so, we have a couple. the "dominant" (leading) partner will be the one that needs the other the least. That partner -not needing that much factors to keep the relation alive- will start "playing" with the others needs, feelings, projections, affections, and so, will end by setting the rules of conduct accordingly to his/hers own projections.
cruel? i do not know. true?
well, if so, dominance in a couple kill love.
agree? disagree? motivate
2007-09-07 00:33:05 · 8 answers · asked by farhire 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What this is called is "complimenting personalities". There are many deviations of the formula of the percentage of how the dominance and passivity are divided. Some relationships are more skewed than others to either end of the extreme, some are more equal. In cases like you described, where one totally domineers the other, I would describe one as controlling to the point where the other is co-dependent. It is a bad recipe for a relationship, very self-destructive behavior. There are many books to guide one on how to free themselves from co-dependency, but the main ingredient is the strength of the ego, the self, and the knowledge that that person has worth WITHOUT that destructive personality in their life. Basically, that co-dependent person needs to grow a back bone and stand up for themself.
2007-09-07 02:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
It is rare to find an "equal" couple in a relationship so naturally one may dominate the other...I don't think all the intentions in such are malicious,or motives stirred by a need to "rule" the other,it is in fact a mesh of what works for the said couple..Some unions have endured many years with such an arrangement..=)
2007-09-07 00:52:24 · answer #2 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree? No. Disagree? No. I simply find your "conclusion" to be interesting.
I'm dominant in relationships. My bf is also dominant. So when we met, we both wanted to "drive" so to speak. Over time, and with some bumps along the way, we practiced the art of compromise. And we continue to practice it today.
However, at no time did our dominance mean that we needed the other person less. And we have never played with the other person's needs, feelings, etc... We just wouldn't do that.
2007-09-07 00:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Disagree... dominance/submission is a yin/yang relationship. You can not have one without the other. Therefor, one will never "need" the other more. They both need each other equally.
In some instances, I have seen where the submissive person is actually the one that does more of the day to day running of the household. Without that person, the dominant one would be lost.
2007-09-07 00:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by aromaofsage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, believes he/she needs the other the least perhaps. This is often a pretense and naturally lends itself to male exploitation through employing bravado.
Define love, dominance can vary from day to day and situation to situation. I have yet to see my wife assert her dominance when she breaks an appliance she wants fixing or when the car breaks down in the rain. Equally I leave the mother in law and teenagers to her!
2007-09-07 00:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One party may not have total dominance over another,whereas one may be dominant in the bedroom the other may dominate the remote control,blows your theory right out of the water.
2007-09-07 00:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by havanadig 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At last, god appeared to humans and said:
"I have come to assess the situation of my creation.
I want men to form two queues - one queue for
men who dominated their women, and the other
for men who were dominated by their women.
Further, I want all the women to go away so that no
man and woman can talk while the queues are formed"
When God came back after a while, the women are gone
and there are two queues. The queue for the men who
were dominated by their women is 100 miles long.
In the other queue, there is only one man.
God got angry and said, "You men should be ashamed
of yourselves. I created you in my image, and you
are not using what you can. Look at the only
one of my sons who stood up in the other queue
and made me proud. Learn from him!"
The men did not give reply.
"Tell them, my son, how did you manage to be the
only one in this queue?"
The man replied, "I do not know sir! My wife told me
to stand here."
2007-09-07 00:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by d_r_siva 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dominance doesn't equivelate manipulation. one partner is more "dominant" to provide a sense of security and reason and steadfastness but in order to keep love in tact both partners need to compromise and come to common grounds and issues that satisfy their own personal situation. everyone has weakness and strength....finding the balance within their own selves and within the relationship.....tricky tricky!
2007-09-07 00:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by garyp8178 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋