Well I have been married for almost 7 years to this man. I pratically never used a single cent from him. He used to abuse me pretty badly for the first 5 years but stopped completely these 2 years since my daughter was born. I am finacially independent and even have to pay off his credit cards bills tostart a new life. He is working but not enough to cover his debt. However he behaves like a kid. He wANTS THINGs that is not practical. He mixed with teenagers. Responsibilities that are entrusted to him will never be fulfilled for example like taking care of our girl and feed her properly when he is not working. I have to work everyday but he only work on shift. He has ample of time to teach or enrol our 3 years old girl in a school but he cant be bother to do it. he will sleeps n watches TV when he is free. Whenever we r out for food he will stop us from ordering food that we like claiming that it is expensive but he will order expensive meal for himself. what should I do?
2007-09-06 23:13:58 · 15 answers · asked by MummyGuess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some of you do wonder why i still leave with him coz i didnt want my daughter to have a broken family. Whenevr we fight she cry n beg us to stop. Since then I can be bother to fight with him.
2007-09-06 23:35:19 · update #1
You think your daughter is better off with that in her life?
How are you helping her to stand up for herself if you can't do it. Fact is you have grown into this relationship and don't want to really leave and are using her for an excuse, if she crying and telling you to stop then you are causing her more harm then good.
If you are the one taking care of her and the bills then why are you really their?
I would show your daughter how to be strong and walk away from an unhealthy relationship. You will see a difference in her happiness in a very short time. She will smile more, sleep better, and probably eat better.
Don't let this guy bring you both down to his level, I'm sure that you could do better for yourself than that. Besides the real problem is you need to take a stand and do what is best for your girl. Why should she suffer because he is a d!ck.
2007-09-07 00:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place you stated he abused you pretty bad. The rule is "once is too much" so, you went over the limit.
Number one, when he goes to work, pack your clothes and grab your daughter, go to the nearest women's shelter, there's one in every city. Ask for help. They will help you contact an attorney. It's about time you get rid of this jerk. If he makes problems, call the police.
2007-09-07 06:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your daughter and get this guy out of your life. He doesnt deserve you. And neither of you need this kind of influence in your life.
If you can stay with friends or relatives until you can find something more permanent.
Im not saying you should forget your marriage permanently but if he wants to keep you then make him change his ways and work for it.
2007-09-07 06:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by regaloid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have explained yourself, you married a man that is not matured. He may not be sensitive but simply not matured for family life. First you have to ginger him into life. Talk with him and possibly seek a counselor's advice to make him see his responsibilities. You may have to talk to him to see that you will not keep on 'baby seating' him. Again, since you are financial comfortable, this may unwittingly be affecting his ego, if so, let him see reasons with you that you are a family and for the sake of your daughter you have to be together. You did not mention about the type of friends he keeps, this may be another factor - peer group influence.
2007-09-07 06:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by ufan2020 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave him. its not worth enduring this kinda life with a man like him. if he cant treat YOU and your daughter with respect, he's not the kind of man you wanna stay woth for the rest of your life or even imagine raising a child with him. think about the benefit of yourself and more importantly your daughter in a long run? can u see him really change and become a good father and husband? if you doubt your answer, its time to say goodbye to this man.
2007-09-07 06:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by anonymously-unknown 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take your daughter and money and head for the hills. He's too self absorbed in himself to worry about you or his daughter.
Go and find a man that's worthy of your affections.
2007-09-07 06:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is that way because he knows you are independant. He always have you to help solve all his financial problems.
If you still want to be with him, then you have to help him all the time and not gripe about it. Leave him to himself. Concentrate on yourself and your child. When and if you are ready to be on your own, just leave him.
2007-09-07 06:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by Hani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since when does a child dictate what you should do about living with a bum? You'd better stop listening to your child and start making adult decisions!
2007-09-07 07:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying in a relationship because of the kids only hurts the kids more
2007-09-07 07:12:39 · answer #9 · answered by deb a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression "kick him to the kerb"?
Well, what are you waiting for? why do u have this guy in your house/life?
2007-09-07 06:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by threecraws 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋