i love my boyfriend and i love being around him but its not the same being with him like before ive been with him for 11 years and when we go out or when i go to his house we are always arguing we dont get along anymore and i dont know if its time to move on with my life or work things out cause i relly love him but i guess things change righ
2007-09-06 21:17:52 · 6 answers · asked by true hurts 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should have a heart to heart chat with him. 11 years is a long time to be with someone and break it off for some argument that isn't even worth it. whatever it is, if you've seen the movie "premonition" with sandra bullock, it's gonna make you love him even more and you will want to fix whatever it is that you are fighting about. Life is too short to waste time arguing. Hey maybe you could make him watch it with you.
2007-09-06 21:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Loving.You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, things do change in all relationships, and after 11 years together, you can't expect it to be all wine and roses all the time. But you say you really love him, so surely it's worth putting some effort in and trying to discover in talking with him how you can work together to improve things, and eliminate some of the arguments?
Just talk to him, and if you then feel you are no further forward and that you can't resolve the situation, you'd be wise to consider seriously that moving on might be for the best.
wimsey
2007-09-07 05:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with both the answers above me.
11 years IS a long time, and you both should have a very serious conversation about what is going on. Talk about what exactly it is that you two are arguing about. Come up with solutions. Are you both around each other too much? Go out with your girls...go shopping...make it so when you guys DO see each other, you look forward to it!
:)
2007-09-07 04:39:36 · answer #3 · answered by Leia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been doing a lot of reading! Self Help/Relationship books. Men women differences, relationships, committment fears, etc. It has helped me in alot of areas in life. I think you should do what you can to educate yourself in trying to find the real issues, try to work it out. If you move on, you'll probably end up in another relationship having the same problems. Hope this helps.
2007-09-07 04:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysinhoth2o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to see you waste 11 years of your lives. have you discussed this? You may even want to seek couples counseling. It is not easy to move on after 11 years. Believe me, I had to do it after 12 years, and I never want to experience that again!!!
2007-09-07 04:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gal before you u let it go have you try discussing this with your boyfriend,if not i think u should sit down with your man and tell him how you fell about this maybe he fell the same way as you but he just too scared to come first.talk to him dont let your 11years you spent together being a waste of time.good luck gal
2007-09-07 04:56:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋