2007-09-06 20:02:37 · 18 answers · asked by elizabeth o 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
that, my dear, depends on the child's temperament and up bringing.
2007-09-07 05:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by VENOM! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I happen to agree with some of the posters. There is no discipline in the house. When it was decided that spankings was wrong, it did a big disservice to the children. Now they are saying that time outs are too traumatic for children. I was spanked as a child and grew up with respect, morals and values. There was so sort of structure.
Now I am the mother of a 16 year old with one on the way. My son has been nothing but a source of joy and blessings for us. He is a wonderful child with respect for adults and morals. This is because we never tried to be his buddy. He has buddies, he needed parents. We have always had structure and never tolerated disrespect in any fashion. We reward good behavior and we are quick to correct bad behavior.
Another problem is parents do not provide a united front. One parent says yes the other one says no and the child is doing whatever they want while the parents are arguing. Even if a parent disagrees, they should never allow the child to know.
My son has a friend that stops over from time to time. He disrespects his parents and cusses them and they allow it. He tried that garbage with me and my husband when we told him something. It took my husband to let him know that we are adults and we do not play games with children. Well he did not say it so nicely. The young man comes over here from time to time, and it is always yes ma'am and no ma'am and yes sir and no sir. He gives us the respect that he does not even give his own parents! Every child needs and wants discipline. It is our job as parents to give them structure.
If I ever caught my son posting some of the garbage that kids post on this site. It would be hell to pay. We monitor his yahoo answers account. He posts stuff like is Jessica Alba good looking and who sings what song. He hates this category and has often times said, Mom, they make all teenagers look really bad."
Parents need to get some nerve and control their kids and demand the best from them instead of being so passive. Everything is not okay.
2007-09-07 00:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by 2fine4u 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are angry and rude because they are not children anymore. They have no boundaries, no discipline, and no consequences for their behavior. When parents were made to feel ashamed or scared to actually parent their children we created a generation of confused children who are left to their own devices and treated like mini adults without any preparation or lessons in true maturity and responsibility. These children have no concept of what true respect and self esteem are. We have engineered a lord of the flies mentality and it is quickly biting us in the a**.
2007-09-06 20:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Wolfen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's honestly largely connected with parenting. Kids who don't feel loved or receive enough attention tend to act rude or obnoxious. Similar connections can be made to other "defects" you seem to see in kids. All people are born with sinful natures, and in children, parenting and family play a role so much more massive than most people realize in whether they indulge this nature or not. How your parents raised and treated you has caused you to turn out to be who you are today, although we all try to deny it. Environment in general impacts who we are, and guess with whom we spend our lives till we're 18? Some people are citing discipline as the cause, and while that's a big factor, it's not the whole picture. A household built on simply discipline and authoritativeness will yield hurt children.
2007-09-07 11:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When parents decided that they would be thier childrens 'friends'.
A child will find and choose their own friends - the choice of parents is made for them for a very good reason.
Until there is a level of maturity the brain of a child is incapable of making choices that will actually be good for them - as opposed to making choices that feel good.
The moment that a parent does not want to do anything that will make them unpopular with their offspring - they lose the element of leadership. And with that goes respect.
2007-09-06 20:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
what are they watching on Tv. and how do their friends act? they might be getting their bad manners in school and think its cool to be rude. Also, do you take them to task whenever they misbehave? They will continue to be angry and rude until they get to become adults if they think they can get away with it.
2007-09-06 20:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sweeney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor parenting by parents who think children should be free to make their own decisions.
2007-09-10 12:53:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have not yet developed manners. But I also blame the parents for their mannerisms except for children who have adhd.
2007-09-07 19:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got 3 girls aged 7 9 10 my 10 year old is terrible so u are not alone how old r your kids
2007-09-06 20:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probaly because our overmilitant SRS people have made anyone scared to actually discipline their children.
2007-09-06 20:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Old Wise One 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Because their parents are not teaching them politeness and good manners because they too were not taught it as children either.
2007-09-06 20:30:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋