Is it right for a man to be married to watch a lot of porns at this point of time,is it not cheating mentally?

Question

My man whom I am engaged to be married is in a habit of watching too much ****.I have requested him to stop as of now and he may do so when we are together.I am a true and possessive person,I dont care about his past but I do about his present.And at this point of time when I am ushering him into my life as a very dear person, I want him to be true to me too.I feel seeing such hot and smoky things may give way to fantacies,which will be cheating on me mentally if not physically.I did assure him that we will see together,but it seems that he is addicted to it .Now i really have doubts about my own train of thoughts,was I right,keeping in view I come from culturally developed conservative family and mens' wandering mind.I want both males and especially females to answer my dilemma.

Answer 1

In my opinion, watching **** is cheating mentally. I mean, how would you like your future husband gawking over a number of girls. If he really loves you, he should be happy with you and you alone, no one else. **** is no way of having intimacy between couples. Often, it will cause the man/woman to lust after the individuals starring in the ****.

When you get married to him, will he still continue his **** addiction? What if you have kids? Think about it. Will they feel comfortable while their father is constantly watching **** and lusting after other women besides loving his wife?

I am not saying that you should break up with this guy, but rather asking you to consider with him your future, your family, your life. Marriage is serious, but lately, people are getting divorced a lot. Divorce is not very simple. In fact, it causes a lot of mental anxiety to a person and will hurt. A lot. Loving someone is caring for them, wanting what is best for them. I suggest you talk to him, since he's engaged to you already. Tell him how you feel and don't confront him with accusation in mind, this will end up in quarrels and heart-break. Take things peacefully.

I am a daughter, and I would be greatly hurt to see my father fantasizing over some girls instead of being true to my mother and loving her, and only her. I wouldn't want to have a husband who would break my heart, break my family, and ruin my life every time he feasts his eyes on some other woman.

Just because he's not attached to her, doesn't mean he's not cheating on you. Watching **** spoils his entire body and allows him to compromise with your relationship with him. Good luck. Hope this helps.

Answer 2

It might not be the girls exactly, but just to see people having sex (often harder or more varied than usual) can be very arousing. Maybe he has a libido that you just can't satisfy? I hope this doesn't lead to something worse down the road. I wouldn't cheat - **** is just fantasy observation - but I can't speak for him of course. It's great that you do have sex with him all the time and do everything he wants. I mean, most guys would love to have a girl like you around and I doubt I'd be sneaking off to whack it if I was in bed with you! You've seen the phone history, which isn't a good sign for either. He's watched lots of ****, yes, but you've sneaked around to check that he has. Neither is good from building trust, and not a great thing to bring up in a fight. But whatever happens, I wish you two the best and maybe he'll get bored of phone **** on a teeny tiny screen.

Answer 3

Dear Pearl
you have raise good question.
First of all Iwould like to clarify one thing that watching **** movie / snaps is not cheating, and not meant to being attracted to some one. You think... if he is watching these things, it means he watching both men and women. There is nothing wrong, most of the person do the same after and before merriage.
I would like to add one thing that "sex" word on the net is the maximum search by Indian towards the world.
If he is watching it never means he will not made u satisfy or will give you up after merriage, let do him what he want, it is the secret of merriage life. If u will care him, he will remain the same. I am damn sure that after merriage he will not keep watching regularly.
Be relax.......... think better............. don't engaged yr mind in these stupid things.

Answer 4

I understand how u feel. I can understand ur views and agree with them. But this is a point of which I disagree. I don't think him watching **** alone is bad. I figure, he's gotta do something, because if he's allowed to do nothing, he'll break free and physically cheat. Some say this is a gateway to cheating as he will push the envelope, some say if he goes to gentemen's clubs, i'ts ok. But I have my views and i stick to them. I know I don;t think about sex as much as men, so if **** helps alleviate it, let it be. Then when he needs flesh, he's got me. In this way, I feel I'll keep him at bay, but if not he'll stray. IT's like parents not letting their kids do anything..if this is the case, most will rebel. But if u let them do some things, the rebelling won't be so much or non-existant. HOpefully adults know better, and use more judgement.

Answer 5

Lots of people will tell you watching **** is not a problem. I believe anything is a problem when one of you thinks it is. If he can't cut back enough to make you happy or stop altogether, then you need to reevaluate the relationship. He will not stop, mainly because most guys don't see anything wrong with it. They don't see how it affects the relationship emotionally. If he watches **** at home and you can account for his time, then at least it is not leading to him cheating or seeing a prostitute. You need to ask yourself honestly if you can live with this problem. It will not go away.

Answer 6

Pearl D, please don't marry him ......... As you would disturb him in his life. Everyone needs privacy and watching **** is everyone guys wish.

If a girl watches it, even she would love it. However it depends on what quality you watch.

IF YOU MAKE LIFE COMPLECATED BY PUTTING LOTS OF INSTRUCTIONS OR CONDITIONS YOU WILL ONLY SPOIL THE MARRIAGE LIFE

marriage is where when you come to know he likes watching it, watch it along with him or give him privacy to watch it. Also mention to him that this habit of his should not take the time he has for you.

As long as he loves you and takes care of you, you should not worry about he watching it.

Answer 7

Hi,

This is not called cheating this is abnormal sexual behaviour may not only be socially inappropriate, but also offensive or injurious to the self and to others. Some of these include – exhibitionism, voyeurism, bestiality, fetishism, sodomy, sadism and masochism.

The various types of such behaviours are

Voyeurism – is the derivation of sexual pleasure by watching another person undress or perform sexual intercourse. The individual usually masturbates while watching the sex act. These persons are usually unable to maintain normal sexual relations due to impotence

Exhibitionism – is a deliberate sexual urge in a person to expose his genitals to others in public to obtain sexual pleasure. The person’s thoughts are dominated by fantasies of exposing himself to others. It is more commonly seen in males who often expose themselves before children or women. The most common cause of the disorder is a social or psychological impairment in the individual. In India, this act is punishable by law with imprisonment upto 3 months and a fine.


Fetishism – is an obsession with non-living objects like women’s garments, which provides sexual satisfaction. These things do not normally have any sexual influence on the mind. A fetish can also be associated with any part of the body. For example, a person with foot fetishism may get sexually excited by looking at another person’s feet. This disorder is due to faulty associations of neutral objects with sexually stimulating thoughts.


Frotteurism – it is the urge to rub against or establish physical contact with a non-consenting individual to obtain sexual pleasure. Many such people are unable to have normal sexual relations due to impotence.


Bestiality – sexual intercourse between a human and an animal is called bestiality. Most acts of bestiality take place with people who are in close contact with domesticated animals on farms etc. This is a crime punishable by law.

Sadism and Masochism - these are sexual fantasies involving the use of force in order to obtain sexual satisfaction. A sadist derives sexual pleasure by physically hurting his sexual partner. A masochist, on the contrary, derives sexual satisfaction by being beaten, hurt or made to suffer.


Most sexually aberrant behaviour is not diagnosed till it is brought to notice usually by the relatives of the victim. Since this behaviour is also a crime.
The diagnosis is made by a psychiatrist or a psychologist after conducting a series of psychological tests.

The treatment

Psycho-sexual disorders like the above are treated with the help of psychiatric methods over a period of time. They cannot be treated with one specific medication since they are not diseases. They are mental conditions which need a thorough background research and consistent follow-up by the doctor.

Answer 8

I am able to understand what you feel

but let me ask you some questions: in which you will get all the answers

do you think watching porns are really bad ?
are you feeling that he would go for some one else ?
do you think you are not able to satisfy your man ?

watching porns dont make any one cheat.
you watch together and get away with the wrong feeling...

Answer 9

All males are so. Pandas in Chinese zoos,were initially reluctant to procreate, until they were shown panda ****. You need not worry for that. But keep the pressure on him not to watch, and try to see it together to stop him from musterbating while watching.

Answer 10

I personally would'nt like my hubby watching them,these days they're just based on smut anyway,too overrated,but yeh,i do think it's like a cheating mentally thing,i mean,he's not exactly getting hot over watching some guy is he????