Looking for the wisdom of long-time married men, if possible who've already passed the 10 year mark and are happy with their marriage...
What are the key factors of your relationship with your wife that made (and keep) your marriage successful? (examples: family, career, hobbies, love, sex, etc). Are there any that you think are critical to support your couple for the long term?
...A single guy wondering about a successful married life :) Thank you.
2007-09-06 23:03:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can answer for my husband. I am outgoing not outspoken, I respect him as a person not just a husband, he has his hobbies and I have mine and we also share hobbies (wink wink), we complement each other, we are honest with each other, we go out on fun dates, we agree to disagree (one exception his smelly socks-long drawnout saga that one lol), he loves my sense of humour and I love his dry humour, we support each other (even with the MILs) and we give each other space when required.
2007-09-06 23:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer to this question is always,
TOLERANCE and COMPROMISE.
Its funny that this answer is usually discounted but showed up
today in the response of two other long married people.
I guess this is a common thread after all.
I think that forgiveness quotient that X-Man mentioned helps as well. That was well said.
For sv,
As far as "honesty" goes, I find that honesty is not always the best policy in matters of the heart. If dishonesty is to spare the feelings and hurt of your partner then there are times when it is best left without being spoken. " Do I look fat in these slacks?" There is not a man in the world who should be 100% honest in that question. In questions regarding infidelity, honesty is often used a an excuse for unloading ones guilt on thier partner which causes extreem anguish.
This honesty is often best left buried.
This attitude does not sanction lying. A person who lies to constantly to avoid the consequences of thier actions has a significant character flaw. This has more to do with knowing when to keep your mouth shut.
Married 32 years.
2007-09-07 00:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for fifty years now, my spouse has cheated on me several times, although I have kept it at home. We've had five kids, all successful that know nothing about there mom.
Nothing runs smooth, I found that out. I have wonderful gran children and the four girls I have are both beautiful and close to me.
Would I do it again, in a different way, I would run the show without arguments and she would listen instead of working together, what she did was work behind my back and not with me, she let me down.
I would definitely finish school and not listen to her, college that is.
2007-09-06 23:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The key factors in your relationship as a married man are basically Love, Trust, Communication, Sex, Openness to each other, Care, Sharing views and other things together, the fear of God, Finances (not necessarily being very rich)
2007-09-06 23:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by ufan2020 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been happily married 37 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:
1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests and separate groups of friends.
2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.
3) A sense of compromise; so that you can work out your problems with a minimum of emotional trauma. It's marital negotiation.
4) A sense of sympathy and forgiveness. You're both going to screw up on occasion. You need to be able to forgive, forget, and move on with the relationship.
2007-09-06 23:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well mr, Ive been married for 7 years and have no problems at all with my relationship. The only thing is you need to have trust, honesty and respect with each other and understand each others weakness and strenghts. Keep supporting at difficult times.
2007-09-06 23:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First factor is 'honesty in thinking, saying and doing to the spouse'. Second factor is 'honesty in thinking, saying and doing to the spouse'. Third factor is 'honesty in thinking, saying and doing to the spouse'. Fourth factor is 'honesty in thinking, saying and doing to the spouse'. ..... Last factor is 'honesty in thinking, saying and doing to the spouse'.
2007-09-06 23:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by sv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
draw yourself a triangle, at the bottom left corner write your name, at the bottom right corner write her name, now at the top write "GOD" now as the two of you get closer to God you can see how you get closer to one another. God is love without him there is little hope, also you must always remember that marriage is not about finding the right person it is about being the right person, your job as a husband is to show her daily that when she married you she made the right choice. 1st Corinthians chapter 13 outlines true love
2007-09-06 23:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by 4given 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
i can sum it up in one word TOLERANCE. been married 29yrs no cheating ether side plan on staying that way.
2007-09-06 23:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋