Does anyone else feel this way?

Question

Me and my parents are not close anymore. It use to be weird how close we use to be, but no longer. Trust me, it's not that i've changed, it's that i've realized the truth more or less about them, i just don't feel close enough to them to talk about anything. Like this guy i want to date, i cant even mention him to my mother. Because i know she'll just judge me, laugh and say no. Does anyone have this "broken" relationship. I kinda feel very alone when im around them..

Answer 1

i'm a parent to 3 boy's my oldest one is 14. he talk's to me about every thing as he alwayl's has. but now that he's getting older sometime's i feel uncomfortable with some of the thing's he say's or ask's. i dont know how to respond so saddly enough i do shrug the his question's off. or i have a nervous smile on my face which he interperates as me laughing at him. not true at all.

parent's get uncomfortalbe too. and we also know that children go through multiple stages of growth of maturity. it's hard to keep up with the fast changes. when i get use to one way of his change just when i adapt to it he moves on to something else entirely.

this could be going on with your parent's. maybe they are just having a hard time relating to you and are nervouse around you as well as you feel uncomfortable around them.

the best thing is, is that you have parent's that care about you. if all of your were close before it's because they love you very deeply. i think you should take your mom aside. dad's have a really really really hard time hearing that their daughter is dating or other topic's like that. so talk to your mom. tell her how you feel. be open and honest.

ask your mom if you and she can have a girls day out. then lay it on her then. be precise. dont leave anything out even if she feel's uncomfortalbe. she will be greatful that you felt comfprtable going to her. parent's love this why? because it's a sign that we are doing something right.

good luck

Answer 2

I know the feel. I've eventually said goodbye to my mother because she kept putting me down, and I'm still trying to do the same with my dad. The rest of the family has no interest in me what so ever and I not in them. there is just no trust or any base for equal contact. There is nothing I can do about that. It is not fun to feel alone among family, but I found that I choose my own family now. and it works. It is very possible to meet friends in life who become your substitute family. and those relationships are often way better. In the end it is better, to me, to be alone than with family who make me feel bad. It is tough you can't tell your mother and be happy about it together... I know I've wished for friendly family a lot.... but you can find others who will be happy for you when you tell them stuff like that. ;-) [e-mail] mail if you feel like it. ;-)

Answer 3

It's about time that you and your parents find an opportunity to sit down and have an intimate, open-mind conversation about what you feel about each other. Try that over the thanksgiving holiday. Give yourself a pat on the back if you can break the ice.

Ace =)

Answer 4

i know exactly how you feel. my dad died when i was 12 and my mother and i drifted apart. it got so bad that i left home at 17 to live my own life. i haven't spoken to her in 14 years, not even at my aunt's(her sister's)funeral. i just didn't feel the need or even want to, because i didn't want her to start with her bs

Answer 5

That's pretty much my relationship with everyone. Everyone is always judging me.

Answer 6

You forgot to mention what age you are.

Answer 7

that is very upsetting but i think it will get better as you get older and we have the same name!

Answer 8

thats sad...i don't have that with my mother but with my father now that their divorced

Answer 9

NO SORRY.