as child support. Do it the right way to protect yourself. Your partners ex probably knows this and will pull a stunt. If he has visitation privalages. then you can take her to court for custodial interference. Document everything if you havent started. Good luck,.
2007-09-07 09:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bob D 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It is despicable when a parent uses their children as a pawn in any dispute with their ex partner. I hope he sticks to his guns and pays her through the C.S.A. It looks as though he will have to go through the courts to gain access to his girls. His ex. is a godsend to lawyers!
2007-09-07 11:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by little nell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See a solicitor as his ex is being unreasonable.....Is she insisting on cash as she is on benefits....This is illegal and she could say he didn't pay unless he obtains a receipt.....So get legal advice. Usually the first 30Min's are free but check first......
2007-09-10 17:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by valf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is no existing court order he must petition to establish one. If there is an existing visitation order he needs to file a motion with the court to compel their mother's compliance.
2007-09-07 09:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
apparently he now knows why Henry the VIII decided death was the best divorce.
2007-09-07 10:18:06 · answer #9 · answered by IG64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on Judge Judy.
2007-09-07 09:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋